Majority of autistuc men dont have a girlfriend?

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The quote is by Margaret Atwood. ^


Women's self-esteem can be "killed" by rejection and emotional/psychological abuse too.
It's debilitating for people of all genders, and can happen by partners of all genders.
Many women would rather be dead than endure abuse, just like men.

I'm not derailing from the thread topic, but just clarifying this can happen to anyone.
We're all fragile.

Hugs to all people affected.





RIP Sarah Everard (1987-2021)

more than likely it will always be this way

these are all valid points. But when young men approach a woman they are hyper focused on not embarrassing themselves. Likewise women don't know the man so need to first thing strike off the list that he's not a serial killer, stalker or isn't going to harass/embarrass her.

Women also often worry about embarrassing themselves as well as the guy. It can be extremely awkward to interact with a virtual stranger which is why I generally think that the cold approach is a bad idea. Typically, I would prefer not to be approached at all because it makes me anxious.

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How do women strike those risks off the list?
Do abusers carry abuser ID?

Yeah, it took me till my late 20s. By then I just gave up and thought it was funny getting rejected (been through it so many times before) and for some weird reason it boosted my self-confidence and my sense of humour and for the first time (quite organically) I had lots of female friends. It was also a time in my life where I travelled so I was meeting women internationally.

I get it, putting my brain back in my younger self, I didn't really think about what women go through so my excuse was selective ignorance. I think this sought of mindset would be changed by government advertising on the topic of female harrassment. If young men could see what women were thinking (in a kind of simulated real time) it would change their attitude when seeking female friends or (what is a serious issue right now) how they treat women on dating apps.

I guess you look for signs....

Right.

I guess I forgot! How silly of me! / s

If they were easy to see, fewer people would find themselves in abusive situations/relationships. Abusers are often sneaky and manipulative. Being aware of red flags and exercising caution is good, but it doesn't remove the risk completely.

Yes, unfortunately the men who end up abusers are capable of concealing their dark qualities.

Abusers are often very suave and can sweep people off their feet.
It takes quite a bit of dating experience to learn the hard way.

Most women experience sexual harassment at some point in their lives and 1 in 6 women are the victim of rape or attempted rape. It's a widespread issue.

https://rainn.org/statistics/scope-problem

The statistics are even higher for autistic women, aren't they?

Yes.

Evidence That Nine Autistic Women Out of Ten Have Been Victims of Sexual Violence

There's more and more research centered around this topic, and it all demonstrates that this is a massive issue.

My daughter experienced physical and emotional abuse from both male and female bullies in highschool. She was always blamed as being a co-instigator which was unfair as the other kids were nts. Schools enable this type of behaviour by not dealing with bullying properly and I am sure these little monsters never lose their sociopathic tendencies when they eventually start dating