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08 Apr 2013, 12:53 pm

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Hey, I got laid and got oral sex in a pair of star wars boxers, now how many guys can say that?


I have to ask, why do you keep trying to brag about sexual encounters? It makes you sound lonelier than you think.


Just wait until they bring out game of thrones boxers.


Boxers aren't a turn-on at all anyway

clinging longer leg trunks are far better

so as I surmised the women you go with haven't a clue as regards sex

you are what would be termed a vanity f-k, not a quality one

I bet you say things like 'Oh baby!'


I don't think the level of experience matters to me, if a girl does have a lot of experience or little experience, it's not something I will judge her on but I don't think guys should be judged on it either. People are different on the spectrum and fulfilment and success isn't just a case of quantity over quality, look at people like Mystery, he has used hundreds of women for sex and he has been left feeling unfulfilled and unhappy with himself.

It doesn't matter to me how you put it, I'm doing what I love and I plan to continue doing what I am passionate about from drawing tattoo art, painting murals to lifting heavy weights in the gym and I might even meet someone who shares those interests rather than just sharing something based on lust


I don't know who Mystery is

Some clown with a cult following of desperate guys willing to do any crazy stupid thing he says in hopes it works


To each his own. I learned how to get women in bed by watching White Collar. I'm obsessed with Neil Caffrey. I'm sure this guy is similar. Stupid tricks often work.



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08 Apr 2013, 1:00 pm

Tyri0n wrote:
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nessa238 wrote:
Wolfheart wrote:
MXH wrote:
Wolfheart wrote:
Hey, I got laid and got oral sex in a pair of star wars boxers, now how many guys can say that?


I have to ask, why do you keep trying to brag about sexual encounters? It makes you sound lonelier than you think.


Just wait until they bring out game of thrones boxers.


Boxers aren't a turn-on at all anyway

clinging longer leg trunks are far better

so as I surmised the women you go with haven't a clue as regards sex

you are what would be termed a vanity f-k, not a quality one

I bet you say things like 'Oh baby!'


I don't think the level of experience matters to me, if a girl does have a lot of experience or little experience, it's not something I will judge her on but I don't think guys should be judged on it either. People are different on the spectrum and fulfilment and success isn't just a case of quantity over quality, look at people like Mystery, he has used hundreds of women for sex and he has been left feeling unfulfilled and unhappy with himself.

It doesn't matter to me how you put it, I'm doing what I love and I plan to continue doing what I am passionate about from drawing tattoo art, painting murals to lifting heavy weights in the gym and I might even meet someone who shares those interests rather than just sharing something based on lust


I don't know who Mystery is

Some clown with a cult following of desperate guys willing to do any crazy stupid thing he says in hopes it works


To each his own. I learned how to get women in bed by watching White Collar. I'm obsessed with Neil Caffrey. I'm sure this guy is similar. Stupid tricks often work.


Didn't get me in bed :P Not bragging, just recognizing a douche when I see one.


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08 Apr 2013, 1:05 pm

Tyri0n wrote:
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MXH wrote:
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Hey, I got laid and got oral sex in a pair of star wars boxers, now how many guys can say that?


I have to ask, why do you keep trying to brag about sexual encounters? It makes you sound lonelier than you think.


Just wait until they bring out game of thrones boxers.


Boxers aren't a turn-on at all anyway

clinging longer leg trunks are far better

so as I surmised the women you go with haven't a clue as regards sex

you are what would be termed a vanity f-k, not a quality one

I bet you say things like 'Oh baby!'


Whatever.

All those silly things that people argue about - lol! my opinion is, if you've got them that far, they're probably not going to go back because you're wearing boxers instead of spandex.

I once knew a girl who claimed it was a super big turnoff if a guy didn't use a foot stone or whatever it's called. Lol. I highly doubt things get read for sex, with all the making out and stuff with all the clothes coming off, and she says, "oh, your feet are rough; forget it, we can't do this."

I've never heard of things like this happening before. Maybe smell or something gross. But not silly sh** like this or whatever underwear he or she is wearing.


EXACTLY!


