I have never met an Aspie girlie

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I've called it disorder^^^

Psychiatry is all about conventions....you know what I think about it, don't challenge me on the topic, Asperger's will probably disappear from the DSMV in 2013

I draw a line between people who need help and those who don't.

It does not mean that one day I may not cross the line...but so far didn't happen.

Aspergers is not disappearing from the DSM, it is just being translated into autism, as it should, it is not separate from autism so there is no real reason why it should have a special name, it is just milder autism.

I am diagnosed with Asperger's and need help.

Basically, this Society is not really fair to Aspies , truth seems optional here.

So much co-optation needed, so much cheating going on .

Help is needed...your life can be at risk, but you have primarily a social problem, not a "disorder".

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^ Then why do you want aspie girls? Apparently you're too good for them.

With the title of the thread and the beginning posts, it didn't seem like that was what you were saying. You seemed to be saying that the girls you've met so far who are supposedly Asperger's are not true aspies. You seemed to be critical about any girl's status as an aspie, even of those found online whom you have never met and whom cannot therefore draw any veritable conclusions about.

In any case, I think that considering Asperger's to be a personality type is dangerous. In some people, it does seem to manifest like a personality type, in that they can successfully suppress certain aspects of themselves/tweak certain aspects of themselves and manage to get along in the world well by doing so. However, I know numerous adult individuals with Asperger's who present so radically differently and have such a different way of processing the world that it seems unimaginable to have them pass for normal even for a short period of time. In its primary definition, Asperger's is autism with normal verbal development. It is not a personality type because people with Asperger's are supposed to have similar sensory processing, reasoning, and non-verbal expression differences to those with autism. Those are the clinical implications as far as I'm concerned, but how the criteria are applied by professionals in a diagnostic setting varies from professional to professional and is indeed controversial.

I would say "condition" is a better term. Disorder implies deviation from order, i.e. everyone else is proper and those with a disorder deviate from that proper ideal. There is no "proper" in the world - we are all different in different ways, it's just that some differences are more noticeable and pose more barriers in this society than others.

I am not trying to convinced I have a "condition", I have a personality I would not change for anything.
But part of it must be restrained, that's what I do.

I shape my world accordingly, I am lonely but it doesn't bother me, there is no suffering.

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Yet the social aspects are the least disabling part for me. I have a boyfriend. People don't hate me. I do absolutely have social issues, I have had major problems because of the social aspects, but its not "primarily a social problem".

"Primarily a social problem" denies large amounts of my daily struggle, because of the fact that your Asperger's has more minor issues with meltdowns, with sensory overload, and with the need for order.

Yes, AS is intervowen with personality since there are certain personality characteristics that persist among autistic people, but that is not all that there is. The clinical criteria state that you must have "significant impairment" in order to be diagnosed. A certain personality alone, in its within-the-norm human variation, does not cause global impairment. Yes, it may limit you in one way or another, but if it's just a personality difference, it is not supposed to block off major pathways of your life that you wish to take that everyone else can take. If you have more impairing differences than those caused by personality differences alone, you are unable to take some paths in your life because you are unable to change those aspects of yourself that prevent you from doing so, even though you are aware of the consequence of these characteristics and may have even tried to change them.

Definition of personality:

There is no mention of causing impairment in daily life, social, or occupational skills. And yes, it can only be said comparatively. If you isolate yourself so much that all of the areas above are not applicable to your life (I wonder where you would get food and shelter from, though), then you don't have a condition anymore, just a personality. But for people who do need to perform the above skills do experience the significant impairment caused by the condition. And I stress the word "significant" here. It is only a matter of degree.

So the OP is saying that only men have asperger syndrome? I have asperger syndrome its not much easier being a women and having it I struggle with the same social skills as my brother.

Sis you got to stop being so mean okay.

Yeah, coz ya gals are meaniez...

I can hardly see my computer screen, my eyes are watering so much....

You have ruined my life and got me into depression...

My heart of stone is broken.

“When I use a word, it means just what I choose it to mean—neither more nor less.”

“The question is,” said Alice, “whether you can make words mean so many different things.”
“The question is,” said Humpty Dumpty, “which is to be master that’s all.”

I understand from this website that an awful lot of aspie men give up and start to hate women.
I feel so sad for them.
But this is a personal choice, and it is up to them to fix it.
Me? Diagnosed when I was 9, same time my brother was diagnosed autistic.
Had extensive counselling to learn social skills and social norms (NHS in the UK is brilliant for that).
Still socially withdrawn, but can hold and maintain relationships. My extreme obsession stages died down at the age of 15. Still sometimes worry it interferes in love, but since I'm aware of that I try and control it.
Dislike certain fabrics, but not much issues with human touch.
At the moment studying to eventually achieve a PHD in the subject of choice. Very hard to deal with NT males who assume that a cheesy chat up line will make me sway into their arms.
I am attracted almost exclusively to men with autistic traits. Sadly, most of them hate women as they have only tried with NT. It's a depressing world. Make the most of it.
I am an aspie female. If you still continue to make arguments that I am not, you are taking away the identity I have lived my life by and embrace. I know I am. You don't know me.

Think I'm in love.

And what would be the point in meeting one what do you hope to get out of it ? have you not learnt your lessons that nobody can be trusted ?