sly279 wrote:
black0441 wrote:
sly279 wrote:
Go read lots of threads in this sub forum guys are constantly told they can't and that it must be why their not getting dats.
On a broader term guys who reject a woman because she's fat have always been bashed in the media. And it's become the stereotype of what all men are like.
It's not fair to bash men who only dat thin women but then defend women who only date thin men.
Can you provide a concrete example of this? I have lived in the US for many years, and have barely even seen any fat women in the media. I have seen lots of movies where fat guys get thin women, though. I think you have it backward.
Don't you think all the fat bitter women you referred to above are being told by their friends to lower their standards as well?
I don't even know what the sides are here. I'm saying there are billions of people on the planet who are all different, and each deserves to be treated as an individual. I know this for a fact: I'm an overweight man, and no one has ever once told me I'm not allowed to be attracted to thin women. I can't even conceive of that happening.
Start posting about how your lonely and such and your start conceiving it a lot.
Just in this thread I believe they told me and outrider we can't. I'm told it a lot . I don't even go for thin women. They just assume I do.
I do not see anywhere in this thread where everyone was telling you or anyone else that they 'cant' be attracted to what they want. If anything it might be some of your attitude that might lower your chances of getting a relationship, but even if someone here tries to imply you can't or shouldn't do something why do you listen to them...no one here has any control over what you do with your life. But really even a woman who doesn't expect some well to do guy with their own house, car and well paying career are going to be turned away by someone who seems very bitter all around. I mean if you just assume every women fits your generalizations then how will you mask your disdain for women if you did end up in a conversation with someone potentially intrested?
I mean granted when I got with my boyfriend he mentioned some crappy dates, and things he found difficult in finding a relationship so he wasn't just pretending their aren't picky shallow women....but if he had talked my ear off about everything he hates about women in a generalizing manner like you do I wouldn't have wanted to see him again as I wouldn't want to be around someone who's constantly saying negative things about the female sex which I did not choose to be born as.
Point is it makes sense to vent, hell I can even be caught complaining about terrible yuppie women and petty ones that seem they never mentally graduated highschool or b*tchy ones but constantly taking the most negative traits you've seen in some women and applying it to them all is a bit unfair. Do you like if someone negatively generalizes males across the board? and constantly contradicts anything a guys say about themselves with more generalizations as if the generalizations overrule the individual persons actual behavior, personality and way they see them-self.
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