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08 Apr 2013, 1:47 pm

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Someone who actually had real exploits of the type that Wolfheart claims he has had would not feel the need to come brag about it on an autistic forum.

Read through most pages of this thread. It's weird.

If it's true, maybe he's exacting some type of "revenge" on the race of NT women for the way he was treated when he was younger, uglier, and less ripped? If so, it's messed up, but I can empathize.


I think I need to sit down with a therapist or someone who specializes in Autism spectrum disorders and talk about how I can have a clearer and better communication in my relationships to be able express times when I am detached or withdrawn. I don't have anything against women and I do think I need someone static as opposed to dynamic, I think many people on the spectrum need people that are static though.

I need to approach situations with certain amount of empathy, tactfulness and sensitivity, realize how the other person might feel before saying something.



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08 Apr 2013, 2:22 pm

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Someone who actually had real exploits of the type that Wolfheart claims he has had would not feel the need to come brag about it on an autistic forum.

Read through most pages of this thread. It's weird.

If it's true, maybe he's exacting some type of "revenge" on the race of NT women for the way he was treated when he was younger, uglier, and less ripped? If so, it's messed up, but I can empathize.


I think I need to sit down with a therapist or someone who specializes in Autism spectrum disorders and talk about how I can have a clearer and better communication in my relationships to be able express times when I am detached or withdrawn. I don't have anything against women and I do think I need someone static as opposed to dynamic, I think many people on the spectrum need people that are static though.

I need to approach situations with certain amount of empathy, tactfulness and sensitivity, realize how the other person might feel before saying something.


Man, I don't know if I've been as successful as you, but I've dated around and treated some women pretty badly and once I started bulking up from the gym, I took tons of pictures.

For both of us, do you think we may have a type of narcissism that both drives improvement but also destroys relationships? I'm often torn on whether to get help for it or to embrace it since deep down, I'm not sure I even desire real human relations. Can you relate to anything?

I think cognitive empathy is a skill I had to develop, but I think almost all my affective empathy is fake. Do you feel the same?



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08 Apr 2013, 2:32 pm

Can you do one thousand now?

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08 Apr 2013, 2:41 pm

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Can you do one thousand now?

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I love him! :lol:



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08 Apr 2013, 2:51 pm

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Can you do one thousand now?

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I love him! :lol:


:lol:

I took a bit of a smart-assed risk posting that.. glad to see your response was awesome vs. annoyed. :D 8)

edit: While I can't do one thousand, I am reminded of this guy's awesomeness when obsessively finishing up an intense workout. It's kinda fun to put myself in his mindset in order to have the discipline and determination to push myself a little further than I thought I could go with something. Obviously I'm reminded of him more when it happens to be an abdominal workout.


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08 Apr 2013, 2:58 pm

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Can you do one thousand now?

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I love him! :lol:


:lol:

I took a bit of a smart-assed risk posting that.. glad to see your response was awesome vs. annoyed. :D 8)

edit: While I can't do one thousand, I am reminded of this guy's awesomeness when obsessively finishing up an intense workout. It's kinda fun to put myself in his mindset in order to have the discipline and determination to push myself a little further than I thought I could go with something. Obviously I'm reminded of him more when it happens to be an abdominal workout.


You're hardly the first to make the connection. Hell I can't count how many times I've said it here.



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08 Apr 2013, 3:34 pm

MXH wrote:
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Tyri0n wrote:
goldfish21 wrote:
Can you do one thousand now?

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I love him! :lol:


:lol:

I took a bit of a smart-assed risk posting that.. glad to see your response was awesome vs. annoyed. :D 8)

edit: While I can't do one thousand, I am reminded of this guy's awesomeness when obsessively finishing up an intense workout. It's kinda fun to put myself in his mindset in order to have the discipline and determination to push myself a little further than I thought I could go with something. Obviously I'm reminded of him more when it happens to be an abdominal workout.


You're hardly the first to make the connection. Hell I can't count how many times I've said it here.


That's nice. Do you want a cookie?

