Do racial preferences make you a racist?

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What's a Who nose?

That's actually kind of what you're saying lol. Also keep your ugly blue eyes. And your Who nose.

So people who have preferences for eye colour, say blue eyes, that meet people who they are really compatible with and share a lot of interests and that they enjoy the company of but don't have blue eyes won't date those compatible people just because they don't conform to meaningless physical characteristics that have nothing to do with who the person is inside, those people with those shallow preferences are understandable and not idiots? Because they strike me as idiotic.

All the guys I have dated (less than a dozen, but a decent sampling) have been different from each other in their physical characteristics--some were short and some tall, some dark and swarthy and some light and pale, blue eyes, brown eyes, light fine straight hair and dark kinky/curly hair, round faces and square faces, and different races and nationalities. The only things they really had in common with each other is that they had some personal characteristics that made them attractive to me, something about their personalities drew me to them and made them interesting. That's the way human relationships are built. If you're only looking for casual sex then maybe it makes sense to concentrate solely on physical features, but if your aim is to form meaningful relationships with other humans then you have to look at more than physical features our you are going to be perpetually disappointed and unable to make lasting connections with people.

People's skin colour has nothing to do with who they are inside--it dictates nothing about their personalities or interests and therefore makes no sense to use as a quality to judge compatibility. If you look at another human and all you can see is a skin colour that you don't find attractive rather than the unique qualities of the person inhabiting that skin, then yeah you are a racist person.

Let me put it this way. Would you date someone you weren't physically attracted to? Most people would say no.

If you didn't find yourself physically attracted to the vast majority of members of a certain race, would you consider yourself racist for not dating people of that race?

Who a person is on the inside is of course important, but the physical attraction you feel towards someone is what sets a relationship aside from a friendship. If you refuse to have friends of other races, yeah, you probably are racist. But to not be attracted to the overwhelming majority of members belonging to a particular race is hardly something you can control.

You must feel very mature. Resorting to ad hominems because I'm presenting an opinion that you don't agree with.

No, but it's still funny lol. Like Noah fence but I dont really think your opinion matters and you don't know what the hell you're talking about. Sure I could continue arguing with wall or I could could just make fun of your unfortunate nose and not feel bad because you're clearly racist and in denial.

It's like saying Jap for Japanese. It is considered offensive.

It's kind of amazing--and very sad--how many people can't see that (or simply don't want to because they don't want to have to address their mindset about certain things.) Seems like it's mostly white dudes with that attitude, too. Why does that aspect of it not surprise me, that white dudes would be more prone to "racial preferences" in dating?

All the guys I have dated (less than a dozen, but a decent sampling) have been different from each other in their physical characteristics--some were short and some tall, some dark and swarthy and some light and pale, blue eyes, brown eyes, light fine straight hair and dark kinky/curly hair, round faces and square faces, and different races and nationalities. The only things they really had in common with each other is that they had some personal characteristics that made them attractive to me, something about their personalities drew me to them and made them interesting. That's the way human relationships are built. If you're only looking for casual sex then maybe it makes sense to concentrate solely on physical features, but if your aim is to form meaningful relationships with other humans then you have to look at more than physical features our you are going to be perpetually disappointed and unable to make lasting connections with people.

And I am not attracted to blacks and don't find any of their features attractive at all. Their lips don’t appeal to me for example; I wouldn’t want to kiss those lips.

See, this is a racist statement. I personally have seen many thousands of black faces in my lifetime, and all of the black people I have seen had different lips from each other. There is no such thing as "black lips"--black people can have thin or thick lips, them all having thick lips is a racist stereotype that is not accurate. This is what we mean when we say it is racist to have these preferences--you have this picture in your head of what a black person looks like that is inaccurate and comes from the racist influence of ignorant white culture that you steep yourself in.

Assuming all the people of a certain race are going to have the same features is racist. I am continually amazed at the level of denial and ignorance in this thread. Like, I knew WP had some dedicated racist members but I had no idea the amount of subconscious racism that people are willing to live with and perpetuate rather than acknowledge and try to change about themselves. It's really disappointing and makes me embarrassed right now to be white and also to be a member of this forum.

You guys in denial are making me look bad by association and I don't appreciate that. Get over yourselves and realise that people of other races are not a monolith and don't all look the same and have the same features. It's pathetic and gross and wrong and damaging to have ideas like that. White people are not the only kinds of people who vary from individual to individual in their facial features--this fact should not have to be stated to adults with working brains that are not cognitively challenged, there is NO excuse for perpetuating that kind of racist ignorance.

If people can change who they are attractive to, then logically they'd be able to change what sex they are attracted to. But what no it's constantly defended(rightfully so) that being gay or straight isn't a choice, that one can't choose which gender they are attracted to. If you take that position then the logical step is if one can't chose what gender they are attracted to, then one can't change who their attracted to at all.

I can't make myself be attracted to a person I find unattractive anymore then I could make myself feel attractive to men.

Now that's racism, not your preference.

It totally explains my Tinder experiment: viewtopic.php?t=275336

The "Whiter" the country, the way less matches I got.

And I know some might attack me for saying this:

I know that racism exists in all races, including Middle Easterns (and many Middle Easterns living in Middle-East self-identify as "Whites" and have some even have racist attitudes against Asians and Africans; Far-Southern Egyptians are called blacks by other Egyptians while them call them whites) , but I find it most appallingly common among Whites in general and European/American Whites in particular, racism is really an especially White trademark -

Personally, I have NEVER EVER got any racist remarks from Asians, Africans, Indians and Native Americans (online and offline alike) I have yet to meet a POC person saying a racist remark to me even though many of them identify me as White, such remarks always come from Whites' mouths, I am talking from my entirely personal experience over years.