Giving up

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Well. Call me autistic but the point isn't what he would or wouldn't find offensive and hurtful - the point is whether what we/you said can be construed as a an in/direct personal attack by the Moderators.

And call me autistic again, but I completely failed to get the daddy references.

Indeed so.

Perhaps Woodster himself should explain why he was telling me to refer to him as being my father.

I guess depends on the person. I usually prefer people to impose their view on me if they think what I think is not completely true. Because that can expand my mind. Sometimes, I am so obsessive with my thoughts that it takes a lot of imposing in order for me to see other perspective and I appreciate people go extra miles to do that to correct me. Unfortunately, I also agree with Leafplant that 99% people don't like to be imposed and helped. It actually improves our relationship with people if we stop ourselves trying to help people with our good intention. I found that our mind are very rigid and narrow compared to NT, so most of time our comments will not be well received and people think we are attacking/criticise/push them, while we have every good intention to try to help. This leads to our rejection from others and our disappointment for our own good effort. I guess these failures are due to my expectation people will be willing to listen to others' input same as me, while the truth is the opposite. So due to my lack of empathy, I always stumble on situations like that.

Hey all, OP here.
I'm still trying to work out if the guy just doesn't want to be in a relationship at the moment or if he doesn't want to be in one with me.
Either way it would mean I'm stuffed for now, but one would mean that the future was still open.

You see the problem there? Why try to act NT when all you have to do is take off the NT mask and ask the guy straight out.

I did at one point give up, but then I slowly realized that I shouldn't be doing that.

OP, have faith. It will happen for you.

I agree.
The possibilities for the future are multitudinous.

And once I find true love, I will finally fulfill my L.A. dream.