Is sex only for two people who love each other?

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31 Aug 2010, 9:42 pm

Pistonhead wrote:

What conclusion could you draw from interrogating people about the deeper meaning of their posted pictures?

edit: i forgot it is important to ignore trollish behaviour. my bad!

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31 Aug 2010, 9:44 pm

Maybe it's better that you shouldn't question a question because a question only desires answers not further questions?

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31 Aug 2010, 9:54 pm

hyperlexian wrote:

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billsmithglendale wrote:

Funny how the male vote is overwhelmingly no

My rationale -- not everyone you want to have sex with is a personality fit, but sometimes genes and biology override rational thinking. I've had sex with people I didn't love. Maybe I felt lust, maybe I felt nothing, but all that was important in that moment was for both of us to have fun and enjoy ourselves.

Well I don't know what the ratio was when you took the test but the results right now show that men and women have the same beliefs on this one. Its funny how people will use evidence to confirm their stereotypical view of things when in fact the evidence show the contrary to be true.

this is a non-scientific poll, and not exactly evidence.

it's true that the majority of opinions, of the people on WP, who chose to vote in this poll, points to the majority thinking that sex and love do not have to be connected. it isn't evidence, it's an opinion poll with very limited choices.

the poll didn't ask what people want for themselves, it asked a very specific question about whether sex is only for two people who are in love. it excludes so many other possibilities, and forces people into a corner. perhaps a better question would be which situation people generally prefer if they had the choice.

what conclusion could you draw from this poll?

Oh hyperlexian as usual you are hyper smart and hyper not getting it. The question was about what people valued. Its not about what people personal preferences are but about what they believe.

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31 Aug 2010, 10:04 pm

Uh, no. That whole... repression thing... seems really unhealthy for society, offends my sensibilities, and makes me just a tad queasy and a tad angry every time I think of it. Sex is just a biological function. It seems to me it's more enjoyable with someone you love, and the last time I had sex was with someone I loved, and I want it to keep getting better, so therefore I conclude I should probably wait to have sex again 'till my next love comes along, but bah... when opportunity knocks, who am I to refuse it?

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31 Aug 2010, 10:27 pm

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Oh hyperlexian as usual you are hyper smart and hyper not getting it. The question was about what people valued. Its not about what people personal preferences are but about what they believe.

She seems to be getting it just fine. This is a poll on a relatively unknown forum. The people that actually decide to vote on it are more likely to be open about sex and believe it is separate from love.

Basically, this poll is not evidence of any kind of mindset unless you are talking about just the people that voted.

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31 Aug 2010, 10:46 pm

Johnisblind, let me ask you this anyway, what's your obsession with hearing what other people think about sex? You almost sound in these threads like you're doing some sort of research paper.

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31 Aug 2010, 10:58 pm

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Repression is more than just unhealthy. A failure to see truth is always a failure to see some ethical short coming in ourselves.

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31 Aug 2010, 11:04 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

JohnisBlind wrote:

hyperlexian wrote:

Oh hyperlexian as usual you are hyper smart and hyper not getting it. The question was about what people valued. Its not about what people personal preferences are but about what they believe.

You are kind of right. I try even though I know I will fail. Its better than asking the question in the adult forum.

I think its still fair to say that the majority of people don't believe that sex is only for people who love each other.

I was trying to figure out how this guys reaction to craig's mom was as actually as supported as he seemed to think.

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01 Sep 2010, 2:27 am

I believe it to be so, but then again, I'm Catholic, so it's probably expected.

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01 Sep 2010, 2:31 am

Aye the priests seem to be full of love for the children

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01 Sep 2010, 7:07 am

JohnisBlind wrote:

but... the poster did not claim that his answer was supported by lots of people. he stated that it was due to his own moral code. unless you only offered a portion of the original text. from your OP, this is what the answerer stated:

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I’m going to give an answer she was not hoping for but I feel that due to my moral code its the answer I’m going to have to give. Sex is for two people who deeply love each other, and it involves a lot of risks (STD’s, pregnancy, being seen naked, etc) and requires a lot of trust between both partners. Sex is not something that should be used as a fling to meet an ‘itch’. I really think you should help your son pursue meaningful relationships – not pursue sex. Teaching him to pursue sex will give him the wrong idea about relationships, about woman and could damage him and future relationship possibilities even more.

Now I’m sure your saying, “My son can’t have relationships.” Yes, your son can – many other people with Aspergers have great and happy relationships. It takes a bit of work and someone special as a partner – but its worth it. I know this from experience.

if you want to know what our moral codes actually are here on WP, i think we need more choices. just because approximately 75% of people, on this specific poll, on WP, may disagree does not make the answerer wrong, as he was speaking about his own beliefs.

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01 Sep 2010, 8:20 am

I think sex is only for married couples.

That said, I'm not perfect, either. In my latter university days, I had the pleasure of an especially tasty, young undergrad who very well just might have been the last virgin on that campus. We had a wonderful relationship and thoroughly enjoyed each other during that time.

When I came back home, I ended up resuming a relationship with my best friend from my own undergrad days. She was in the process of finishing her own degree, so I treasured all those weekend visits. Circumstances were such that we couldn't get married, and it's frustrating being caught in a situation where you feel you ought to do the right thing in keeping sex within marriage, but marriage is impossible for whatever reason. But we eventually DID get married, so the point is moot now.

All that to say that yes, I do (as I always have) believe that sex is reserved for monogamous married relationships; I also recognize the difficulty and failures of waiting.

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01 Sep 2010, 10:29 am

I don't think it is totally, although I think it would probably be a lot better that way, and it's obviously less risky.

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01 Sep 2010, 10:30 am

I think it should be, but it doesn't seem to have to be.

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01 Sep 2010, 10:39 am

what i'm perceiving from some of these comments is that there is a great deal of grey area. we each have an ideal of how we want things to be (for ourselves, or for others, or both), and we have the reality of what happens in real life situations. i think people's opinions might even vary over a lifetime?

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01 Sep 2010, 11:17 am

foreveryoung wrote:

I admittedly have no tact, especially online. I've told my friends online that I think they're girlfriends are unattractive and asked them what they were doing with them. I'm not perfect and I'm not a nice person.

Yes, well, you have to keep those not-so-nice-opinions to yourself. It is the forum rules. Got it?

The things we are born with are off limits for criticism and snide remarks.

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