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09 Nov 2012, 12:10 pm

That and most women really can't stand virgins. The longer you're a virgin, the more they wonder what was wrong with you to make you a virgin for so long.


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09 Nov 2012, 12:35 pm

DialAForAwesome wrote:
That and most women really can't stand virgins. The longer you're a virgin, the more they wonder what was wrong with you to make you a virgin for so long.


I'm guessing the comical idea of a guy's semen being stuck, bulging in a pouch for an epic amount of years would also gross some of the women out. :lol:



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09 Nov 2012, 12:44 pm

JanuaryMan wrote:
DialAForAwesome wrote:
That and most women really can't stand virgins. The longer you're a virgin, the more they wonder what was wrong with you to make you a virgin for so long.


I'm guessing the comical idea of a guy's semen being stuck, bulging in a pouch for an epic amount of years would also gross some of the women out. :lol:
guy's semen stay in women for years? now I never want a gf lol.


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09 Nov 2012, 12:49 pm

wtfid2 wrote:
JanuaryMan wrote:
DialAForAwesome wrote:
That and most women really can't stand virgins. The longer you're a virgin, the more they wonder what was wrong with you to make you a virgin for so long.


I'm guessing the comical idea of a guy's semen being stuck, bulging in a pouch for an epic amount of years would also gross some of the women out. :lol:
guy's semen stay in women for years? now I never want a gf lol.


I meant their balls, wtfid2. lol..



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09 Nov 2012, 2:38 pm

JanuaryMan wrote:
DialAForAwesome wrote:
That and most women really can't stand virgins. The longer you're a virgin, the more they wonder what was wrong with you to make you a virgin for so long.


I'm guessing the comical idea of a guy's semen being stuck, bulging in a pouch for an epic amount of years would also gross some of the women out. :lol:


Lord I died laughing at this. :lol:


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09 Nov 2012, 6:18 pm

DialAForAwesome wrote:
JanuaryMan wrote:
DialAForAwesome wrote:
That and most women really can't stand virgins. The longer you're a virgin, the more they wonder what was wrong with you to make you a virgin for so long.


I'm guessing the comical idea of a guy's semen being stuck, bulging in a pouch for an epic amount of years would also gross some of the women out. :lol:


Lord I died laughing at this. :lol:
aged to perfection lol


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10 Nov 2012, 12:45 pm

DialAForAwesome wrote:
That and most women really can't stand virgins. The longer you're a virgin, the more they wonder what was wrong with you to make you a virgin for so long.


The whole women not being able to stand virgins thing is a half-truth. Part of the reason why is some women hit the certain age where they can't stand dating the typical alpha male JERK anymore and find someone like me, or you guys and start liking us. But our heads have to be on the right way in order for them to give us a fair chance. The other part that would discredit the the lack of experience thing is the fact that attraction works in mysterious ways. As harsh and mean as butterfly is, she does have some good points in regards to virgins and dating. I will agree that she should not have blasted you DialA for your family stuff that you posted.

There are other reasons why a women may not want to have sex with a virgin as well such as:
The perceived notion that we have to be trained what to do. (Sex is easy as long she has communicated what she likes and doesn't like as well as you say what you would like to try and not try)
I have met girls that for some reason don't like sex and they are not on the Autism Spectrum either. It could be a traumatic experience that makes this happen.
Some believe experience is required to be with them.
Some so-called dating expert told them not to date a virgin.
Some of us can be quite stubborn with our beliefs. Stubborness is not really a turn on at all.



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10 Nov 2012, 10:54 pm

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yeah well too many women are reluctant to sleep with a virgin guy


oh wow... you honestly believe that???! !??

Dude, you have no idea.

I just married my aspie husband a week ago and we had sex (his first time) and it was wonderful knowing that he wasn't comparing me to any woman before me.

Women love virgins! It's a massive compliment knowing that a guy has chosen to share his first time with you.

I have only read half the posts in this thread and I honestly want to kick some of you. Firstly - if sex matters so much to you, ANYONE can get laid. Just go to a nightclub - all you need to do is find a drunk girl, say a few nice things to her, and she'll go home with you. She won't care if you're a virgin, she won't care if you have little experience (or lots), she won't care if you're hot or if you're butt ugly, she won't care if you're rich, average or unemployed, she won't care what size you are down there - nightclubs are full of desperate girls who will have sex with anyone when they are drunk.

If it's only sex you want - go to a nightclub and pick up a desperate girl or pick up a hooker - but nightclub girls are cheaper.

