Women, what do you think of men who are quiet and shy?

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14 Aug 2012, 7:55 pm

I wouldn't want to be around some one that wants to be around some one like me.

Sounds creepy.

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14 Aug 2012, 7:56 pm

I have upon occasion made the first move, but in those cases the guy in question treated me with a little less respect, for some reason. Or assumed that I was fast, or desperate or something. That is why I stopped doing that. I figured that the only way I could tell if someone was interested, was for them to show interest. It is hard enough reading people as it is, anyway. And despite everything, double standards are still alive and well.

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14 Aug 2012, 9:08 pm

hartzofspace wrote:

And despite everything, double standards are still alive and well.

You dont have to necessarily make the first move, but just show them you are interested. Most of the time the men just look for the green light.

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14 Aug 2012, 9:31 pm

WOOOO, lets eep supporting bs practices!

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14 Aug 2012, 9:31 pm

MXH wrote:

WOOOO, lets eep supporting bs practices!

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14 Aug 2012, 9:34 pm

hartzofspace wrote:

MXH wrote:

WOOOO, lets eep supporting bs practices!

seriously. did you expect approaching someone to be foolproof? Its what every guy has to deal with. Stop playing mindgames and actually do something worthwhile

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15 Aug 2012, 6:24 am

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The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

I don't get what that has to do with what I said.

I am not shy btw, not anymore at least.

A woman, who you say is likely to want the man to initiate, thinks men who are shy are weak. So I was wondering if a shy man, who probably wants the woman to initiate (if we are working off your assumption that shyness is about initiation), thinks women who are shy (i.e. don't initiate) are weak?

No, because women aren't socially expected to initiate in the first place.

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15 Aug 2012, 9:16 am

Yeah I have to agree with Boo. On top of women not being expected to initiate, most women who DO try to do it (very few unfortunately) get labeled as sluts for some reason. I don't see why. So to show interest, the shy guys have to break out of their shell, which also means they're not being shy at that point.

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15 Aug 2012, 9:41 am

MXH wrote:

hartzofspace wrote:

MXH wrote:

WOOOO, lets eep supporting bs practices!

seriously. did you expect approaching someone to be foolproof? Its what every guy has to deal with. Stop playing mindgames and actually do something worthwhile

Yea, I hear this excuse a lot, as if guys wouldn't risk to be labeled things for doing it too.

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15 Aug 2012, 11:22 am

MXH wrote:

hartzofspace wrote:

MXH wrote:

WOOOO, lets eep supporting bs practices!

seriously. did you expect approaching someone to be foolproof? Its what every guy has to deal with. Stop playing mindgames and actually do something worthwhile

I think that getting married is well worthwhile!

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15 Aug 2012, 11:23 am

DialAForAwesome wrote:

Thank you! That is exactly what I explained in an earlier post here.

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15 Aug 2012, 11:42 am

hartzofspace wrote:

MXH wrote:

hartzofspace wrote:

MXH wrote:

WOOOO, lets eep supporting bs practices!

seriously. did you expect approaching someone to be foolproof? Its what every guy has to deal with. Stop playing mindgames and actually do something worthwhile

I think that getting married is well worthwhile!

you missed the entire point of my post and gloated about how you dont even have to bother as things are given to you...

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15 Aug 2012, 11:55 am

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hartzofspace wrote:

MXH wrote:

hartzofspace wrote:

MXH wrote:

WOOOO, lets eep supporting bs practices!

seriously. did you expect approaching someone to be foolproof? Its what every guy has to deal with. Stop playing mindgames and actually do something worthwhile

I think that getting married is well worthwhile!

you missed the entire point of my post and gloated about how you dont even have to bother as things are given to you...

I am not gloating, and I feel sorry for you. You sound like one unhappy man.

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15 Aug 2012, 11:58 am

hartzofspace wrote:

I am not gloating, and I feel sorry for you. You sound like one unhappy man.

you dont get to feel sorry for me. I get to feel sorry for everyone that has to put up with such bs practices

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16 Aug 2012, 8:33 am

i like quiet men. people who are social and outgoing put me off and i hate being hit on or dating as such. it makes the person asking me out appear superficial in my eyes because they often assume they like me although they dont even know me yet which is just silly really. im not very easy to get to know and i generally like people who arent easy to get to know either, therefor i prefer someone to not be openly interested in me but a terrible introvert. i do dislike a lack of confidence though, so i wouldnt describe my preference as shyness.

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