Is it unfair of me to ask my gf for a prenup in this case?

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So she still is even after saying this and apologizing? She said that the reason why she acted this way is because I went behind her back and that made her angry in the heat of the moment, so was it my doing?

I copied and reposted this message from before in the forum, this is what she said:

Well today my gf asked if we could go see a venue for booking a wedding at this wednesday. I told that her that I was scheduled to see a lawyer at the time. She was bothered by this. I told her that even if we don't get a prenup, she said before she was open to other financial options she said such as having separate accounts and funds. I told her I am just going over all of it with a lawyer to see what the financial options are in general.

She then acted like she was not okay with this now, even though she said she was willing to have it as a compromise instead of a prenup before.

She then was really bothered by this and said that I need to grow a pair of balls, and should have told her I was going to see a lawyer.

I told her before that I might see a lawyer next week, but she didn't ask me about it since I made the plan and I didn't tell her. Now that she asked what I was doing that day, I told her and I was honest.

I told her that my balls are telling that I should stick the appointment since I made it first, and I will give you other free times next week instead for us to look at venues.

She then said that she is no longer going to have sex with me for a long time now. Hmmm... okay???

Did I go behind her back or something again by only telling her I might see a lawyer, and not confirming the appointment?

A few minutes later she came back and apologized saying she overreacted and that she just wants me to be upfront with her about such appointments and wish I wouldn't have went behind her back with seeing the lawyer in the first place.

Thanks for reading.

Some of these threads are like soap operas

This woman sounds manipulative, childish and like she doesn't respect you. I would get out now before it's too late. Not the kind of character you would want in a wife and mother of your children, surely? Maybe in the future you will be glad this whole pre nup issue came up, so it brought to light the issues and made you realise this is NOT the woman for you. In a way this is a test, and she most certainly has failed.

Well as far as sex goes she is good on that now and said she did not mean what she said and now wants to have it. But now I don't and am turned off or at least pondering what to do next.

So basically her telling me those remarks, has nothing to do what I did before and she was being manipulating then, even if she apologized later and said it was in the heat of the moment anger?

I think she is backtracking now and apologizing because you stood up for yourself. The thing is, you saw the "real her" before that.

Reminds me of my friend that I was friends with for over 25 yrs. She got drunk one night and said horrible things and did horrible things that the friendship could never be repaired because the trust was gone. I never talked to her again after that night. I actually had to cut off the entire group of friends because they still wanted her in the group. Sometimes you have to cut people off for your own good.

I can't help wondering why you are taking advice from people who have never had a successful relationship.

Who, people on here?

Well I wanted some place to go for advice, that wasn't my friends, who's opinion can be bias since they are in the same group as her and me.

Thank you all for your advice and opinions.

Is the prenup issue the only issue she is being manipulative on, or are there others?