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With no income on your profile you'll be seen as unemployed - especially your job is of charity nature so one can easily assume it's voluntary and non paying?

Let's face it, income will always be important for man's value - I am convinced that most women are still far from true egalitarianism (and so men, but I wanna bother women now) - most women simply care more about the partner's income than most men.

*whispering hint* your dog's profile would get more attention.


Now I am leaving my stunt actor behind.


Punchable, isn't he?

*punches*

Umm, so my profile apparently has 3 likes. 2 of them are new. And I could view them before for free, now it wants me to pay. So I have no idea who's rating my profile at all.
Still no visitors, and no responses. In total 6 messages sent, 5 were serious interest. I'm not being incredibly picky, either.

So yeah, as much as the site is well balanced...can anyone point me to a dating site where filtering by income is not free, and you perhaps don't have to pay to get a decent communication going?
I'm starting to get put off seriously fast.

It hasn't taken much to put you off, has it.

Let's face it, even if one puts time into it, even if one has the perfect profile that still captures their essence without misleading anyone (good luck on that), even if one has done all the research, even if one has the best pictures in the world...it's still hit and miss.

And even if one is female, and has a flooded/relatively full inbox, there's no guarantee that any of the men are actually worth shaving one's legs for.

And, also, there are a lot of people who read male and female dating books - some of them extreme in idea - and are very happy having test subjects to practice on. Beware.

With all this technology, all these social political advances, all these new rights for everyone and yet the human race still lacks the ability to think for itself but await instructions from trendsetters. Very sad.

Oh no. It's not just about that. It's about control and getting what people think they 'deserve'.

And having said that, without 'trendsetters' and their effect upon history, would we still be sat in caves and trying to forage a living?

Last edited by octobertiger on 14 Oct 2013, 9:30 am, edited 1 time in total.

I guess you have a point. Still, it's becoming clear to me that while I feel I "don't deserve" a certain type of girl, they are the only ones that bother with me and the rest feel entitled to someone better. So it leaves me in a state where I feel I shouldn't have to be limited to a couple of types of girls I am not attracted to (not just physically), but any girls I do like personality wise or looks wise expect more than what I offer or am putting up on my profile. In a situation like that do I really keep pushing to meet their "needs" only to be unhappy with the whole situation because they don't genuinely like me for me, or do I accept defeat?

Bloody good question.

Only you can answer this question. Because answering it rests on your own perception, and your own experiences.

I can suggest - and I only suggest, mind - you seem to be a little bit constrained in this 'liking me for me' business. It seems to point to a fixed notion of what 'liking' is, and what 'me' is.

And I would substitute the question. Instead of looking for what's best for you - who would you contribute the most to in a relationship? Who are you best for? I'd go 100% the other way, and perhaps that could help thinking.

^ yeah


We all think we are worth more than we are (I say that guardedly because you seem like a really lovely person). Also, I'm worried about accidentally starting another 'market value' conversation.

Those likes on your profile are likely a ruse to get you to pay. I wouldn't bother. Also, I cannot understand why you just don't put the income back on your profile?

Have you got a pretty definite idea in your head about what kind of girl you want to end up with? Let's hear it

Edit: in words of the Hollywood's craziest best friend (This Means War), Don't pick the girl that you like better, pick the girl that makes you a better you.

(I really like that sentiment)

Men hesitate to reveal their income for the same reason why women hesitate to reveal their desire for sex: both are afraid to be exploited for this and that.

Hang on a minute - maybe there's more to this than materialism, or exploitation.

Many women - especially in the UK - end up in relationships with someone who's financially weak. They end up supporting the man.

Let's face it - that will affect most relationships, especially if the woman works and the man would rather play on his Xbox all day.

If I was a woman, would I want to financially support a man? No way at all. I'm guessing there's probably more of an element of self-preservation than gold-digging in this.

I appreciate what you're trying to say, and yes let's avoid that topic shall we
In my mind I have a picture of the girl I want to end up with yes. I would ideally like.
*A girl that has a constructive occupation of some kind like work, studies or community/charity work etc.
*Someone who doesn't go out clubbing all the time.
*Has some interests the same though a few different.
*Can hold a discussion with them about things besides X-Factor and whatever the newspaper or media had quoted/told you to think (and yes, I live near rough parts of town and most of the time conversations I've tried to have do not progress beyond babies, welfare, drinking, fighting, having sex and Rihanna).

The end part of your message rings true. If you meet someone that makes you want to be a better person, they are definitely worth your time

If I was well off enough I wouldn't have a problem supporting the other half. Not to play on Xbox all day though, because that stuff will rot your brain. I'd expect a tidy house and a dinner made when I get back from work, obviously

but yeah, you totally get my point there. Your income is indicating that you are not a looser. It's waaaay off the exploitation mark

trouble is, nobody wants a long distance relationship so they put in short radius from where they live but clearly in your case that isn't going to work. Have you considered moving somewhere less chavy?

Sounds good to me. Where do I sign up?

Yeah, I'm moving to the more studenty area of town once I've saved up some more money.
I basically am living with friends because I had nowhere else to go after my last tenancy ran out.
LDR isn't out of the question but I don't think I'd use a dating site for that. I'm not sure why that is, maybe because I presume the purpose of using a dating site is to meet someone physically and make an assessment from there.

you sign up in the alternate reality in which that sentence starts with 'Since I am..' instead of 'If I was..'