Rejection per Peanut Butter

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Owww i know she's a blasphemer and a pagan and ought to be stoned for her choice of a bread spread, but really, if only you'd realise that conversion takes time.

For reference, here is another few messages between us.

Her: "Sanity is relative."

Me: "Insanity *is* my relative. It's my father's uncle's nephew's cousin's dentist's ex wife's dentist's pastor's former roommate. On my mother's side."

Her: "LOL. Is that a joke?"

Me: "No, it's my father's uncle's nephew's cousin's dentist's... yes, it's a joke."

So it isn't like that's the first joke like I told her, or that she didn't find the other jokes funny.

I get that it was a joke. I get that you joked around a lot. I’m just saying that any time you effectively tell someone to eff off, I don’t care what you like, they will often tend to miss the humor.

I told a joke a while back. Long story short, a co-worker had been rude to me. I mean, it was an on-going thing that she’d been rude. So I reacted to it. It wasn’t intended to be offensive. Everyone knows it’s out of character for me to say that kind of thing and actually mean it. But on that particular day she decided to be a b!tch about it and I almost lost my job.

So I do sympathize with you. But unless you don’t mind this kind of thing becoming a pattern, you MIGHT want to tweak your humor slightly. People expect me to be a monotone, humorless, zero-personality robot, otherwise I lose them. Geez...who’d think people prefer the mindless drone? But it is what it is. For the most part you’re probably ok. Just be a little more careful.

People frequently laugh at jokes to be polite, not because they think they’re funny.

I think the fact that she asked you if you were telling a joke indicates that she didn’t really find it funny.

Yes, I was going to say this too. People often type LOL because they realize that the person was trying to tell a joke or be funny, so the appropriate polite response is to type out LOL. As you weren't actually speaking with her, you have no idea whether she was actually laughing or not or even found the jokes amusing for that matter.

When the time came to be serious, and she said she preferred to meet in person, you threw out another joke, which made no sense in context of the comment.

So no, of course she was not offended by peanut butter. My sense is that she possibly had already decided BEFORE the peanut butter comment that she was not going to meet you at all because she had already decided you two were not a good fit.

Which is fine, her response may not have been completely appropriate - so you dodged a bullet then and haven't lost anything. Move along and work on meeting someone with whom you do have a connection.

I don’t laugh at most things. If I know something is supposed to be a joke, I go along with it, per Twilight’s post.

I found the joke funny and harmless followed by much ado about nothing.

You and ThisAdamsGuy should get together then - you're a match!

Lol no. I don't think my husband would approve.
And yes, I do like that kind of quirky humour.

Many intelligent people like quirky humor.

this all is enough to make my head spin

I don’t get why you made a thread about it, if it wasn’t digging for other people to chuck off at the person.

If it was me, I say random things all the time, I would assume its a bad match and move on.

I would not have reacted to your comment like that. I’m only open to dating men who are different. But people do, and for a reason.

I’m sure it would have been less of a problem if you had voice tones or a general feel about the conversation, which texting doesn’t offer.

I am the most misunderstood online. People apply tones that are not there.

Just chalk it up to a bad experience and leave it.

Because it was funny. It caused many ha has, ho hos, and even a couple hee hees to come out of my mouth. I wanted to share this so that other people could experience the laughter sounds of merriment.

with some people, if you're not perfect around them all the time, they get mightily peeved.

^ Please don’t act like you know me.