30 Sep 2020, 6:08 pm
that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
Of course most relationships fail.
Otherwise everyone would stay with the first person they dated forever.
But most of us need to figure out who we are and what we want.
Most of us start dating long before we know ourselves.
Most of us start dating a person before we know them completely.
(And some people can keep unpleasant habits hidden for a while before allowing them to surface).
Staying in a bad relationship just because you don't want it to fail, is not a good idea.
So, yes, most relationships fail. But it's only logical.
Otherwise everyone would stay with the first person they dated forever.
But most of us need to figure out who we are and what we want.
Most of us start dating long before we know ourselves.
Most of us start dating a person before we know them completely.
(And some people can keep unpleasant habits hidden for a while before allowing them to surface).
Staying in a bad relationship just because you don't want it to fail, is not a good idea.
So, yes, most relationships fail. But it's only logical.
Well said. There are many reasons why people remain in bad relationships, none of which end well. I was on the wrong end of one of those. So what that1weirdgrrl says is wise and true.
30 Sep 2020, 6:57 pm
Donald Morton wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Donald Morton wrote:
I have always been a firm believer in that love is something that just happens or it doesn't. When you love someone you know and feel it in your heart. Over time you can come to admire and care for someone, but not love. Someone cannot be made to love you no matter how much you may try or how badly you want him or her to. That's just an idealist speaking.
From my experience, loving someone is a choice.
Love is a combination of hormonal reaction (oxytocin release) and emotion. It is rather robotic to say that one chooses to love someone.
Falling in "luv" with someone who is not attracted to you is infatuation, based on my research.
There needs to be a mutual connection.
This is based on actual definitions, not simply my opinion.
Do you fall in luv with every pretty woman that crosses your path?
I think you need to engage in some metacognition to see what your mind is up to.
"Luv at first sight" is not true luv, btw, though it can become so.
30 Sep 2020, 7:02 pm
that1weirdgrrrl wrote:
Of course most relationships fail.
Otherwise everyone would stay with the first person they dated forever.
But most of us need to figure out who we are and what we want.
Most of us start dating long before we know ourselves.
Most of us start dating a person before we know them completely.
(And some people can keep unpleasant habits hidden for a while before allowing them to surface).
Staying in a bad relationship just because you don't want it to fail, is not a good idea.
So, yes, most relationships fail. But it's only logical.
Otherwise everyone would stay with the first person they dated forever.
But most of us need to figure out who we are and what we want.
Most of us start dating long before we know ourselves.
Most of us start dating a person before we know them completely.
(And some people can keep unpleasant habits hidden for a while before allowing them to surface).
Staying in a bad relationship just because you don't want it to fail, is not a good idea.
So, yes, most relationships fail. But it's only logical.
Agreed.
I am very logical.
I am an aspie Vulcan, after all. V
01 Oct 2020, 12:38 pm
Pepe wrote:
Donald Morton wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Donald Morton wrote:
I have always been a firm believer in that love is something that just happens or it doesn't. When you love someone you know and feel it in your heart. Over time you can come to admire and care for someone, but not love. Someone cannot be made to love you no matter how much you may try or how badly you want him or her to. That's just an idealist speaking.
From my experience, loving someone is a choice.
Love is a combination of hormonal reaction (oxytocin release) and emotion. It is rather robotic to say that one chooses to love someone.
Falling in "luv" with someone who is not attracted to you is infatuation, based on my research.
There needs to be a mutual connection.
This is based on actual definitions, not simply my opinion.
Do you fall in luv with every pretty woman that crosses your path?
I think you need to engage in some metacognition to see what your mind is up to.
"Luv at first sight" is not true luv, btw, though it can become so.
Like I said, "I am an idealist" speaking from experience as you are as mentioned in your opinion. This is a subject very much like politics and religion where differing beliefs simply finding middle ground is a challenge. I respect your opinion, please try not to ridicule mind.
02 Oct 2020, 1:23 am
hartzofspace
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02 Oct 2020, 6:13 pm
Tim_Tex wrote:
hartzofspace wrote:
Pepe wrote:
hartzofspace wrote:
Pepe wrote:
hartzofspace wrote:
Pepe wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Well, as long you find the sex with him AMAZING then you will fall in love with him.
That's how you're programmed.
That's how you're programmed.
A gross generalisation, dude.
It definitely is!
Wow,
Where did you come from?
You certainly keep a low profile.
I haven't been here in awhile.
So, you came back because of me?
H'mm not sure I remember you! But hi!
Welcome back! Long time no see!
Well, it is nice to be remembered!
02 Oct 2020, 6:53 pm
Donald Morton wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Donald Morton wrote:
Pepe wrote:
Donald Morton wrote:
I have always been a firm believer in that love is something that just happens or it doesn't. When you love someone you know and feel it in your heart. Over time you can come to admire and care for someone, but not love. Someone cannot be made to love you no matter how much you may try or how badly you want him or her to. That's just an idealist speaking.