But seriously, I can tell you now, for some of your, the problem is YOU. It's not because you're shy and awkward or because you have aspergers. I love that my husband is shy and we're both happily awkward together. Many women love the shy quiet type. And nor is it aspergers. I am married to a wonderful man with aspergers - even when he drives me insane, I still love him totally. And my sister has been dating a great guy with aspergers on and off for a decade.

It's because they are nice guys who treat women with respect. Of course, the aspergers does come into it - one of the times my sister broke up with her boyfriend was because he said to her "I think I can do better than you". It was his honest thought, but he knows now you don't say that to a girl even if you think it. Note: never EVER tell a girlfriend/wife/partner/potential girlfriend that you can do better than you.

Some of you just need to take responsibility for what you do have control over in your life - a lot of you sound like jerks - no wonder women won't date you!

Lose the desperation for sex. There is nothing that scares a woman away more.

And don't blame your desire for sex or lack of ability to get sex on your aspergers. Everyone is individual and everyone is different. I came on this forum because my aspie is the total opposite - he only wants to have sex occasionally and it's driving me absolutely crazy. But you don't see me obsessing about it like some of you. I'm here to do something practical - looking for advice on how to make him more horny.

I think some of you need to do something about horniness - and I don't mean have sex. I mean learn to think about other things!

Treat women like equals not like sex objects and then you will find they might actually want to have sex with you.
the fact that you tell him to pick up a girl at a night club shows you have no understanding of what we go through.none of us can get girls what o yu not understand?


Women project their experiences onto men with hilarious results.



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10 Nov 2012, 10:56 pm

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Funny thing is, AspieRogue, she had it BACKWARDS. My mom was the terrible one in the relationship, and so was his previous wife. My dad was a goddamned saint and hero for putting up with that crap. What's worse is he lost a lot of respect from the family for supposedly "not wanting to see his son" when he spent 45 years looking for the guy! Even my mom, as vile as she is a lot of the time, noted that he spent all that time looking for him for nothing; we finally tracked him down and he said "dad never tried to find me or make an effort to contact me (which was BS!) and basically I want no part of him. Screw him!" and then hung up the phone. We never told Dad about that as he was on his death bed when it happened anyway.

It's not like I said "all women" are like that. Just a lot of the ones in my family and probably a bunch of them outside of the family too. Like I said before, every man in my family pretty much had to settle, when if they had better luck, they could have done better. I imagine if I'd said the opposite, about the WOMEN being able to do better, she'd never have batted an eyelash at that statement.

I'm not sure where the hell you guys got the thought that my dad was mistreating my mom, it was the other way around. Even when he had cancer she pushed him around and cried like a spoiled child when she didn't get her way. She even hit him upside the head when he was at the hospital and refused to eat because his cancer had gotten worse! But nobody did anything about it! I took my mom home and the next day he died. I'm glad he's in heaven now. He doesn't have to put up with all that sh** anymore.


That sounds just like my mom.



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10 Nov 2012, 11:49 pm

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I have said time and time again...as have other males on this board in m situation, that we don't know why we havent had girlfriends. I am white, tall, college educated, more muscular than avg but not disgustingly big, not a goth weirdo, funny, teasing but not a dick. idk why i havent had a gf. I think it's just luck or im ugly, but people here have said otherwise....also hetero woe can cycle through the same pool of men leaving the outcasts stranded in the river of nothingess.


Hmmm... Maybe your "funny teasing but not a dick" comes off as you being a dick to others? I know I can't seem to open my mouth without offending SOMEONE. So maybe what in your opinion makes you NOT a dick, makes you a dick to others, and that could be part of your problem.

Also, you said earlier that you think being a virgin IS what's keeping you a virgin because some girl told you, after you poked and prodded for info, that she didn't want to be with you because of your virginity... Okay, so that explains what HER reason was, but what about the rest? So if one girl doesn't like you because you're a virgin, you move on and find one who doesn't care that you're a virgin. Nothing's going to change the fact that you're a virgin except having sex with someone, so you have to find someone who doesn't mind. If you feel like you have to lie to someone, then you're already in a losing game.

