Who here has never been in a relationship?

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Ditto for me, on all counts.

nothing here. not as much as made small talk with women. i think ive given up.

Years ago I thought that my lack of relationships was some sort of cruel joke. Despite my repeated attempts to get into a relationship, everything seemed to always fall apart. But I couldn't deny that there were a few women who practically threw themselves at me and yet I kept finding reasons why that wasn't the relationship for me.

I have never had an intimate relationship because of choices I have made. Maybe I could not help but make these choices because of the quirks of how my brain is wired, but nevertheless, I take full responsibility for those choices. There are good things and bad things about being alone. If I had it to do over, I'm not sure I would change anything... (well, except for that one girl with the really sarcastic sense of humor... It would have been better if I had more courage with her. )

Don't give up at 20. You've got plenty of time to turn things around, unlike me and some of the older guys here.

i will turn twenty in a month. and i'm on this list.

I am far from a virgin, but have never been in a relationship, excluding one I am in now that is open.

But, perhaps worse....

I have never slept with a girl. I have serious sleep issues-- I have to sleep in a sealed room with no outside disturbance and I'm on lots of meds. There is nothing I want more than to sleep with a girl and I don't think it will ever happen. Having one fall asleep in my arms is second best, and that is a goal I have set out to accomplish in the relatively near future.

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You're not too old either.These days people sometimes find their soul mates in their 30's,40's,or even 50's with very little attention from the opposite sex in between.

22 in two months. Never had a GF. Have had people like me and me liking them back but that's it.

I don't know how society's idea of love is supposed to work.

It doesn't for us, most of the time. You have to make your own rules... take some risks... and disregard what other people think.

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Im not sure if I am to young for this, but I think I have up already.
And its not really an age thing, its an I'm to awkward thing...

I've had sexual opportunities from friends in the past who sort of came and went. I was inattentive, and not about to blame others, when I should had been more listening myself. I'm 24 right now, and I get lonely very easily. Some good friends don't mean to ignore me, but they're busy all the time, and they can't help it. They have lives besides me anyway, so I've come to the conclusion that I want more than just regular friends...

I have lots of regrets though. I'm gay too...or at least, I feel more Tantric Power capable of running through my energy channels when looking at guys than girls... I've run into some cool people on occasion...I have many regrets based on how I could had better been attentive to them. I did lots of thinking and got heartbroken by cyberswingers on Facebook and in online dating sites. Though, I think I figured out how to incorporate the instinct (void of Logic nor specific definitions) into my personality. People like the Alien jokes I have on my funny webstite at: Government.Ms ... LOL

In Amerigon: Males evolved on Mars. Females evolved on Venus, and Grandmas evolved on the moons around Saturn! LOL.

I always thought "gay" sounded amish...LOL. Though, out of all the mating stances, Martians came at me the most. I'm familiar with the prison-style, "I could dominate you" stance. Only one made that specific joke in the past. All the others skittered around like submissive Venusians. LOL. And I just stood speechless already enduring controversy for being into Wicca and Magick. I couldn't help it. Now I feel very lonely, rejected, and desperate for attention.

So many regrets...yet, I'm ready for the next mating stance in the physical. First, I need friends who don't seemingly ignore me. If they would be more attentive and come quicker, I can show my care for them. I care about my friends a lot, so much that I send them too many messages and they unfriend me on Facebook. As you can all see, my messages are long. But I'm new to this site, so I don't even know anyone here. Maybe that's an OK thing?

Hope people here find me cool...

I've never been romantically kissed, never had a girlfriend, and just barely had a few friends for a short time that were girls. However, one time at an anime convention dance my friend convinced me to go to, he set me up with a girl to dance with and I basically got a lapdance standing up. That's all. I'm 20 now.