I never claimed to be first, nor have I ever noticed any posts like this.. & that's why I stated what I did about my post being a bit of a smart-assed risk as I wasn't sure how Tyri0n may react to it.


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08 Apr 2013, 3:53 pm

Don't think you're too special now.



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08 Apr 2013, 4:49 pm

Tyri0n wrote:
Wolfheart wrote:
Tyri0n wrote:
Someone who actually had real exploits of the type that Wolfheart claims he has had would not feel the need to come brag about it on an autistic forum.

Read through most pages of this thread. It's weird.

If it's true, maybe he's exacting some type of "revenge" on the race of NT women for the way he was treated when he was younger, uglier, and less ripped? If so, it's messed up, but I can empathize.


I think I need to sit down with a therapist or someone who specializes in Autism spectrum disorders and talk about how I can have a clearer and better communication in my relationships to be able express times when I am detached or withdrawn. I don't have anything against women and I do think I need someone static as opposed to dynamic, I think many people on the spectrum need people that are static though.

I need to approach situations with certain amount of empathy, tactfulness and sensitivity, realize how the other person might feel before saying something.


Man, I don't know if I've been as successful as you, but I've dated around and treated some women pretty badly and once I started bulking up from the gym, I took tons of pictures.

For both of us, do you think we may have a type of narcissism that both drives improvement but also destroys relationships? I'm often torn on whether to get help for it or to embrace it since deep down, I'm not sure I even desire real human relations. Can you relate to anything?

I think cognitive empathy is a skill I had to develop, but I think almost all my affective empathy is fake. Do you feel the same?


I think sometimes we need to be able to stop and if it's hard for us to feel as if we are in another person's shoes, we need to ask ourselves what they might be thinking or feeling if we were in a similar situation even if we don't experience that type of empathy like others. I think that's something that will help me to grow and realize that the direct blunt approach isn't always the best one. Feeling empathy and bonding with someone on an emotional level is the difficult part for me, sometimes the physical connection might be there but it won't feel like a personal connection.

There are also times that I can be withdrawn for days and I think this confuses the typical person and that can lead to a misunderstanding in communication.



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08 Apr 2013, 4:58 pm

Wolfheart wrote:
Tyri0n wrote:
Wolfheart wrote:
Tyri0n wrote:
Someone who actually had real exploits of the type that Wolfheart claims he has had would not feel the need to come brag about it on an autistic forum.

Read through most pages of this thread. It's weird.

If it's true, maybe he's exacting some type of "revenge" on the race of NT women for the way he was treated when he was younger, uglier, and less ripped? If so, it's messed up, but I can empathize.


I think I need to sit down with a therapist or someone who specializes in Autism spectrum disorders and talk about how I can have a clearer and better communication in my relationships to be able express times when I am detached or withdrawn. I don't have anything against women and I do think I need someone static as opposed to dynamic, I think many people on the spectrum need people that are static though.

I need to approach situations with certain amount of empathy, tactfulness and sensitivity, realize how the other person might feel before saying something.


Man, I don't know if I've been as successful as you, but I've dated around and treated some women pretty badly and once I started bulking up from the gym, I took tons of pictures.

For both of us, do you think we may have a type of narcissism that both drives improvement but also destroys relationships? I'm often torn on whether to get help for it or to embrace it since deep down, I'm not sure I even desire real human relations. Can you relate to anything?

I think cognitive empathy is a skill I had to develop, but I think almost all my affective empathy is fake. Do you feel the same?


I think sometimes we need to be able to stop and if it's hard for us to feel as if we are in another person's shoes, we need to ask ourselves what they might be thinking or feeling if we were in a similar situation even if we don't experience that type of empathy like others. I think that's something that will help me to grow and realize that the direct blunt approach isn't always the best one. Feeling empathy and bonding with someone on an emotional level is the difficult part for me, sometimes the physical connection might be there but it won't feel like a personal connection.

There are also times that I can be withdrawn for days and I think this confuses the typical person and that can lead to a misunderstanding in communication.


There are girls with sociopathic and narcissistic tendencies too who don't have affective empathy. And also girls who have to withdraw for days at a time and don't want to speak to anyone.

