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18 Mar 2011, 11:35 pm

OK, I am struggling with at least as much of the same problems as most of the guys here, and I'm not about to make any claims about being smarter or wiser. However, there is a piece of wisdom that life has taught me the hard way, and I will share it:

Fact: In the end, neither sex has it "better". They just have it "different". PERIOD.

Look, all of us guys are more than enough familiar with how much easier women seem to have it over all when it comes to finding a mate. It is hard to escape falling into the trap of feeling this way, for plenty of good reasons. One of them being that, in fact, women DO have it easier in some ways. However, the fact that many don't look at too closely is the fact that men have it easier in other ways. It all equals out. We just have it different. For those of you who are now thinking "true, true, but women have it easier in the more important ways", think about this: Would you rather continue to deal with the unquestioningly maddening and unfair state of men typically being in the position of having to do all the work and assume all the risk of rejection and hurt, or would you rather trade it for something that women have to deal with - like living in a world that teaches everyone that only one body type (and not even a common one, at that) can ever be truly sexy, putting you in a constant sate of unhappiness about your appearance and not feeling sexy enough, and having to fend off the danger of falling into the types of thinking that cause eating disorders and countless other things that plague large percentages of women. Or perhaps you'd prefer to trade it for the unshakable double standards forever imposed on women?

The grass always looks greener, guys. It's one of life's primary illusions, and it's ultimately always debunked.

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19 Mar 2011, 2:08 am

stargazing wrote:

Fact: In the end, neither sex has it "better". They just have it "different". PERIOD.

'Zactly!

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19 Mar 2011, 3:03 am

Bethie wrote:

maybe it's because women, when rejected, examine themselves critically and change,
whereas men, when rejected, examine their income/Aspergers/living situation, conclude women are shallow Aspie-hating gold-diggers,
and forever after wallow in self-pity and misogyny rather than endure what to their fragile egos would be a crushing blow.
That's my working hypothesis.

So true!

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19 Mar 2011, 3:11 am

Nathalie wrote:

Bethie wrote:

So true!

Have to agree personally. There is one common denominator in all the rejections. Them.

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19 Mar 2011, 3:13 am

Bethie wrote:

Can you say hypocrite? :roll:

You complain about men generalizing about women, and then you go and do the same thing!

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19 Mar 2011, 3:20 am

hill-o-beans wrote:

true, but most women don't want a hungry rat inserted in them, like he did in the book American Psycho.

Have you met Emlion yet? I hear she takes a rat along with her on a first date. Just in case.

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19 Mar 2011, 3:23 am

oh no, it will be just like the in the novel, except in my bum.

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19 Mar 2011, 3:24 am

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. I curiously tend to wonder under what conditions would a woman have to be to not be able to land a relationship?

Well corpses still get f****d and i believe thats usually a male f*****g a female corpse thing rather than the other way round. :lol:

Not sure if that counts as a date or not though? Sounds like more of a casual thing to me.

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19 Mar 2011, 3:40 am

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Here's food for thought: When I go to the county mental health clinic to receive my meds, there are people there covering the full spectrum of mental health disorders. There were a few women sitting there waiting for their meds, saying something like, "If I had been treated for my Bipolar Disorder sooner, think of all the relationships of mine that wouldn't have been wrecked." Another guy and myself, who heard the comment out loud both said to each other, at least she had a relationship in the first place.

It never fails, no matter what mental health state the women who go there are, they still seem to manage to have a husband, boyfriend or fiancee. I can't help myself but get a little jealous of their relationship success despite their adversity. I curiously tend to wonder under what conditions would a woman have to be to not be able to land a relationship?

Overweight? Ugliness?

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19 Mar 2011, 3:47 am

Loads of guys dig fat chicks. Ugly women can just f**k ugly men and vice versa.

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19 Mar 2011, 4:00 am

jamieboy wrote:

Loads of guys dig fat chicks. Ugly women can just f**k ugly men and vice versa.

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19 Mar 2011, 4:09 am

Mass generalisations FTW

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19 Mar 2011, 4:17 am

hale_bopp wrote:

jamieboy wrote:

Loads of guys dig fat chicks. Ugly women can just f**k ugly men and vice versa.

What's wrong with it?

Edit: I wasn't saying that fat women are ugly. I don't think that at all.

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19 Mar 2011, 10:22 am

Dreaming of a world where men and women could all just get along and be equal... this topic proves we've still got a long, long way to go.

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19 Mar 2011, 8:54 pm

Nathalie wrote:

Dreaming of a world where men and women could all just get along and be equal... this topic proves we've still got a long, long way to go.

its a nice idea but then again its just that: idealism. but anyway, men and women won't ever be the same because the hormonal functions simply aren't the same.

isn't it more important that both sexes accept their differences??

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19 Mar 2011, 9:34 pm

harry_j_83 wrote:

Nathalie wrote:

Dreaming of a world where men and women could all just get along and be equal... this topic proves we've still got a long, long way to go.

Isn't that kind of the point? The guys would just like to make use of our differences more often...

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