how important are looks to you in a partner?

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There are alot of single guys on here, does that make us duds?

When I see "beautiful" and "well groomed" women either in magazines or real life, I would run a mile.

You know, those snooty arrogant looking b*****s. (Why do both male and female models in magazines look angry?)

Who would want a "high maintenance" bimbo like that?

Give me the sweet "girl next door" type any day as long as she doesn't actually look like a troll.

one can not judge a person by their body

+1

uh oh...

ahhh.... ya so weak.
it seems to me that most males here are completely subordinate to females. it is like females have the last word on everything.

it is like some males come in to this site all trembling with desire, and with a raft of apologies memorized to say if the girl is disinterested in them because they see girls as so superior to themselves and they want to save their face from the molestation of rejection.

i could not give a damn about what any girl says about me. i really could not, and every day i live, the sun shines, and it shines upon me no less than anyone else.

what i am trying to say is that no matter how you see yourself, you are as deserved of the suns rays as anything else in the solar system.

feel as important as you are.

feel important and you will spend your energy in a way that is productive and when you awaken into the next day of the product of your eagerness, you will be happy you did not squander your energy the day before.

sleep is paramount however and i am going to sample some right now.

Did you really think such a crude, offensive mass generalization would go unnoticed?

Just for the record, many of us unattractive single "duds" are actually quite nice, if you choose to date attractive sociopaths then consider yourself a volunteer, not a victim...

- Grisha the "dud"

hold on, i never called anyone a dud - nor thought anyone was at all!

any anyway - i think she was talking about the a**holes who beat women, but what do i know.

it is sad that you are a dud. it is a surprise to me that you are a dud. i did not really notice before,
but i believe what you say when you claim that you are a dud because i respect your judgement.

dud's do not last for long in a position of affection though. that is one happy lesson to consider that most people would have to pay thousands to learn..

good night all.

Whoa whoa, that's not what hale_bopp was saying at all. She was saying that good ones are already taken and the rest of us women get duds. That's not to say that all the single dudes in here are duds. I think she was referring to men that frequent the dating scene or take an assertive role in that department. You may be on the dating scene but if you're not confident, we see that and we assume that you aren't interested in meeting someone, even though you might be.

There are lots of guys out there so we can't take the time to pay attention to every single one at a particular establishment, otherwise we would never get home. Basically, you kind of go under our radar until you assert yourself. It's nothing personal, really.

I hope this helps clear stuff up. If I end up pissing you guys off, I'm sorry for not being able to communicate my point properly. >.<

Actually, she was saying that "all of the good [men] are taken" with the remainder being "duds" who treat women like sh*t.

Read it again, it's indefensible.

I have nothing more to say on the matter.

If you don't treat women like crap, you're not a dud.

I doubt she meant it seriously tbh... the wail of "all the good men are taken!" is actually a fairly common one, and most people I know who say it are aware that it's not true. It's just the good ones are sometimes very elusive.

Also - you're not actually unattractive so there's no point in you claiming that you are.

That's really sweet of you to say, I feel better already!

@Erisad, Emlion, Hale_Bopp:

Sorry, lately I've been feeling kind of sensitive about being single for some reason...

Looks are very important for me. I don't want to be embarassed by looks or behavior. I can't date guys thinner than me, I just might crush the poor thing. Nor can I date someone larger than me.

Do you think this is a common sentiment? I'm tall (a little over 6') but quite thin, most women outweigh me, especially these days in the US. I wonder if this is an unspoken "deal-breaker" that's giving me problems?