Thing is, I'm not bad looking, and I come off at first as quite charismatic, and I'm fairly outgoing, but I'm outgoing but awkward at the same time. So like, while I'm wearing Aeropostale tshirts and nice jeans (that I got from Salvation Army for coincidentally no money, take that Hot Topic, I wear nice preppy clothes for like free) I'll then start talking about my favorite Japanese electropop band from the 70s, Yellow Magic Orchestra, and how great of an anime Patlabor is, etc... Basically talking how I do now.

There was one girl I liked, or maybe I love, I don't know, dearly. We were friends, maybe we still are, and I never allowed myself to get close to her, basically for thinking of my own faults and inferiorities. Also, at that time, circumstances would have made it all very very hard. She's now married...woohoo. Also tried once asking a girl out in high school, too.

I more or less got no idea where to really start, and I'm also very very gunshy about a relationship with a female. Statistically, I'm bound to fail at it, and failure generally isn't something that goes smoothly without incident. You can just pick up any newspaper and read the horror stories that result from failed relationships, or just look around any people you know.

I think much of it is people want a relationship to feel good about themselves, more than about actual love for the other person. I still feel the same way for that girl, regardless of her getting married. I still I guess, "love" her. I see my friends and my sister, though, a breakup occurs, they almost instantly are back with someone else, like in under a week. I don't understand this at all. I was talking with my friend, about his relationship troubles, and it was all "I want someone to make me feel good, make me feel worthwhile." To me, this shows weakness. I think you're going to have a bad life if you base your self worth upon another human's view of you.

Me, though, romance and whatever have an interesting relationship in my psyche. I very much love the idea of it all. I listen to mostly romantic love songs all the time now, and have been for the last couple years. So I guess that means in some way I desire it, on some level. However, I got no idea sorta where to start. Like, to me, it'd be easy to just convince girls to have sex with me, but for me, it's not quite the point. First, I'm Christian, and God would not approve of me just having promiscuous sex. But also, it just seems like if I do that, I objectify women, like literally. I'd be treating it like I'm learning to play a video game, just learn the right actions or words to get random hookups with women, and then repeat the process. I don't like the idea of playing with people like toys, though, as I'm scarred a bit by psychologists "playing" with me.

So right now, no girlfriend at all. I just do stuff. Mostly, I'm actually happy with it. I don't got to deal with all the problems of a relationship. I go ice skating, work on cars, cook, play video games, just occupy myself doing and learning stuff. I feel like I was left with a decision between stuff and people, and I chose stuff. One similar situation I see myself similar to in lots of ways is Nikola Tesla, he did the same thing. He claimed to have never had a relationship with a woman in his whole life. Is it sad? Maybe. However, he invented most everything we use today. He got to sort of just play around his whole life making lightning bolts and deathrays and electric cars and particle cannons and God knows what else while everyone else was stuck with their wives and families. So I guess, as far as my Aspergers or lack of it goes, I do at least have the "obsessive" interests (ie, being interested in anything more than people around you, regardless of what this thing is) and I guess the "obsessions" keep me sane. It's easy for me to waste two hours pacing around my house thinking about how to improve hockey skates by cutting the tendon guard differently, or what ROH I should get on my figure skate blades, if 1 inch is too much, or if it's perfectly reasonable, etc, it fills my day up very well.

Oh well.

My girlfriend is plain and homley with an attractive face, but shes really sweet.

Eventually, men grow up(around mid 20s) and realize that a SWEET girl who is patient and is willing to work with you beats a nasty beauty pagent model anyday....



At least I did

The closest thing to a relationship I ever had was over 2 years ago.

She was using me for free dinners and was pretending to be interested in me, when really I was just a practice dating opportunity for her.

I turned twenty in May and has my first kiss in August. I am not in a relationship with the gent' I kissed. He and I are only friends. I have never been in a relationship, and have yet to go farther, sexually.

i cannot give this a true answer

becuz if i say NO, i know for a fact that there will be someone offended and argue with me on that

if i say YES, i know for a fact there well also be someone who will be offended and again argue with me on that

(sigh) life