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14 Dec 2012, 8:38 pm

wtfid2 wrote:
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Don't tempt me to post a reply to that - the mods would have a field day lol


At this point, I wouldn't worry about it. The OP hasn't posted in how long now? The thread is essentially trashed, and he probably doesn't care anymore.

Have a ball.

You ever going to post a thread on the dangers of OKCupid? I mean as it was so important that aspies know and all? :scratch:


I could do but having subsequently seen someone's post on here saying something like 'a person who'd go out with a paedophile is forgiving not bad', I thought what's the point with attitudes like that abounding?!

No one takes any notice of what I say on here 99% of the time, why should they change just because I post some kind of parental-like warning?

People on here mainly just want to be 'cool' and find a gf/bf - we are in conflicting generations

It needs someone 'cool' to say it in coolspeak :roll:
stop derailing the thread. with pedophile talk.


See?

In other words 'this isn't my problem so it is irrelevant to me'



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14 Dec 2012, 8:41 pm

I think in future I'll leave people to it - no one wants or listens to advice so no point

On this type of thread I get the impression that all the OP really wants to hear is 'I feel a lot of sympathy for you' and I'm no good at that type of post - I always want to suggest a solution.



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14 Dec 2012, 8:41 pm

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@ nessa238, Ah. I see.

@ wtfid2, I never mentioned that word. :wink:

Well then. Carry on. 8)
i was replying o nessa man lol.


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14 Dec 2012, 8:50 pm

wtfid2 wrote:
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@ nessa238, Ah. I see.

@ wtfid2, I never mentioned that word. :wink:

Well then. Carry on. 8)
i was replying o nessa man lol.


I know. I thought I might have, so I checked. :shrug: Wasn't there. :cheers:

I hate to be hypocrite.


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14 Dec 2012, 9:27 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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(Hmm i wanna get some ego boost. It's nom nom nom, I guess i am turning into an ego vampire too.)


Any girl here wanna ask me out?


Don't tempt me to post a reply to that - the mods would have a field day lol



I read your mind.

Sorry nessa.

It's a NO!!

You can't even come close to my *walls*


Results:

Boo's ego: +1000 ego pts.

Nessa's ego: -10000 ego pts.


^ That what really happens in life.


lol



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15 Dec 2012, 12:15 am

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Brian, you really need to learn to not take these people so seriously. I think before you pursue finding a GF you need to address how people upset you so easily, you might feel better - at least - after you've done that.

I used to be like that. I sort of still am, but I'm a lot better now. It helps.
wouldnt you be upset if every girl you've tried to get to know cold hearted rejected you? The man is 28 yrs old and all he wants is a companion!


I think what Hale is trying to say is that it's a choice to get upset by the rejection or not (rejection in general that is, not Brian's particular case).

Not all the guys who go through the same thing on dating sites get upset.



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15 Dec 2012, 3:46 am

hale_bopp wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
(Hmm i wanna get some ego boost. It's nom nom nom, I guess i am turning into an ego vampire too.)


Any girl here wanna ask me out?


Don't tempt me to post a reply to that - the mods would have a field day lol



I read your mind.

Sorry nessa.

It's a NO!!

You can't even come close to my *walls*


Results:

Boo's ego: +1000 ego pts.

Nessa's ego: -10000 ego pts.


^ That what really happens in life.


lol



No hale bopp! I don't want to cyber with you!! I won't do a private bikini dance for you!

I reject aaalll your proporsals!

No is a no!!



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15 Dec 2012, 4:31 am

Stop being a picky b***h with high standards, Boo! :P



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15 Dec 2012, 5:46 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
nessa238 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
(Hmm i wanna get some ego boost. It's nom nom nom, I guess i am turning into an ego vampire too.)


Any girl here wanna ask me out?


Don't tempt me to post a reply to that - the mods would have a field day lol



I read your mind.

Sorry nessa.

It's a NO!!

You can't even come close to my *walls*


Results:

Boo's ego: +1000 ego pts.

Nessa's ego: -10000 ego pts.


^ That what really happens in life.


lol



No hale bopp! I don't want to cyber with you!! I won't do a private bikini dance for you!

I reject aaalll your proporsals!

No is a no!!


:cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:



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15 Dec 2012, 6:17 am

blue_bean wrote:
wtfid2 wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Brian, you really need to learn to not take these people so seriously. I think before you pursue finding a GF you need to address how people upset you so easily, you might feel better - at least - after you've done that.

I used to be like that. I sort of still am, but I'm a lot better now. It helps.
wouldnt you be upset if every girl you've tried to get to know cold hearted rejected you? The man is 28 yrs old and all he wants is a companion!


I think what Hale is trying to say is that it's a choice to get upset by the rejection or not (rejection in general that is, not Brian's particular case).

Not all the guys who go through the same thing on dating sites get upset.


To be fair though, a lot of the guys who "don't get upset" when they get rejected are the ones who have at least had a little success in dating or getting a woman to like them.

