Do you miss someone right now?

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OK, I've been dreading posting in this thread for months! But, the day is finally here, and I'm completely beside myself. In about six hours, I'm going to take my girlfriend to JFK ... she's leaving to go to India for the summer. She'll be gone for about 10 weeks for a law school internship. I know that doesn't sound as bad as what some people here deal with, but 10 hours without her is too much. We've been together for about 5 years and living together for 3. To say that I'm not self-sufficient would be a huge understatement! Self-insufficient? Is that a word? It should be...

I'm emotionally all over the place about this. Excited for her, devastated for me. How do you reconcile those two states? I'm going to go out of my mind without this girl for the whole summer! I love her to death, she's really my only friend (by choice, pretty much), and we spend all of our free time together. The familiarity is so ingrained ... and I don't know what to do.

My half-wit psychiatrist thinks I should take a cooking class. Is that really my best prospect?

cooking?


I miss someone. ugh. I hate being reminded of just how much. I stood in the mall at the entrance to Hugo Boss for half an hour because it smelled like him.

Yeah. I was like ... really? Not happening. Anyway...


I slept with a well-worn shirt of hers last night, just 'cause it smelled like her. It's tough. And I know you have it way, way, way tougher than I do. Hang in there...

I'll live. Nothing like having that ghost of a reminder.

You could cook her something yummy when she comes home.

LOL ... she actually thought it would be a good idea to shut the gas off before she left. No, that's SO not me!

I guess I'm pretty much resigned to being alone until she gets home in August. I don't really know what else to do. I just "broke up" with my one and only close friend outside of the relationship. Very strange situation... As it came time for my girlfriend to leave, this woman started making all sorts of plans for us to "spend the summer together." And she started saying increasingly disparaging things about my girlfriend. Not nice! I don't know what she hoped to accomplish by doing that, but she went too far one night about two weeks ago, and that was it.

Maybe I'll turn into a craigslist "strictly platonic" friendship whore ... IDK.

RainingRoses,

Please allow me to express my sadness that you will be apart from your lady love for 10 weeks. On the brighter side, please consider this: the kind of requited love you have is as rare as the Hope Diamond. No doubt you realize how fortunate you are and cherish your partner. I laud you for this. BRAVO to you!

In this life, many people never achieve what you have achieved. I am absolutely thrilled for you! And thank goodness you are savvy enough to know how fortunate you are and you act accordingly!

Hugs,
Leslie Lee - A Hopeful Romantic

Thanks, Leslie. That's sweet and really very helpful. And I think you're right about her/us. (Well, more her -- I'm not sure I deserve very much credit.) As I've said here before, in the five years that we've been together, we have never had a fight, argument, disagreement over anything. That amazes me, particularly given that we live together in a 400 sq. ft. apartment with four cats(!) Believe me, I would screw this up if I could ... that's just my nature, unfortunately. But somehow, this relationship just doesn't seem meant to get screwed up.

That obviously doesn't solve the missing her part -- but, in a way, I really should stay focused on the larger issue, as you rightly point out.

My girlfriend died before I got to meet her.

that's very sad.

I used to have a guy I loved very much. Now he's turned into an a**hole who treats me like utter garbage. As much as I hate him now, I miss the way he used to be. </3

I'm missing alot of people right now. Curse my insensitive ways, no-one gets close to me without getting burnt


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I could relate had same experience

Is this guy AS or neurotypical

I was ill last night and that was the worst. I laid in bed wishing I could be held, just having that bit of intimacy.

I was so close to calling him, but I didn't.

SO proud of you for resisting!

Thank you. It was a bad night. The morning has been good. He doesn't need to know I'm vulnerable.