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The_Face_of_Boo
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28 Jan 2017, 3:20 am

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^damn if most women are so shallow and judgmental I am beginning to wonder why some of you here even want girlfriends....why would you want to share your life with someone you initially assume all those nasty things about?


Good point


No, it is a bad point and totally nonesense:

First, I never said.

Second, even if theoretically most people are that shallow and judgmental, it is still a very basic human need to be wanting a life partner.


Its not nonsense, if you by default assume any woman you talk to is a shallow jerk who only likes tall guys and will cheat on a whim and things like that...why would you be interested in a relationship with one of those terrible creatures?


It is a fact that most women like men taller than them, it is not an unfair assumption.

and I didn't say any of what you are saying.
It's so funny that me showing a screenshot of a one woman's attitude toward short height angered you that much, and took it personally and you expanded it as if it's targeted at you and at all women.

As if it is it hit a nerve. Your problem though that you are so extremely pro-[any womam] defender.

Notice that I didn't even call this one a terrible creature or anything.

Ok, we get it, you are not like this, and many are not like this too, we get it- but this one example turned out to be like this- and I am gonna keep posting conversations regardless of attitude (ie if she said she doesn't care of height I would have posted that too.).

I was saying it is a good tactic for filtering before meeting up. Re-read my post again.

You are just annoying me with accusations, leave me alone - Bug off.



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28 Jan 2017, 3:51 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
It is a fact that most women like men taller than them, it is not an unfair assumption.
No they don't. If that was true they'd like me.


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28 Jan 2017, 3:53 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:
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It is a fact that most women like men taller than them, it is not an unfair assumption.
No they don't. If that was true they'd like me.


ok, maybe like wasn't the right word, I meant 'prefer'.



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28 Jan 2017, 5:22 pm

RetroGamer87 wrote:
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It is a fact that most women like men taller than them, it is not an unfair assumption.
No they don't. If that was true they'd like me.


This woman turned out to be nice, not because she doesn't mind my height, but because she messaged me (she chatted before with the real me and she recognized me from the profile the fake me showed it to her) and warned me not to meet this [fake me]

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but she has a bf, lucky him.



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28 Jan 2017, 5:55 pm

It's been my experience girls already in happy relationships tend to be nicer and more honest. Pretty natural occurrence when they don't assume every guy wants to sleep with them I guess. Still, pretty stark contrast between them and those that do, or are trying to substitute lack of emotional connection with their partners with me and yet blaming me for supposedly wanting more. So backwards, the mental gymnastics some of these lunatics go through to spare their ego.


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01 Feb 2017, 2:31 pm

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Did it lead to you finding true love, or even just simple dates? For me, it had mostly brought simple dates but nothing beyond that. It's quite difficult finding true love on there, but I think its possible, and it can be a great alternative especially for those of us having social issues and difficulties.


Dating sites have been a massive part of my life for almost 20 years. I think I've only had one brief relationship that did not start on a dating site... I've always been clueless when it comes to noticing other people's attraction towards me (other people had to literally tell me: "Hey, X likes you, have you noticed?"), so at least that step can be skipped on dating sites :D I dated quite a few people, I married (and later divorced) one, I met my current boyfriend on a dating site too, so it was a mix of serious and less serious encounters and relationships.
Pretty good experience overall, but some people are very prone to going back to dating sites WHILE being in a relationship and some are serial cheaters. Some just like having multiple partners at the same time and all the drama that comes with it. Some lie about very important matters (like let's say being married already...).
Still, in "real life" I tend to attract attention of narcissistic controlling people or men 10 years younger who are looking for a mother, so I'll stick to my dating sites :D



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05 Feb 2017, 3:46 pm

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I feel sorry for you men, women can be vicious and soooo fake!

Every time I'm honest on dating sites, I never seem to find matches...

Here would be my dating profile:

Hi, I'm **** and I'm quite different from a lot of girls. I don't like to party and get wasted every weekend, I'd much rather stay at home and play vidya games and watch sh***y movies.

I'm a childfree woman so if you want children, good luck finding a uterus somewhere else. (this is a serious deal breaker for me)

Don't worry, I'm not a feminist, I just don't want children. I won't scream "RAPE" if you hold the door open for me;)

Want to get married? don't worry about a diamond ring! or a wedding for that matter. I'm totally fine with just signing papers and having a kick ass honeymoon (money better well spent)!

All I ask for in a guy is that he's honest, loyal, has a sense of humor, has a spine, and doesn't have anger issues.

I also love giving gifts, whether they're store bought or hand made by me^^


Well, you'd have my upvote/swipe right/whatever other method of approval. :)


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05 Feb 2017, 4:55 pm

Child-free women are the best!

