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29 May 2011, 1:35 pm

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someone who doesn't have a checklist of requirements or preferences.

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29 May 2011, 1:50 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
someone who doesn't have a checklist of requirements or preferences.

:thumright:

it bugs me to think that either:

1. i have to fit someone's preference perfectly, and therefore if they find out more about me or if i change in the slightest i am no longer a good fit. people change, and i would like for a person to be flexible enough to care for me for the long haul

or

2. i must be an exception to the list, which makes me feel like they will never be quite so happy with me. as soon as someone more ideal comes along, i might get tossed out


plus, people are not just sets of attributes, so i think it is the whole person as an entire being that is important.

/rant


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29 May 2011, 2:08 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
someone who doesn't have a checklist of requirements or preferences.

:thumright:

it bugs me to think that either:

1. i have to fit someone's preference perfectly, and therefore if they find out more about me or if i change in the slightest i am no longer a good fit. people change, and i would like for a person to be flexible enough to care for me for the long haul

or

2. i must be an exception to the list, which makes me feel like they will never be quite so happy with me. as soon as someone more ideal comes along, i might get tossed out


plus, people are not just sets of attributes, so i think it is the whole person as an entire being that is important.

/rant

Inflexibility is bad, I concur.


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29 May 2011, 2:35 pm

Something unique, like... I don't know, say, three boobs. :cyclopsani:


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29 May 2011, 2:41 pm

aspie. honest. sincere. loving. humor. nerd. creative. fun.



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29 May 2011, 2:50 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
someone who doesn't have a checklist of requirements or preferences.

:thumright:

it bugs me to think that either:

1. i have to fit someone's preference perfectly, and therefore if they find out more about me or if i change in the slightest i am no longer a good fit. people change, and i would like for a person to be flexible enough to care for me for the long haul

or

2. i must be an exception to the list, which makes me feel like they will never be quite so happy with me. as soon as someone more ideal comes along, i might get tossed out


plus, people are not just sets of attributes, so i think it is the whole person as an entire being that is important.

/rant


Precisely.


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29 May 2011, 3:42 pm

Smart, long (1.80, thereabouts), and understanding. Although I would like an aspie I'm perfectly ok with an NT who doesn't cheat and judge like so many others I've known.



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29 May 2011, 4:04 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
someone who doesn't have a checklist of requirements or preferences.

:thumright:

it bugs me to think that either:

1. i have to fit someone's preference perfectly, and therefore if they find out more about me or if i change in the slightest i am no longer a good fit. people change, and i would like for a person to be flexible enough to care for me for the long haul

or

2. i must be an exception to the list, which makes me feel like they will never be quite so happy with me. as soon as someone more ideal comes along, i might get tossed out


plus, people are not just sets of attributes, so i think it is the whole person as an entire being that is important.

/rant


Very true, hyperlexian, preach on!

If you talked to my husband ten years ago, he'd tell you that he likes sharp-witted high-spirited NY Italian women or bubbly beach bunny blond women. He's fell in love with and married a quiet, sarcastic redhead who likes cloudy days and hates NY. :wink:



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29 May 2011, 4:09 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
someone who doesn't have a checklist of requirements or preferences.

:thumright:

it bugs me to think that either:

1. i have to fit someone's preference perfectly, and therefore if they find out more about me or if i change in the slightest i am no longer a good fit. people change, and i would like for a person to be flexible enough to care for me for the long haul

or

2. i must be an exception to the list, which makes me feel like they will never be quite so happy with me. as soon as someone more ideal comes along, i might get tossed out


plus, people are not just sets of attributes, so i think it is the whole person as an entire being that is important.

/rant


That's why my list isn't really so specific. Pretty much just being honest and accepting of me. *shrug*



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29 May 2011, 4:57 pm

wefunction wrote:
... If you talked to my husband ten years ago, he'd tell you that he likes sharp-witted high-spirited NY Italian women or bubbly beach bunny blond women. He's fell in love with and married a quiet, sarcastic redhead who likes cloudy days and hates NY.
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29 May 2011, 6:15 pm

I once had a much longer list but it just gave fuel to the pretender to be everything I thought I wanted.
I got burned, so that is why pretty much HONESTY is the main and only thing as I know I could find love in worse truths than the ugly lies I've been told.



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29 May 2011, 6:29 pm

Simply someone who will accept me as I am, treat me with understanding and kindness, and take me for days out sometimes.



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29 May 2011, 7:11 pm

A nice pale girl who would tolerate me. Pretty much it.



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29 May 2011, 11:39 pm

Someone who does not live in and create their own fantasy land, someone who doesn't spend their entire life in an insulated bubble.



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30 May 2011, 12:29 am

OhNowIGetIt wrote:
I once had a much longer list but it just gave fuel to the pretender to be everything I thought I wanted.
I got burned, so that is why pretty much HONESTY is the main and only thing as I know I could find love in worse truths than the ugly lies I've been told.


Agreed. And I'd like to add reliability to that (keeping promises, not breaking their word).


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30 May 2011, 2:47 am

Preferably I want to find a guy that:
Has a simular lifestyle...I do drink and such so it would be ideal to have someone I can drink a beer with for instance.
Is not obsessed with sex, I dont really like it so I dont want to do it all the time
They have to like Metal and Psychedelic rock, because I listen to it all the time would want someone to enjoy it with
Looks are not a huge concern, I have to be attracted to them though.
I like band t-shirts or unusual ways of dressing, long hair or longish hair not super short and clean cut though.
So yeah to sum it up someone who is my best friend but more, I dont want to feel like I am competing with them I want to feel like we can enjoy spending time together.