Okay, so you don't want just sex, you want a relationship, but you need to get laid first, to give you confidence, so you can have a relationship? So then you still are(in the short term, at least) seeking sex... So then just go get it. I don't know what to tell you besides what's already been said about a billion times... Maybe your problem is you meet one girl, adjust to what you think she'd like better, and then when that doesn't work out, you change? Just be yourself. Sooner or later someone who likes YOU for YOU WILL come along. But YOU need to give her a chance just as much as she needs to give you one. And that's not gonna happen if you're busy lying and acting a certain way to attract certain girls. That, and when one enthusiastically asks to meet you, GO f****n MEET HER. Don't shoot her down, or you have nobody to blame but yourself. Seriously. I've said all I can say at this point. If my fat nerdy ugly ass can get laid, there's no reason why you can't. But you also need to understand, I'm not playing the same game as everybody else. I'm not playing ANY game. Your problem, most likely, is that you ARE trying to play the game, and it's a game you're simply not gonna win. Put the game down and be yourself. Don't try to act any certain way to make a girl like you, just be who you are. And maybe try taking them out for dinner and a movie, show up to the date with flowers/chocolates. If you just wanna meet at the coffee shop for a cup of joe and a little chat, you're probably confusing the hell out of them. That kind of thing is fine, but not as a first date. That's the sort of thing you do with friends. No, you don't have to shower them with money and gifts, but you have to show you're willing to take SOME steps beyond what you'd do with your friends.



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11 Nov 2012, 12:06 am

RICKY5 wrote:
wtfid2 wrote:
ButterflyWings80 wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:

yeah well too many women are reluctant to sleep with a virgin guy


oh wow... you honestly believe that???! !??

Dude, you have no idea.

I just married my aspie husband a week ago and we had sex (his first time) and it was wonderful knowing that he wasn't comparing me to any woman before me.

Women love virgins! It's a massive compliment knowing that a guy has chosen to share his first time with you.

I have only read half the posts in this thread and I honestly want to kick some of you. Firstly - if sex matters so much to you, ANYONE can get laid. Just go to a nightclub - all you need to do is find a drunk girl, say a few nice things to her, and she'll go home with you. She won't care if you're a virgin, she won't care if you have little experience (or lots), she won't care if you're hot or if you're butt ugly, she won't care if you're rich, average or unemployed, she won't care what size you are down there - nightclubs are full of desperate girls who will have sex with anyone when they are drunk.

If it's only sex you want - go to a nightclub and pick up a desperate girl or pick up a hooker - but nightclub girls are cheaper.

But seriously, I can tell you now, for some of your, the problem is YOU. It's not because you're shy and awkward or because you have aspergers. I love that my husband is shy and we're both happily awkward together. Many women love the shy quiet type. And nor is it aspergers. I am married to a wonderful man with aspergers - even when he drives me insane, I still love him totally. And my sister has been dating a great guy with aspergers on and off for a decade.

It's because they are nice guys who treat women with respect. Of course, the aspergers does come into it - one of the times my sister broke up with her boyfriend was because he said to her "I think I can do better than you". It was his honest thought, but he knows now you don't say that to a girl even if you think it. Note: never EVER tell a girlfriend/wife/partner/potential girlfriend that you can do better than you.

Some of you just need to take responsibility for what you do have control over in your life - a lot of you sound like jerks - no wonder women won't date you!

Lose the desperation for sex. There is nothing that scares a woman away more.

And don't blame your desire for sex or lack of ability to get sex on your aspergers. Everyone is individual and everyone is different. I came on this forum because my aspie is the total opposite - he only wants to have sex occasionally and it's driving me absolutely crazy. But you don't see me obsessing about it like some of you. I'm here to do something practical - looking for advice on how to make him more horny.

I think some of you need to do something about horniness - and I don't mean have sex. I mean learn to think about other things!

Treat women like equals not like sex objects and then you will find they might actually want to have sex with you.
the fact that you tell him to pick up a girl at a night club shows you have no understanding of what we go through.none of us can get girls what o yu not understand?


Women project their experiences onto men with hilarious results.
yah the funny thing is that butterfly complains about her husband not having sex with her in another thread..yet we who have never had sex before are desperate -_-.


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11 Nov 2012, 12:39 am

DerStadtSchutz, good message.


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11 Nov 2012, 12:46 am

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DerStadtSchutz, good message.


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12 Nov 2012, 12:41 pm

women can have many flaws, but men not so much



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12 Nov 2012, 12:53 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:
women can have many flaws, but men not so much

says who?



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12 Nov 2012, 1:07 pm

MXH wrote:
WantToHaveALife wrote:
women can have many flaws, but men not so much

says who?


Says popular culture. In every movie about some dorky and unpopular (but hot) girl who the cheerleaders pick on, she's secretely in love with the guy who's attractive, most popular of them all, parties every weekend, has the nicest car, and the richest parents. Of course, she's one hundred percent passive until he finally makes the move on her in the last 15 minutes of the movie.