The hardest thing about being single

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What I miss and haven't had since...well...maybe never, someone I can say silly things to and have them think it's funny, not immature.

Most of all I miss having someone I can trust.

If saying silly things = immature then I'm a perpetual child.

TeaEarlGreyHot... you have always been my favorite person here. Maybe we should start a thread for saying silly things? LOL

I've struggled all my life to look mature and responsible. I gave up and gave in to who I am and wonder all the time if someone would accept me as I am. Maybe that's why I was so unhappy most of my life and now I am quite happy just being with ... me. I like the real me so much better than the "other" me's. IE..the "mom", the "wife", the "worker". Once my kids were able to take care of themselves, I brought them all together and told them I was finally going to be myself and not the person I had been expected to be. Funny thing is, they have all said they like me better now. But I know, they would never have had a decent childhood if I had been this way and they agree. Although I am responsible, I do have a few "proclivities" that would never have been acceptable for a parent (nothing to do with sexual practices or illegal activities).

But, I have yet to try it on a potential mate. Even the person I am seeing now. I don't see him enough or enough hasn't been said for me to know I can feel more myself with him.

Silly things are nice. I'd associate immaturity more with those who are so stuck up about such things. If you can't laugh at yourself or others, or just lighten up in general, you probably won't make it too far without making enemies or running into problems. Not to say those don't still happen, but a lot could be avoided if people weren't so serious all the time.

Its being with a friend I like for a long time but are only friends and she dates other guys that I know are not good people. Then its my time around and soon she is leavng and i dont have much time to get to know her more then making that next step.

The hardest thing is not having a best friend to tell everything.
It's all about the emotional connection with my lover which may never exists.
I am a romantic which makes me never loose hope. I could make a very good lover.

I crave affection and attention from someone.
These sort of threads make me cry. Loneliness consumes me.

I daydream about having a deep intense conversation with my soul mate.
I dream of being held,cuddled and kissed by a very sensitive male.

Guys,

I'm an NT (pretty sure) female and i just went thru 5 years of being single!! !! So don't feel so alone and useless, it can happen to all of us.
Sometimes its worth not compromising to find the right person, lonely or not. I lost my husband (The One, i thought then) to divorce after 5 years of marriage. Since then there has not been anyone I found interesting or on my wavelength.

Of course, now i finally find someone i connect with and he's A.S....lol! So be careful what you wish for. Now I'm faced with the possibility of a support-less relationship when i all i really want is a life partner to share things with. Yet, we have a heart and mind connection i've not found elsewhere.

So, even when you find someone to love, and cuddle and wake with, even later in life, its still not easy.