Women asking guys out?

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One is dark-skinned, with a sort of funny-looking nose. The other is a blonde, slightly overweight, looks sort of Irish.

Sly: when a British lady says you’re a good-looking bloke, I’d take it seriously.

They wound never call somebody who’s not a “real man” a “bloke.”

What British lady said I, good looking?

I'll have to look. It was in the photo section in Members Only, I believe. You posted your picture there. She said that you're a "pretty good-looking bloke."

Lotta off topic messages here !



Frankly folks chill.
A message for Smoke andsummers.

Be happy you asked him out. It took bravery and strength. Becareful not to obsess about him or more often ive seen obsess about falling for him. Many ive seen fall in love with the concept of love.

Anyhoot hopefully youll find someone else to ask out. There are guys out there waiting. Youll flatter them amd make them feel alive.
Maybe somone on the spectrum whose also struggling in love matters ?

I should know.
Im an otomen. Im waiting for "miss right" to ask me out.

I'm assuming this must have been 8+ years ago when online dating was at its zenith.

I know a very pretty woman who gets maybe 7-10 messages a week on average. The other girls I know are ordinary-looking and get messaged around a few times a month. Even the super photogenic people stop getting loads of messages after a certain amount of time because the longer your account has been in the system, the less frequently you are factored into the site's algorithm. The playing field eventually gets evened out to some extent. And the stream of initial messages are usually just man-spam.... stuff like "I wanna give you rough anal tonight" and rarely ever signs of genuine interest as a human being.

I found that my "success" was directly related to the type of photo I used. When I had a traditional portrait-style work resume photo, absolutely ZERO people contacted me. I changed it to a more relaxed selfie with ample cleavage, and suddenly my inbox was flooded. However, they were mostly just man-spam (equivalent to catcallers on the sidewalk) and even they stopped coming in after a few weeks. When I tried to respond and get a conversation going, it would usually fizzle out after a few messages. In total, I only ended up getting 2 dates from OKCupid.




If you approach a woman with the attitude of "well, you'll do" how on earth could you expect her to want to go out with you? Nothing is a huger turn-off than a guy who's just rolling up on you because he's desperate and any woman will suffice for him. It's always extremely obvious.

Huh. I didn’t say I do thst. 1. I don’t approach women at all anymore. I solely use dating sites. Takes me months to be able to approach women and they reject me for same reason women online do, but it’s worse cause it’s in person in front of others and I have to see her and them every day. So atleast online it’s quick and I never see them again.

But it was others who suggested I dat women I find ugly not me say I do. I would not date women I find ugly, though I should probably consider and tell them I’m asexual and just mastubate when they aren’t around.
I also don’t date smokers, and couldn’t be with a dog owner. I just don’t give a rats ass about money and social status and find most women beautiful which is horrible
The women I approached were women I’d gotten deep crushes on. For their personality

No, it's not always extremely obvious.

If he's hot, you won't even notice it. That what good looking playboys do.

/Please ladies, stop claiming to have vibe-detection powers, in real life there's no such thing - you don't have such powers, these are lies you learn from women's magazines.

Statistically, this is impossible.

There are at least 20 active men to 1 woman on okcupid, I am not exaggerating - I did sampling on this, take a look:

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Develop your own style. And make people laugh.

Here, a screenshot from my newly fake female okc profile, note that Okcupid changed the way of message - now they don't allow initial messages with a mutual match first:

Profile is empty, with a fairly good looking girl picture.




336 likes, for god sake, 336..... this is about equal to a whole battalion unit in some army.



Let's assume that 90% will message s**t if I mutually like them, 30+ guys...still a lot of dates to pick from.

So yeah, I am not gonna buy the typical stories such "I know that pretty girl who only gets 1 message per month..." (who probably lives in some desert town, or that girl is lying to you).

I am not your typical naive guy who believes everything said on an internet forum - sorry.

and after starting "liking back" to see how many of these guys will message me, I got this in less than 10 minutes:

Jesus Christ and everything holy!! look at the time differences between the messages! as if these guys are all awake haunting okc, waiting for someone to like them back XD .....







"We don't get many messages" - yeah, riiiiight.

...even the Israeli men are messaging 'her', from a country which we are in a state of war with.

I love the way you say that.

Wanting to get one's rod dipped in wetness is universal among men.

It's like Stock market, but never decreases: