What does your ideal fantasy partner look like?
Judiciously, what matters most to me and anyone I think is the following. It is not specific and not limited to one look or culture:
1. Good health - toned or in shape body, which doesn't mean rake thin. It means that no one area or areas are overly layered with shapeless padding. Physical stamina also helps the spirit and the libido.
2. Self-Confidence. Confidence in who they are and self-directed. Self-assured with little need to seek external validation.
Personal quiet confidence is vitally important to relationships. insecurity and defensives kills relationships.
3. Hygiene and "Beauty Care". I like being granola, but it doesn't mean letting it all go. Every sort of culture either had less body hair, or modified themselves to some degree. Tribal societies worldwide use perfumes and body beautifying rituals. It is not inhuman to paint your self, adorn yourself, or scrape (old tool) shave yourself and create something very appealing. Nothing is more inviting then a smooth, evenly toned body and hair that smells of some nice fragrance.
4. Sexual dimorphism: women should exhibit a womanly shape. Rounded breasts that and bottoms that beckon fertility are a no-brainer. Feminine facial features. The opposite would hold true for the male qualities straight women would seek: strong V shaped upper body. I prefer women with their hips 10-25% wider than their shoulders, with nice moderate to noticeable sized breasts, while many women prefer men with shoulders that are noticeably wider than the man's waist and hips.
That's pretty good, v-shaped upper body, high shoulder to hip ratio, anything else? I never thought of the shoulder to hip thing.
On second thought I think over 10% is pushing it, but I do like the narrow shoulders, wider hips thing. I am also not counting the extra with caused by the upper arms.
Jennifer Love and Kim Kardashian come to mind.
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http://media.photobucket.com/image/kim+ ... 2.jpg?o=76
And definitely at least something along the lines of an hourglass.
...but it's still here...
KIDDING.
no, my "frivolously stupid" original post is not still here.
i deleted it by editing it and deleting the contents.
my announcement that i deleted it is still here and will be until it is chosen not to be archived in the future by site renovators.
(i think know what humor you are referring to however. on the last asperger site that i was a member of, i posted a thread which detailed why i was not interested in posting anything.
it was a long post that itemized all the reasons that i believed were behind the fact that i never had anything to say or write about.
it was an intentionally self defeating post and i watched with eagerness how people responded to it).
really?
this was the pic i posted
i posted the pic in haste. it was the first "female robot" pic i could find that seemed appropriate (when viewed in thumbnail size) and i chose it. when i reviewed my posted message, i realized that find nothing attractive about that picture. i did not want to keep it in my post so i deleted it and the accompanying commentary.
the "personage" in that pic is ugly. her shoulders are bunched up and her clavicles are stark.
she has an attitude represented by her face that i do not identify with, and the designers had to add mammary protuberances to appease the minds of men.
yuck!! !! and that is why i deleted it soon after i posted it.
Hmm.. mine would be short (probably between 4'10" and 5'3"), have big eyes (i'm really a sucker for that), either blonde or black shoulder-length hair, paler skin, a few brown freckles on her cheeks, sexy feet, and I'd also like her to look good with her hair down or in a bun. I also like hoop earrings, sexy open-toe shoes and a flower in her hair.. Haha, yeah I'm weird.
I guess I'll throw in personality too, since looks are only half of a dream girl.
She would be intelligent, wittily sarcastic (so kind of mean, but not too mean), assertive.. I like when a girl isn't afraid to ask when she wants something.. or just goes for it ![]()
I hadn't known this until this year, but I have had repeated lucid dreams about various "figures," people that I know the face and voice of for my whole life because of these repeated dreams. I was really quite startled this year when I discovered that one of those figures is a real person, which I'm still trying to figure out how I could dream their face without knowing they exist. It's making me question a lot of things, but I don't doubt that the characters in my dreamworld have some connection to living persons.
One of those figures was the "friend" archetype, she had blondish-hair most of the time, but other times it seems rather strawberry, and huge eyes. That's how I recalled her face from my dream, the eyes were very memorable. I haven't told anyone around here that I had been dreaming of the person for over 12 or so years, since it seems rather "convenient" to recall faces of "famous" people in an attempt to tie them to your life, but I haven't been able to accept that, since I've always been extremely connected to this dream-reality and those people I've enjoyed seeing every night as I rest. I had decided many years ago that the woman in the dream was likely my physical ideal, since I was so pleased by her presence night after night. Any other physical attraction is probably an extension of the features of that woman, in some ways.
I like a certain aesthetic that hints at serious minded intelligence combined with creativity and sensitivity. In motion, a certain nervous edginess combined with perhaps a hint (or more) of feline grace is also nice. A great voice is a bonus. My husband easily meets these criteria for me.
But in the end, looks means nothing at all if the personality/worldview falls short.
Aesthetic examples of this for me include:
Ralph Fiennes as Oscar is Oscar and Lucinda
Jeremy Irons in Dead Ringers
Matthew Macfadyen as Mr. Darcy in Pride and Prejudice
John Hurt as Winston Smith in 1984
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But in the end, looks means nothing at all if the personality/worldview falls short.
Aesthetic examples of this for me include:
Ralph Fiennes as Oscar is Oscar and Lucinda
Jeremy Irons in Dead Ringers
Matthew Macfadyen as Mr. Darcy in Pride and Prejudice
John Hurt as Winston Smith in 1984
I can see the appeal in your choices, actually. The qualities you described, mainly the "serious-minded intelligence" and creativity/sensitivity, are perfectly represented in those people. Ralph Fiennes, for example, would likely be an excellent face for that archetype.
And I've more than once described him as "feline" in his demeanor. I don't know why. He seems to switch between that and reptilian, depending on if he's doing an evil part.
i do not know what the last word of your sentence means.
i did not think you really saw the picture so i reposted it
and
so you really saw it and it will live in your memory.
well i am not so easily convinced about her genuineness.
i think she looks genuine on the surface, but i think that just under that metallic skin lurks a human.
i can not be sure she is "solid state" to the core.
One of those figures was the "friend" archetype, she had blondish-hair most of the time, but other times it seems rather strawberry, and huge eyes. That's how I recalled her face from my dream, the eyes were very memorable. I haven't told anyone around here that I had been dreaming of the person for over 12 or so years, since it seems rather "convenient" to recall faces of "famous" people in an attempt to tie them to your life, but I haven't been able to accept that, since I've always been extremely connected to this dream-reality and those people I've enjoyed seeing every night as I rest. I had decided many years ago that the woman in the dream was likely my physical ideal, since I was so pleased by her presence night after night. Any other physical attraction is probably an extension of the features of that woman, in some ways.
It was a dream that helped be get over my crush on that redhead I posted earlier. (I'm no longer very interested in her, but she still looks incredible!)
I also had a dream that I was in some sort of smallish supermarket. There was nobody in the immediate area besides me and one of the employees, who I was talking to. She looked fairly normal - a bit shorter than me, medium build, shortish dark hair. But i felt this weird emotional connection to her. I drew a picture of her face, as I had recently covered that subject in art class, but it wasn't quite right. I still have it, and will probably make a new one eventually. Named her Hunter Green, and oddly felt serious about it.
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