Question for those who don't fit the 'perfect' woman

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I don't.

I'm just being honest. I am not "curvy" I have fat in the wrong places, and its no-ones fault I am fat except mine, and its also noones fault I don't have the body shape I like.

I would have surgery if I could afford it though. I'd get a lot of fat removed from around my middle.

I DREAM about having some of the fat sucked out of me....

Your face seems pretty from what I've seen and I'm not a libidinous person by any means... make of that what you will. Why not focus on your better features? Nobody is perfect.

I agree. We all have things we don't like about ourselves. It's when we decide to define ourselves by those flaws that we come across problems.

Everyone has good qualities, too.

u never know what a guy wd want guys are awesome that way, some will like u just the way u are you just have to find the right one/

Yes I am drunk and yes I also haven't find the right one, who appreciated my lack of grammar when drunk, my excess fat and my party girl personality which will embarrass some people, and my hypersenses.

werlll i saw you on You tube recently when you talked about cats and I thought u looked very nice, from a female point of view. U dont need plastic surgery you look good.

I know what you mean, my former co-workers use to tease me for being inshape everywhere except my gut. I walk everywhere up to 2-5 miles a day so my legs and butt are firm but my belly looks pregnate. They were trying to make me join a gym because they were afraid I would get diabetes so one of my co-workers had his pregnate wife come in to stand next to me so they could take a photo of me next to her. I could not believe I how close I was to being as round in the center as her. Her husband is the same height and build as me and he joined a gym and was looking for someone to go with but for some reason I chickened out. Now I have diabetes so I should have went with him.

I believe the following is what is required

A self esteem

A sense of self

Some kind of spine

Quit being wrong planet's number one emo. She's like a blonde version of Robert Smith with all her whinny moaning



Well, i'm convinced, get your coat love you've pulled

Stomach fat is the worst type of fat you can have. I am prone to sugar problems etc and should be excersising for my health not my looks.

Hope everything is going ok for you.

Everyone should be exercising for their health. Were still the same animal that was running after gazelle's on the african savannah. Running is kinda what we are mean't to do. Amongst other acts of homeostatis

Agreed!

I'll keep my own body, thanks!

All of these people saying they want someone else's body haven't stopped to realise that would involve also having someone else's brain. We're talking a complete trade here. Unless what you mean is "I want my body to look more like hers" in which case, kindly say what you mean!

Hale_bop, I think most people have cellulite and stuff. You've just listed a bunch of things you don't like about yourself. How about listing the good stuff?

If any of the bad points are improvable, improve them. If not, ignore them. Maybe some guy will like them, anyway! P

You DON'T want to do that. Believe me.

I worked with a lady who decided to have lypo to get rid of baby weight. She complained that she'd tried every diet, and none of them had worked. (Bizarrly, she announced this to us while she was stuffing a do-nut into her mouth in the staff canteen. Yes, really. A do-nut. I couldn't help laughing, and she glared at me indignantly and asked me what was so funny. I pointed out "em, well, you're eating a do-nut." She angrily yelled at me that "everyone eats do-nuts for breakfast." I laughed all day, in a sad sort of way, feeling really sorry for her).

So, anyway, based on having witnessed this lady's experience, there are several problems with lypo:

1. IT HURTS. She had naively assumed it would be pain-free and hadn't booked any time off work to recover. She staggered back into the office nearly fainting and had to be lowered into her seat. She showed us her tummy and it looked like someone had beaten her black and blue with a crowbar. It was one of the most awful sights I've ever seen. It was terribly swollen and didn't even look any slimmer.

2. THE FAT WILL COME BACK. If you're the sort of person who eats do-nuts fot breakfast every day, the fat will just pile itself back on, anyway, so there's not really any point in paying some surgeon to make you black and blue. You may think: "oh, but once I've had the surgery, I'll go on a diet." Well, if you truly have the willpower to diet, why not do it BEFORE the darn surgery, INSTEAD of the darn surgery, and save yourself some agony and $$$$$?

That's my opinion of lypo. It should only be used in patients who are extremely obese.

That was so uncalled for.

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That was the male human's lifestyle, not the female's , that's why men are less likely to develop excess of fat around tights , legs and the hip because those are used in running , but are more likely to gather fat on the tummy.

Sure, females inherited some of those evolved traits from their fathers that's why women can be good runners too,hence the keyword 'likely'.

I'm always never sure what would be the best term to describe a woman who is overweight.There is curvy, there is overweight, there is the vulgar "fat", or heavy, but my favorite would be BBW, or Big Beautiful Woman. And it's a very sensitive issue among women. If I were to compliment an overweight women, I'd do it in the same way I'd compliment any women and not reference or mention her weight. One girl who I worked with knew I liked overweight women and I'd compliment her all the time, and on occasion the compliment would reference her weight, but she didn't really care and took it as a compliment. She was an exception to the rule in that she wasn't really ashamed about her weight.

A lot of women are not happy with their bodies because of their weight. They think that being "overweight" makes them ugly or less attractive than if they weren't. I never would have thought Aspie women felt this strongly about it too, or at least the Aspie women on this thread. I guess it's just a general woman thing. As an Aspie, I take great pride in who I am. I know I'm different, but I'm proud of that. I also know that I don't look like Brad Pitt, but I'm not too concerned about it, and feel that if someone doesn't accept me for who I am, then they are not worth it. I said in another thread, that it's important to have a positive image of yourself and who you are. Be proud of who you are and the gifts and talents you have.

I also never understood why women always would exaggerate their size, like complaining how their ass is the size of a city bus, but in reality it's not. I suppose that's a woman thing too.

Allow me to enlighten you.

There are three possibilities:

1. They are hoping someone will contradict them. This is called "fishing for compliments." I hate people doing this to me. They make a negative statement, saying "I'm so fat / ugly" when they know perfectly well they're not, and then look at me sadly, fluttering their eyelashes, trying to manipulate me (or anyone else) into rushing over to tell them how beautiful they are. People who fall into this category are generally beautiful, and not fat at all. They're the kind who want people to be fawning around them all the time.

2. They are making a literal statement. They are aware that they are fat and are merely stating a fact. "My bum is big" is sometimes just a statement of fact. In my case, it's true!

3. They suffer from a distorted self-image, and genuinely think they are fat when they're not.

This one is kind of worrying.