Not every girl is a stereotypical NT emotional basket case who needs constant attention and wants a traditional marriage. Girls can enjoy flings and casual sex too. And they can feel and do everything you do. Maybe you just need to find women more like you?



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08 Apr 2013, 11:02 pm

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I think sometimes we need to be able to stop and if it's hard for us to feel as if we are in another person's shoes, we need to ask ourselves what they might be thinking or feeling if we were in a similar situation even if we don't experience that type of empathy like others. I think that's something that will help me to grow and realize that the direct blunt approach isn't always the best one. Feeling empathy and bonding with someone on an emotional level is the difficult part for me, sometimes the physical connection might be there but it won't feel like a personal connection.

There are also times that I can be withdrawn for days and I think this confuses the typical person and that can lead to a misunderstanding in communication.


I am finding I am definitely capable of understanding what another person is going through now. It's much easier to get a feel for someone in normal face to face contact. Behind the computer screen or through text message will never be of help to you as you don't get to process their facial expressions and the basic body language. I am starting to see it more. I think I was just too selfish and depressed to care now that I have reflected on my inability to do it in the past. On the flip side, my Aspie diagnosis is probably correct in the fact that I sometimes take things too seriously when there is no need to.

With the communication and empathy... it takes work and understanding the joys and pains of just growing up and getting better at communicating and socializing with others. If you are around people long enough, you will start to understand how they communicate non-verbally as well.



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09 Apr 2013, 2:36 pm

Tyri0n wrote:
Wolfheart wrote:
Tyri0n wrote:
Wolfheart wrote:
Tyri0n wrote:
Someone who actually had real exploits of the type that Wolfheart claims he has had would not feel the need to come brag about it on an autistic forum.

Read through most pages of this thread. It's weird.

If it's true, maybe he's exacting some type of "revenge" on the race of NT women for the way he was treated when he was younger, uglier, and less ripped? If so, it's messed up, but I can empathize.


I think I need to sit down with a therapist or someone who specializes in Autism spectrum disorders and talk about how I can have a clearer and better communication in my relationships to be able express times when I am detached or withdrawn. I don't have anything against women and I do think I need someone static as opposed to dynamic, I think many people on the spectrum need people that are static though.

I need to approach situations with certain amount of empathy, tactfulness and sensitivity, realize how the other person might feel before saying something.


Man, I don't know if I've been as successful as you, but I've dated around and treated some women pretty badly and once I started bulking up from the gym, I took tons of pictures.

For both of us, do you think we may have a type of narcissism that both drives improvement but also destroys relationships? I'm often torn on whether to get help for it or to embrace it since deep down, I'm not sure I even desire real human relations. Can you relate to anything?

I think cognitive empathy is a skill I had to develop, but I think almost all my affective empathy is fake. Do you feel the same?


I think sometimes we need to be able to stop and if it's hard for us to feel as if we are in another person's shoes, we need to ask ourselves what they might be thinking or feeling if we were in a similar situation even if we don't experience that type of empathy like others. I think that's something that will help me to grow and realize that the direct blunt approach isn't always the best one. Feeling empathy and bonding with someone on an emotional level is the difficult part for me, sometimes the physical connection might be there but it won't feel like a personal connection.

There are also times that I can be withdrawn for days and I think this confuses the typical person and that can lead to a misunderstanding in communication.


There are girls with sociopathic and narcissistic tendencies too who don't have affective empathy. And also girls who have to withdraw for days at a time and don't want to speak to anyone.

Not every girl is a stereotypical NT emotional basket case who needs constant attention and wants a traditional marriage. Girls can enjoy flings and casual sex too. And they can feel and do everything you do. Maybe you just need to find women more like you?


A marriage or a long term relationship does seem desirable in the long run, they also seem to be harder to keep but I would like one. Finding someone who gets me and someone that has a forgiving, patient nature is my best bet.

There's a part of me that doesn't care about girls so much at the moment for some reason, I feel very focused in running my business and making a success of that. I do need to work my issues as such as being more sensitive, caring and loving but I am making an effort to focus on those aspects of my personality.