why you are a virgin?

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lewdi28792
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07 Jan 2010, 7:36 am

David1981 wrote:

lewdi28792 wrote:

as for me, women do not want me because of my age(41); im a little overweight(but not severely over either); im epileptic; cannot read other peoples emotions, body language, social cues; geeky; im just plain defective.

and the biggest reason why:

NO AUTIES OR ASPIES OR EPILEPTICS IN MY AREA I CAN SOCIALIZE OR BUDDY AROUND WITH ! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !

i would really like a suitable woman for me to commit to and start a family with (preferred method - sex w/o birth control - the way the lord intended OR by adoption) but one fact i have forced myself to face - THAT AIN'T GONNA HAPPEN IN THIS LIFETIME - NO WAY IN HE**! !! !! !! !! !!

Well, I am younger than you (28) and I don't have epilepsy. I am out of shape but not really overweight. Other than that, my situation is similar to yours. Much like yourself, I live away from any concentration of fellow Aspies, thus restricting any ability to find an Aspie girl to go out with.

I would LOVE to have a girlfriend but I don't think I really want to get married. I'd like to have a steady girlfriend that I frequently visit and spend time with. I really do not want to have children, either by procreation nor adoption. I am barely treading water as it is. Having a child would probably send me over the edge!

i have HEARD (how true it is - i have NO clue) that there are herds of aspies over by san francisco, ca - BUT - that is a little too expensive for me - AND - a little too politically liberal for my tastes (im far right conservative - might drive me to wiring abortion dr's cars to blow up when the dr starts it).

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07 Jan 2010, 8:57 am

All you 20+ virgins out there should really try meeting someone online. Online communication requires only verbal communication skills, which makes it far easier to appear self-confident, funny and cool. It definitely helped me lose my virginity... And no, I'm not talking about cybersex :wink:

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07 Jan 2010, 10:29 am

I had a pretty bad experience with someone on a message board, where she appeared to be interested in me, but right when we were about to meet up she turned around and decided to enter a relationship with someone else on the same board. That was about 15 months ago and they're still together. I don't think I could manage a long-distance internet relationship for the foreseeable future; I'd have too many trust issues, in light of the earlier incident.

The dryness of online communication turned out to be a double-edged sword: I appeared to benefit from a straightforward and easy means of communication, but I also was unable to read anyone and later realised that certain people I thought I knew very well I actually didn't know at all.

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07 Jan 2010, 11:03 am

Hector wrote:

Look for ways to meet people online who live in your area, like online social networks or intant messaging programs. Some have search options by region, gender, interests, etc. I met several women online who all liived at 100 km or less from where I lived and this led several times to a normal real life relationship.

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The dryness of online communication turned out to be a double-edged sword: I appeared to benefit from a straightforward and easy means of communication, but I also was unable to read anyone and later realised that certain people I thought I knew very well I actually didn't know at all.

You can't have it all....

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07 Jan 2010, 11:34 am

I've tried to groom women I've met online into having sex with me, but I've given up that pretty quickly.

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07 Jan 2010, 3:41 pm

Lonermutant wrote:

I've tried to groom women I've met online into having sex with me, but I've given up that pretty quickly.

Maybe you should try to groom them into falling in love with you. Then the sex automatically comes :wink:

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07 Jan 2010, 4:06 pm

Salonfilosoof wrote:

Lonermutant wrote:

I've tried to groom women I've met online into having sex with me, but I've given up that pretty quickly.

Maybe you should try to groom them into falling in love with you. Then the sex automatically comes :wink:

I don't care about that part... :wink:

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07 Jan 2010, 4:15 pm

Lonermutant wrote:

I don't care about that part... :wink:

Then you shouldn't complain about not getting any sex. Sex outside of relationships is a privilege given only to those with Casanova-style flirting skills or an ex who likes to be "friends with benefits". How many Aspies do you think are in either situation?!?

I can only tell you either to try to find a woman you can love and who can love you back, to pay for sex or to learn to accept the fact that you won't be having sex any time soon.

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07 Jan 2010, 4:22 pm

Salonfilosoof wrote:

Lonermutant wrote:

I don't care about that part... :wink:

No problem... I've stopped caring about that a long time ago.

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07 Jan 2010, 4:41 pm

-Would have to be after married due to religious faith...otherwise...
Reasons Why:
A. I don't want to.
B. The idea creeps me out.
C. I don't want to.
D. I do not get out that much.
E. I don't "get interested" in guys (or girls, or animals, or ....
F. I don't want to.

And on that note, I have never been kissed either...or whatever... *twitches* I don't do with much personal contact, even with family.

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07 Jan 2010, 4:42 pm

Lonermutant wrote:

No problem... I've stopped caring about that a long time ago.

Yet a significant part of your posts on Wrong Planet somehow involve the fact that you're not getting any sex. For someone who stopped caring, you sure as hell still talk a lot about it :wink:

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07 Jan 2010, 4:46 pm

Salonfilosoof wrote:

Lonermutant wrote:

No problem... I've stopped caring about that a long time ago.

Yet a significant part of your posts on Wrong Planet somehow involve the fact that you're not getting any sex. For someone who stopped caring, you sure as hell still talk a lot about it :wink:

I do it just to creep people out. And to see if I can get thrown out of here.

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07 Jan 2010, 5:04 pm

Lonermutant wrote:

Salonfilosoof wrote:

Lonermutant wrote:

No problem... I've stopped caring about that a long time ago.

Yet a significant part of your posts on Wrong Planet somehow involve the fact that you're not getting any sex. For someone who stopped caring, you sure as hell still talk a lot about it :wink:

I do it just to creep people out. And to see if I can get thrown out of here.

Yeah, sure. I don't know about you, salon, but I sure smell some unresolved, repressed desires here.

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07 Jan 2010, 5:27 pm

dddhgg wrote:

Lonermutant wrote:

Salonfilosoof wrote:

Lonermutant wrote:

No problem... I've stopped caring about that a long time ago.

Yet a significant part of your posts on Wrong Planet somehow involve the fact that you're not getting any sex. For someone who stopped caring, you sure as hell still talk a lot about it :wink:

I do it just to creep people out. And to see if I can get thrown out of here.

Yeah, sure. I don't know about you, salon, but I sure smell some unresolved, repressed desires here.

So do I...

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07 Jan 2010, 5:32 pm

That's honest of you, Lonermutant! You know, in Dutch, we have this lovely proverb, which goes like this: That which fills the heart, causes the mouth to overflow.

lewdi28792
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07 Jan 2010, 5:37 pm

Hector wrote:

i can most definately relate to you with that, because i have also been stung in a online relationship - and because of that - i have trust issues that run very deep(they are still a very open wound) - so i do not think i can do the online thing either - makes it much harder to tell if a person is lying or not if done online.

it would make it much easier for me to get to know a fellow aspie/autie(male or female) if it was done face to face, plus it would make it easier for the person to EARN trust if it was done face to face.

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