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normal is living from paycheque to paycheque

My family live abnormal lives of "spending slightly less than you earn"

And what has become of those hot girls that shagged the dicks and bullies? I've read that the popular kids don't usually go very far in life.

Good question? attractive girls are still more likely to still drift into the orbit of powerful alpha males. They have the "assets" that draw attention from alpha males.

My sister's best friend in highschool was a tall willowy blonde who was also blessed with an attractive face. Basically a 10 out of 10 on most male gieger counters.

Her family hosted a Chinese exchange student and her father asked her to be his chaperone and help him get to know Melbourne by taking him around. They were quite the pair to see on public transport, a 6ft blonde model and a 5foot chubby Chinese boy with pimples. But something interesting happened. Over time this girl actually began to like the affable cheerful exchange student and enjoyed spending time with him. They would go out to watch movies and for coffee and she starting even confiding things to him,

But there was a problem....it wasn't addressed and it all came out one fine day. She only ever saw this boy as a friend but one day he couldn't contain himself any more. He declared his love for this girl and said they she was all he ever thought about day and night. He asked her if she would be his girlfriend. She was shocked and didn't see this happen (but perhaps if she wasn't so self-absorbed she should have).

She told my sister everything. She eventually sat the boy down and told him that she didn't see him like a possible boyfriend and it created an awkward situation for her because he was living under their roof. She also told her family but they thought it was funny (even her father). The boy was very disappointed but promised to contain his feelings (its likely this was a once in a lifetime opportunity for him).

I tell this story because she subsequently went through a series of bad relationships with alpha men who only saw her "eye candy". She currently lives in Melbourne with her latest guy (she is in her late 40s) and suffers mental health issues including severe depression. I often wonder whether she remembers the chubby little chinese boy who actually loved her and how life might have changed if she looked past his physical appearance and saw that he was perhaps the only male who actually really loved her.

You can’t force anyone to like what they find unattractive.

Anyway, it is funny when such women act “surprised” when a male friend admits love/crush after hanging out with him “one to one” for ages, like.... Really?

He really loved her or he were infatuated in her 10/10 attractiveness like everyone else.
You can't really tell.
The story is very nice to read, did you ever consider a career as an author? However, in real life, I wouldn't find their chances of a healthy long-term relationship high, if she didn't find him attractive.

I thought the same at the time too. But my sister thought that because average males were so intimidated by her she became conditioned to think they "knew their place" so she might have has a princess complex.

Thanks, I suppose I am creative but never thought about it Magz.

Yes you are right, I think he probably was infatuated. I will give my sister's friend some credit that she was very patient with him. I think she really enjoyed his company otherwise she would not volunteer so much time.

But on the flipside she knew she was attractive and was very self-confident always having male admirers. My limited experience talking to her was only because of my sister. Otherwise we would never have crossed paths.

Firstly, "self-absorbed"?
Being a nice person is self-absorbed?

Rather, I would suggest she was naive about the effect of a beautiful face on an average guy.
This is why attractive women are wary of showing affection/consideration.
Men often misinterpret the intent.
"Blame the evolutionary process."


Yup. But he was, after all, unrealistic.



Oh, please. lol
*You* weren't that cubby little China*se guy, were you?

You don't seem to understand the "Natural Selection" game.
Overwhelmingly, we each try and find a partner that is at least equal, but preferably in a higher "league".

The beautiful woman had every right to try and meet someone of her own "calibre".
That is the way the world works.

BTW, You say she is in her 40's and lives in Melbourne?
Do you have her phone number, perchance?

Precisely.



Yes, some women are just nice and are unaware of the influence they have on men.
I should know.
I was a woman in a past life.

I actually found cyber's story disturbing.
It had a whiff of schadenfreude in it.

That's why I intentionally downplay my attractivenes. Otherwise, I couldn't enjoy hanging out with friends without making things awkward.

God.
Listen to yourself.
You have such a negative opinion of the woman.

To me, she sounds like a very caring individual.
She didn't *have* to be nice to the guy.
She actually *liked* him as a person.
That doesn't mean she had to marry him.
Sheesh!

Ummm.

<Pepe considers his options>

-Does he flirt and ask for a picture?
-Does he consider the comment tongue in cheek
-Should he fall in love with a married woman and dedicate his life to her?
-Should he first inquire how big her husband is?

Ya know, magz,
This would have been a good time to have used some emojis.

Well, it is about time you considered the positive about her.
Where is it written, in her "contract", that she has to partner up with someone less attractive?

You do understand that attractiveness is a very important asset, in this life system, and choosing the "right" partner would have benefitted the offspring?
Didn't she have a right to try and do the best for her children?

Unfortunately, it didn't work out for her.
But life is a biatch, after all, right?



<Pepe is gobsmacked>

Being self-confident?
How dare she!!

Unfortunately, I'm serious. I'm not nearly a 10/10 supermodel material - but a healthy weight woman with not a bad face experiences stories like cyberdad's one not that rarely, if she's not careful.
When you're perceived as an attractive woman, suddenly various activities like going to lunch with a coworker become date-ish. That's awful. You can't just enjoy your time with a friend.
You can either go for it and become a princess, you restrict your activities not to risk giving guys false hopes or - as I do - you try to look and behave as asexual as you can so your male friends don't even think of you in terms of an attractive woman.