Getting really tired of this.

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Maybe there is nothing to do, other than accept that I'm "different" and some people will notice that. Some people have even appreciated it. Both of these folks noticed but still asked me for a second date.
I have myself figured out, I don't know if I should try to complicate it more by undoing a metaphorical solved Rubik's cube (it's just that some of the stickers are in the wrong place, but it's no big deal).

We have to learn not to overestimate or nonverbal skills because of a Dunning–Kruger effect that is related to our lack of nonverbal communication skills and theory of mind.

So they are either liking you or are hoping for sex only or both. Hard to tell for a woman on the spectrum but NT women aren't always good at this as well.

Just this. If it is beyond our limits to solve a problem then we have to accept the partial solution until we improve.

It's rare that I hear anything positive beyond the binary fact of whether or not people know I have it.

Whatever happened to screen savers? I miss them, now monitors just go to sleep now and they wake up when you hit the mouse. I know as of ten years ago we still had them but then we stopped using them around Windows Vista when the monitor would just go to sleep until you touch the mouse pad. I don't think I have seen a screen saver in over ten years now after everyone had switched to flat screen monitors.

There are many positive things about autism. One of them is that we are creative thinkers, we notice interesting things (sometimes I'll notice how shapes line up in my field of vision and I LOVE it), and we are really enthusiastic and knowledgeable about our chosen topics of interest.

I think part of the reason this isn't usually observed by NT folks is because people like me are often hesitant to talk about our autism. So when people think about our positive traits, they don't know to associate those with our autism. "Oh, she's an expert in XYZ, talk to her about it" or "your photography is beautiful, you're very talented." Examples like these could very well be a direct result of ASD, but if we aren't open about our own diagnoses, we can't expect other people to observe such things and associate them with it.

This is really hard for me because I do tend to keep my autism a secret. As much as I believe in advocating for openness about having a disability, I'm still anxious about how people would treat me if they knew.

It's a tricky thing, indeed.

I wish smartphones had screensavers. That would be killer.
I used to stare at that brick wall so much! It mesmerized me. haha

They’re no longer needed on the new flat screens; as you said they auto turn off when idle which is a more eco solution.

For me it's kind of a matter of to what degree people know. I guess people closer to me have gradually learned how I'm affected, or how they see it anyway, thus distancing us from common ground so to speak. It's not that I'm pessimistic about my ability to reconcile with people, it's just an inescapable feeling that my nature will let them down anyway.

I'm busy proving something at work again.

I don't anticipate getting closer to humanity as a result, but maybe that's the only path.

If this ain't my life. Sigh.

I suppose there's nothing stopping people in general from seeing those positive sides of my ASD but I also tend to think they see way too much wrong with me to bother with that train of thought.

All indications are that there will be extremely limited resources for my "capstone" internship project, then maybe I'm jobless.

It's not as if I had anything else going for me. There is no solution that doesn't involve working my ass off. Also, there's probably no solution, period. As much as I'm tired of avoiding people & keeping my head down, it's still basically the only option in a near-lockdown. Nobody is interested in jumping on the same roller coaster I rode into the pandemic while it loops between software projects. Before that my life was too screwed up for words.

Everyone says we have a personality disorder. They can bugger off today.

I'm not really down with the ignorance demonstrated by this society I inhabit at large, to the point of not really wanting to involve myself with anyone.

People rely on presumptions about me instead of ever trying to connect.

Do I think it's fair to base my entire worldview on this? No. Not to anyone, I can't help but feel like a realistic assessment of this scenario eludes everyone though.

Here's an abstraction of my thought process for your time...

This looks like mine too.

I can identify with almost everything posted in this thread. Thank you. I feel less alone.

I'm not saying I can adequately respond to all this on an Android phone. That's not stopping you from witnessing me trying.

I feel like my thread's managed to get other people farther than it did for me.

Frankly I'm amazed. It's all so fleeting, this bandwidth, that LAMP forum hosting scheme.

I love people, that's not saying I'm any good for anybody. A blog I lurked on for half a decade just lost funding & I'm trying to contribute web software feedback a la WP to keep it going because it helps me.

We like fast cars & how they make people smile. Simple as that.

I don't really know if I can give much more.