Trust me, anybody who has never had success would get upset after a while, especially when they got to be a certain age. Anybody that wouldn't is either too positive or too proud, or both.


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15 Dec 2012, 7:37 am

DialAForAwesome wrote:
blue_bean wrote:
wtfid2 wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Brian, you really need to learn to not take these people so seriously. I think before you pursue finding a GF you need to address how people upset you so easily, you might feel better - at least - after you've done that.

I used to be like that. I sort of still am, but I'm a lot better now. It helps.
wouldnt you be upset if every girl you've tried to get to know cold hearted rejected you? The man is 28 yrs old and all he wants is a companion!


I think what Hale is trying to say is that it's a choice to get upset by the rejection or not (rejection in general that is, not Brian's particular case).

Not all the guys who go through the same thing on dating sites get upset.


To be fair though, a lot of the guys who "don't get upset" when they get rejected are the ones who have at least had a little success in dating or getting a woman to like them.

Trust me, anybody who has never had success would get upset after a while, especially when they got to be a certain age. Anybody that wouldn't is either too positive or too proud, or both.


Ok then, maybe they do get upset but deal with it in a discrete manner. What do you propose is the appropriate way to deal with said upset though?

Dealing with it in an immature way (such as I see here all too often) just makes women reaffirm their choice in rejecting you as then they'll see you're immature.



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15 Dec 2012, 7:50 am

I'd also like to say that despite showing oversensitivity and hurt pride here, I commend Brian's message he sent back to her for sounding courteous, well wishing and humble. Don't play stupid ego kicking tit for tat games like Boo, be the better person. Responding politely is more likely to make the girl feel self-conscious of her attitude.



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15 Dec 2012, 9:41 am

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Stop being a picky b***h with high standards, Boo! :P


I'm loving the irony on this thread :D

In fact I'm amazed the women aren't all over Boo for his sense of humour alone!



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15 Dec 2012, 9:45 am

blue_bean wrote:
DialAForAwesome wrote:
blue_bean wrote:
wtfid2 wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Brian, you really need to learn to not take these people so seriously. I think before you pursue finding a GF you need to address how people upset you so easily, you might feel better - at least - after you've done that.

I used to be like that. I sort of still am, but I'm a lot better now. It helps.
wouldnt you be upset if every girl you've tried to get to know cold hearted rejected you? The man is 28 yrs old and all he wants is a companion!


I think what Hale is trying to say is that it's a choice to get upset by the rejection or not (rejection in general that is, not Brian's particular case).

Not all the guys who go through the same thing on dating sites get upset.


To be fair though, a lot of the guys who "don't get upset" when they get rejected are the ones who have at least had a little success in dating or getting a woman to like them.

Trust me, anybody who has never had success would get upset after a while, especially when they got to be a certain age. Anybody that wouldn't is either too positive or too proud, or both.


Ok then, maybe they do get upset but deal with it in a discrete manner. What do you propose is the appropriate way to deal with said upset though?

Dealing with it in an immature way (such as I see here all too often) just makes women reaffirm their choice in rejecting you as then they'll see you're immature.


Agreed

You need to be able to handle rejection maturely

Ruminating about it will only make you feel more unhappy and is also wasting time that could be spent more constructively ie on people you are more suited to

So just moving swiftly on and occupying your mind with something else is the best thing to do



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15 Dec 2012, 11:48 am

hale_bopp wrote:
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I think some girls get ego boost by rejecting. They're the 'ego vampires'.

Rejecting = + Ego points

Rejected = - Ego points


Poor males, really. They're the ones who get the latter most.


Hell, I got some when I rejected someone, another case was the opposite - depends how much i care for the person and how much I believe she deserves my rejection.


Men get an ego boost rejecting too, boo. It's really quite similar for them.


I can say with a bit of pride that I get no such boost. Nothing pains me more than hurting someone (intended or not). Life's too short for that, I there is nothing I hate more than to be thought of by someone in a negative connotation. I want everyone to like me.



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15 Dec 2012, 11:52 am

Brianruns10 wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I think some girls get ego boost by rejecting. They're the 'ego vampires'.

Rejecting = + Ego points

Rejected = - Ego points


Poor males, really. They're the ones who get the latter most.


Hell, I got some when I rejected someone, another case was the opposite - depends how much i care for the person and how much I believe she deserves my rejection.


Men get an ego boost rejecting too, boo. It's really quite similar for them.


I can say with a bit of pride that I get no such boost. Nothing pains me more than hurting someone (intended or not). Life's too short for that, I there is nothing I hate more than to be thought of by someone in a negative connotation. I want everyone to like me.


That's one of the best qualities to have Brian - you are right to be proud as you are in the minority in not getting pleasure from hurting people - most people seem to thrive on causing others pain from what I have observed of life and people in general.

Kindness is the most important virtue to have in my opinion.