equestriatola
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16 Oct 2013, 7:58 pm
octobertiger wrote:
equestriatola wrote:
I may shut down mine. It's no use, and besides, I already found someone.
Yeah, we kinda noticed, and we feel good for you.
Thank you.
16 Oct 2013, 8:19 pm
octobertiger wrote:
Great, now you're defining me by your model.
'Pick up' - that's chavtastic. Really classy that.
You completely divorce yourself from the model that you are answered to, and I'll answer your question. Any answer I currently give you will be distorted by your worldmodel, and your frame though.
One thing I thought WP would teach me is that adults with aspergers think like me...I've learned that they do not. I think there's part of the reason for me being on WP answered, there and then. I can't tell you the sadness I feel at that, that 'intellectual' isolation, (not really intellectual, more of a willingness to move beyond a narrow definition of what one is, and not to think in a linear way so beloved by those NT folks) but hey ho - as long as one wets their wick, all's jolly good to a twentysomething, right?
Perhaps I'm no good at relationships at all. Perhaps my name's Keef and I sleep in a bath, and this is some weak ego boost. I could tell you any old crap. Where's the good old proof, eh?
Or perhaps I'm gay. Does it really matter? It's not about me. It's all about you, baby, you you you!
Oh, and question for thou:
If you behave like a lift, how will you survive in a long-term relationship?
'Pick up' - that's chavtastic. Really classy that.
You completely divorce yourself from the model that you are answered to, and I'll answer your question. Any answer I currently give you will be distorted by your worldmodel, and your frame though.
One thing I thought WP would teach me is that adults with aspergers think like me...I've learned that they do not. I think there's part of the reason for me being on WP answered, there and then. I can't tell you the sadness I feel at that, that 'intellectual' isolation, (not really intellectual, more of a willingness to move beyond a narrow definition of what one is, and not to think in a linear way so beloved by those NT folks) but hey ho - as long as one wets their wick, all's jolly good to a twentysomething, right?
Perhaps I'm no good at relationships at all. Perhaps my name's Keef and I sleep in a bath, and this is some weak ego boost. I could tell you any old crap. Where's the good old proof, eh?
Or perhaps I'm gay. Does it really matter? It's not about me. It's all about you, baby, you you you!
Oh, and question for thou:
If you behave like a lift, how will you survive in a long-term relationship?
I just don't get what qualifies you to make some of the comments you do.
It's ok to disagree, but to be suggest things without having your own problems solved first is something that anybody can do.
I never said you were good or were not good at relationships. However, you've already came to the conclusion that I've never been in one with no evidence.
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BAR CLOSED
Have A Nice Life
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16 Oct 2013, 9:34 pm
Ok keef the white tiger. 
16 Oct 2013, 9:50 pm
equestriatola
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16 Oct 2013, 9:56 pm
17 Oct 2013, 12:51 am
octobertiger wrote:
I quite liked the opening post. In fact, I think it's definitely one of the better posts I have read in the L&D section. Mix of the common sense with what worked for you.
Good stuff. This could be a sticky if people stop bickering.
Good stuff. This could be a sticky if people stop bickering.
I agree! Wonderful post Geekonychus.
And I also think it can be just as useful for women as men. I treat OkC basically as described in the OP and I have success with it. I don't think I get as many messages as other women do, but the quality of the messages I do get is higher, I'm guessing. By that I mean, I get people who are interested in ME sending me messages. Not just people who are interested in a version of me that I think more people might like.
I do not hide my quirkiness in my profile and the people who contact me don't mind that at all! I think a really important thing is that I'm not serious about it. Dating is supposed to be fun, and so should your online profile and messages be!
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17 Oct 2013, 2:02 am
TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Jono wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Me on the other hand, more like JM and Jono tbh, of the more 'boring' category of weird: the regular-looking, socially inept and typical nerd/geek who's into factual info more than fictions or whatsoever. Girls of that category are even more rare and from my exp they seek for extroverts to complete them.
With glasses I look typically geek too even tho I was called sporty without them.
With glasses I look typically geek too even tho I was called sporty without them.
Oh, I guess that's the difference.
Yes, it's a Fantasy/Arty Geeks/Weirdos versus Nerdy Geeks/Weirdos case, the former have larger female pool for some reason and women of general population generally like to talk things like astrology and halloween costumes... etc more than well... things like scientific studies or gadgets.
The two things are not mutually exclusive, Boo. This is one of the things that irks me about the whole geek v nerd debate. In the end, none of us really fits completely under one or the other. The disconnect, as far as I can tell, seems to be more that women tend not to speak much of their scientific interests. I know I don't all that often. Not because I can't hold a conversation on a few of the subjects, but because I rarely find anyone capable of holding their own in one. I get tired of hearing myself speak while their eyes glaze over in disinterest or counter with opinions instead of fact, then pat me on the head (usually figuratively but sometimes literally
) as if I were a little girl wearing Mommy's high heels and lipstick.It makes little difference if they overlap, it is mutually exclusive in the minds of the masses, when a woman is browsing hundred of profiles she wouldn't pause on every profile analyzing stuff (oh this guy has a nerdy side but he is cool too..), she would quickly label the thing and goes on.
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