From my experience, loving someone is a choice.
Love is a combination of hormonal reaction (oxytocin release) and emotion. It is rather robotic to say that one chooses to love someone.
Falling in "luv" with someone who is not attracted to you is infatuation, based on my research.
There needs to be a mutual connection.
This is based on actual definitions, not simply my opinion.
Do you fall in luv with every pretty woman that crosses your path?
I think you need to engage in some metacognition to see what your mind is up to.
"Luv at first sight" is not true luv, btw, though it can become so.
Like I said, "I am an idealist" speaking from experience as you are as mentioned in your opinion. This is a subject very much like politics and religion where differing beliefs simply finding middle ground is a challenge. I respect your opinion, please try not to ridicule mind.
You suggested that I was thinking like a robot.
Presumably, you think that is a bad/incorrect thing?
Is that correct?
I disagree with your belief that people have no control over their feelings.
I suggested you analyse your position in a conscious, rational way.
We are all entitled to our own opinion.
How is that disrespectful?
*You* began this confrontational interchange.
I have the right of reply.
06 Oct 2020, 6:25 am
06 Oct 2020, 7:41 am
FeelLikeAnAlien wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Well, as long you find the sex with him AMAZING then you will fall in love with him.
That's how you're programmed.
That's how you're programmed.
I just have to say it
I love your picture
I-
Well then, maybe you want this for your avatar?
07 Oct 2020, 10:25 am
that1weirdgrrrl
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07 Oct 2020, 12:11 pm
amygdala417 wrote:
Hey guys I'm enjoying this thread. Sometimes I just stop interacting w people other than my closest friends unless absolutely necessary, do you guys experience that? And other than that I just had several intense days and haven't been on here.
I wanted to share here because I think it is a safe place? Sort of? And as an austie I know sometimes austies will have surprising answers to things.
I also like the feeling of being able to write down the entire event and my feelings and what I am trying to solve. You can't get the structure of that in spontaneous conversations. I have a journal to sort these things out but a forum is like... the journal talks back to you?
I wanted to share here because I think it is a safe place? Sort of? And as an austie I know sometimes austies will have surprising answers to things.
I also like the feeling of being able to write down the entire event and my feelings and what I am trying to solve. You can't get the structure of that in spontaneous conversations. I have a journal to sort these things out but a forum is like... the journal talks back to you?
I feel like this is a safe place due to the anonymity that lack of photos and real names affords. Others will certainly have differing reasons or disagree entirely... but FWIW I view this as a safe place to discuss problems and receive feedback.
I also think journaling is an excellent practice in self discovery, growth, and perspective. I have been journaling my whole life and reccomend it to everyone
Anyways, I hope you are doing well. I have wondered about you and how things have been going with your guy.
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07 Oct 2020, 3:10 pm
07 Oct 2020, 8:38 pm
amygdala417 wrote:
Hey guys I'm enjoying this thread. Sometimes I just stop interacting w people other than my closest friends unless absolutely necessary, do you guys experience that? And other than that I just had several intense days and haven't been on here.
With you?
Yes, just recently.
We thought you had to "just stop interacting w people".
amygdala417 wrote:
I wanted to share here because I think it is a safe place? Sort of? And as an austie I know sometimes austies will have surprising answers to things.
The "Luv & Dating" forum a "safe place"?
This forum *has been* considered the 3rd most toxic forum on WP, until recently. I haven't seen many indications to suggest it is any longer.
amygdala417 wrote:
I also like the feeling of being able to write down the entire event and my feelings and what I am trying to solve. You can't get the structure of that in spontaneous conversations. I have a journal to sort these things out but a forum is like... the journal talks back to you?
Bare you soul here.
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07 Oct 2020, 8:40 pm
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
FeelLikeAnAlien wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Well, as long you find the sex with him AMAZING then you will fall in love with him.
That's how you're programmed.
That's how you're programmed.
I just have to say it
I love your picture
I-
I-
Am
Boo.
Face of Boo.
You are an evolutionary "Boo Boo".
The_Face_of_Boo
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08 Oct 2020, 12:16 am
Pepe wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
FeelLikeAnAlien wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Well, as long you find the sex with him AMAZING then you will fall in love with him.
That's how you're programmed.
That's how you're programmed.
I just have to say it
I love your picture
I-
I-
Am
Boo.
Face of Boo.
You are an evolutionary "Boo Boo".
Kiss me Pepe, I am so adorable.
08 Oct 2020, 2:39 am
Quote:
Last edited by Feyokien on 08 Oct 2020, 2:54 pm, edited 1 time in total.: inappropriate content Mr. Skunk
Perhaps,
But it was very clever, pertinent and funny.
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