goldfish21
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03 Jan 2014, 10:43 pm
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Because no one is flawless.... And let's face it guys, most humans get a significant other before age 25, anyone who is still failing to get a SO after that age only means that there's a fundemental flaw or group of flaws in him/her. That goes for hale, for you, for Yuzu, for bill, for hurtloam, for me and for 90% of guys here.
Correct, no one is flawless.. but when it comes to love, others flaws become perfectly imperfect & you come to like them more for having those flaws that make them unique. That's my take on that, anyways.
As for getting a significant other by 25, that depends on whether you mean a boyfriend/girlfriend, or a long term relationship that's likely to result in marriage &/or a life together. I'd say most people have had at least their first serious bf/gf by 25, yes, but I wouldn't say most have "coupled up," by then. In my parents' generation, yes, in mine.. not so much. People are getting married and having kids later and later these days because life has changed so much. It takes years to get a university education, making people 4+ years older when they start getting serious about dating and relationships than previous generations who weren't all but expected to go to uni. Further, financial and economic reasons mean people are cash strapped and living at home with family for years longer than they ever used to - especially around here where I live - so it's become the new normal to be a 30yo adult living at your parents' house and still establishing your career in hopes of future financial independence & the relationship freedoms that come along with that. I'm somewhat fortunate to have this phenomenon of the highest % of adults living at home with their families in the country going on all around me here, plus the various Asian cultures that live together as collectivist culture families forever, so it doesn't seem thaaaat strange that I'm 31 and living at my parents' place. Yes, many of my friends are married and have bought houses and so forth, but I am VERY far from the only one living at my folks' place to save money still. That's why I'm still here now while I work and save up, but initially it was due to AS & other symptoms when they were much stronger a couple years ago and I wasn't working much. Regardless, the new norms here are a nice cover for the fact that I had to move back to my parents' place for a while.
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for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.03 Jan 2014, 10:46 pm
I don't think it's 25 more like 30 , why than do they say 30 is the new 20 ,
they lie btw 
03 Jan 2014, 11:56 pm
Eureka13 wrote:
buffinator wrote:
my profile http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Keithf90 - note: I have found I get exponentially more interest the less information about myself I have... which is a bad sign. If some people will pm me and agree to look at my profile I will change it or create an alternate to field test it.
I finally put up an empty profile so I could go read everyone else's (I promise, some day I'll fill it in, and then I'll post it up for critique).
Buff, if you weren't 35 years younger than me, I'd want to meet you based on your profile! It made me laugh several times, and you are hella cute.
Hmmm, probably shouldn't link you that cougers thinking-in-text post lol
(I was going to say, I keep seeing you posting on the same threads as me, are you following me?)
aussiebloke wrote:
i'll stop posting on this thread I think I may end up looking like a creeptard.
You are kind of posting a crapton of short posts. if you have a lot of things to say, try to consolidate and wait for a few other people to get a word in edgewise before you post again. Also, hale bop stated previously that she did not want us to focus only on her profile so one or two posts on her was fine but after that it was too much. You should take a look at the other profiles and if you have an opinion feel free to state it. try not to get too caught up on one person, she was mostly just trying to make other people feel comfortable posting their own profile by posting hers. Why don't you find a different profile and make 1 post to review it?
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I did look at the other ones it's just some of the things she wrote on her profile really resonated with me and that hardly ever happens 
and I get a little carried away , since she like smart bums I was going to have a joke at her expense regarding the tittle of this thread though I better not after todays efforts
ps she has a strange way of going about it all
04 Jan 2014, 1:23 am
salamandaqwerty wrote:
:lmao: this kind of frustrating miscommunication reminds me why i love us aspies
agreed 1/2 the time I think people here are attacking me when their not
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04 Jan 2014, 2:54 am
You're right, it will be because I'm a socially awkward aspergers spaz.
Don't know why I asked really. 
04 Jan 2014, 2:58 am
hale_bopp wrote:
You're right, it will be because I'm a socially awkward aspergers spaz.
Don't know why I asked really.
Don't know why I asked really.
I think you were on to something when you talked about low self-esteem being a problem. Low self-esteem affects how we act in ways that make us unattractive.
I wish we (both of us) did not have AS because those unexplained rejections do a number on your self-esteem.
04 Jan 2014, 3:28 am
hale_bopp wrote:
You're right, it will be because I'm a socially awkward aspergers spaz.
Don't know why I asked really.
Don't know why I asked really.
who are you responding to ?
oh the rejection thing at least she has family not all of us are adorable enough to have family who care I'm mildly jealous of these people