I feel so objectified when breeder women only see me as a sperm donor and not as a person.


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05 Feb 2017, 5:30 pm

Wolfram87 wrote:
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I feel sorry for you men, women can be vicious and soooo fake!

Every time I'm honest on dating sites, I never seem to find matches...

Here would be my dating profile:

Hi, I'm **** and I'm quite different from a lot of girls. I don't like to party and get wasted every weekend, I'd much rather stay at home and play vidya games and watch sh***y movies.

I'm a childfree woman so if you want children, good luck finding a uterus somewhere else. (this is a serious deal breaker for me)

Don't worry, I'm not a feminist, I just don't want children. I won't scream "RAPE" if you hold the door open for me;)

Want to get married? don't worry about a diamond ring! or a wedding for that matter. I'm totally fine with just signing papers and having a kick ass honeymoon (money better well spent)!

All I ask for in a guy is that he's honest, loyal, has a sense of humor, has a spine, and doesn't have anger issues.

I also love giving gifts, whether they're store bought or hand made by me^^


Well, you'd have my upvote/swipe right/whatever other method of approval. :)


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05 Feb 2017, 8:59 pm

I don't know if it really work, I'm using it since 2013 and nothing.



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06 Feb 2017, 3:50 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:
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It is a fact that most women like men taller than them, it is not an unfair assumption.
No they don't. If that was true they'd like me.

It's not only about being tall or short, there are many factors.



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06 Feb 2017, 4:08 am

Peacesells wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
It is a fact that most women like men taller than them, it is not an unfair assumption.
No they don't. If that was true they'd like me.

It's not only about being tall or short, there are many factors.


True, I don't know why it's so hard to understand.

It's like when you are applying for a job, if you don't have the degree they are seeking for, they won't consider the other stuff further.
But if you have this degree, it not guaranteed to win the job because they have other requirements to consider such number of experience, skills...etc.

And if you are shorter than the woman, and she (as typically often the case) wants a man taller than her, that's it, that's the end of the story - she won't consider the other stuff further more, it would be an automatic "No chemistry" from her part.
If you are taller, then you pass only the first requirement, but that's all.



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06 Feb 2017, 4:16 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Peacesells wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
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It is a fact that most women like men taller than them, it is not an unfair assumption.
No they don't. If that was true they'd like me.

It's not only about being tall or short, there are many factors.


True, I don't know why it's so hard to understand.

It's like when you are applying for a job, if they don't have the degree they are seeking for, they won't consider the other stuff further.
But if you have this degree, it not guaranteed to win the job because they have other requirements to consider such number of experience, skills...etc.

And if you are shorter than the woman, and she (as typically often the case) wants a man taller than her, that's it, that's the end of the story - she won't consider the other stuff further more, it would be an automatic "No chemistry" from her part.
If you are taller, then you pass only the first requirement, but that's all.

I think that in many cases it's not about being taller than her. Even if you are, but you are still short, it would be the same.



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06 Feb 2017, 5:00 am

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I think that in many cases it's not about being taller than her. Even if you are, but you are still short, it would be the same.

Yes, sometimes tall means taller than average.

Also, even if you meet all requirements for a job, it doesn't mean that you are guaranteed to get it. Maybe the other candidate had other desirable qualities.



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06 Feb 2017, 6:48 am

My first girlfriend was 5'5" and she said she wouldn't mind dating a guy who was shorter than her.


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06 Feb 2017, 9:32 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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RetroGamer87 wrote:
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It is a fact that most women like men taller than them, it is not an unfair assumption.
No they don't. If that was true they'd like me.

It's not only about being tall or short, there are many factors.


True, I don't know why it's so hard to understand.

It's like when you are applying for a job, if you don't have the degree they are seeking for, they won't consider the other stuff further.
But if you have this degree, it not guaranteed to win the job because they have other requirements to consider such number of experience, skills...etc.

And if you are shorter than the woman, and she (as typically often the case) wants a man taller than her, that's it, that's the end of the story - she won't consider the other stuff further more, it would be an automatic "No chemistry" from her part.
If you are taller, then you pass only the first requirement, but that's all.


And why are you so certain that the height preference would necessarily be a requirement? What if she has a stronger preference for other traits/characteristics, then isn't it possible the height would be overlooked? Perhaps most women have a preference for taller males, but I think you'd have a harder time arguing that it's a requirement of most women. 8)

I have a preference for long hair, guess what my boyfriend does not have? But turned out my hair length preference didn't really matter much in the end as there is so much else to like about him, well and he has a beard so it sort of makes up for it.


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