Constant rejection from women is making me suicidal

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There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time.

As cliché as it sounds: QFT.

maybe they pick up on your bad attitude

ha ha ha

I've been single 99.9 percent of my life and it was my own fault so I'm pretty much in the same boat your in dude.
You might want to try some online dating sites or go to a bar and buy a b***h some drinks. Dude I really feel bad for you and I hope you find someone you really like.

When you get a number or contact info don't message them to often becuase it gets annoying.
Be respectful
Be funny
Be nice
Find things in common

If you follow my advice your chances of finding a mate would skyrocket.

The manipulative behavior is about testing your control/power of you in the relaationship (or potential relationship they might be thinking about). Once you understand that's why girls try to manipulate you, you can show control by rejecting their efforts and make your own demands on them, and suddenly, they're attracted to you. It's funny but, hey, it's how women generally work. They're generally attracted to independence, self-control and "power".

Now, if you yield to their demands, they might still use you depending on what they want out of the relationship, but they won't be anymore attracted to "you" because of it.

Learning to identify their "tests" and learning to respond correctly is a part of the learning curve.

It's interesting to see how people see manipulation as a female trait. It isn't.

So I have to play mind games? No thanks.

You're right, it's also a sociopathic trait, lol.

(Seriously, how exactly do males manipulate females? Oh, that's right... pretending to love them and that kind of jazz. And, pretending to be an "attractive guy", belying their actual self. That's seriously not as potent as the manipulative tools that females have at their disposal, though. It doesn't even compare.)

If you don't play mind games, don't cry when you don't have as much success as a player. Players know the game and play it.

As much success as a player? You think that's what I want lol? Quite a straw man you've concocted there.

Who dosen't want to be a player your very silly I have an idea why your not sucessful with woman.

I understand the op completely. Why should we have to play mindgames (which is essentially lying) just to find love, it seems hypocritical, to find somebody to be close with we have to pretend we are something we are not.

I am polite, courteous, sympathetic (where possible) offer to pay for everything, dress well, even sometimes get along really well with the woman in question, but at some point they go cold and I get a message or they tell me they dont want to see me anymore. I understand the OP's outburst, what he said isnt true but I have felt it was true before.

The worst part is not knowing what you've done wrong, what you've said, if you have behaved innapropriately. I have felt suicidal before, partly because of this, unemployment, lack of friends played their part but its a major factor. We all want to be loved and time and time again I see female friends with horrible men who lie, cheat and sometimes hit them, and yet women don't want to be with me?

It just makes no sense and it is very very frustrating!

The psycholgically bully, which is used to make a woman come running back, to make her feel inadequite, to make her feel like she can't get any better, to get her to do what he wants, make her feel bad about a decision she has made, they play hard to get, they intimidate, they make a woman desire him by talking about all the better things he can get, believe me, you don't know what you're talking about. Seriously, you don't. Guys ave nearly made me lop myself I don't know how many times because of their psychological manipulation.

And none of these are from bad boys. Most of them have been computer geeks and video game nerds.

Why don't you find a girl that has asperger's? there are some cute looking asperger girls out there that might be open to you then an NT. I personally have had alot of trouble with NT's.

Agreed. He may not call them all cold hearted manipulative b*****s while he's trying to get in their pants but his mannerisms and even smell will give him away as hating women. Disdain is a turn off sexually.

My advice to him is get a hooker. If you are going to think of women only as potential property you may as well pay for it.