HopeGrows wrote:
As far as not allowing societal pressures to influence your choice of romantic partner, I'd say that's all about character. @Frieslander started a thread recently in which he said (paraphrasing here) that he found himself quite attracted to a larger woman, but was not sure if he should pursue her because he was afraid of what his family and what "society" would think of him for being attracted to her. To me, that's an almost unthinkable quandary. If she seems like a nice lady, and you want to bang the shizzle out of her, why would you give a rat's ass about what anybody thinks of your choice of mate?
Luckily my family really doesn't care who I bring home, just as long as they are a good, respectable person. Although I remember once my supervisor from work and myself were hanging out at the bar that both of us frequent. A women came in with a beautiful pear shape, and I brought it to his attention that I liked what I saw, and he said "that's disgusting", because he liked thin, slender women. But I really could care less what anyone or my supervisor thinks if I like "disgusting" women. Just as HopeGrows said, if she's a good person, and we both want to bang the shizzle out of each other, I could care less what anyone thinks. If I can't please society by liking what everyone else likes, oh well.
I'm glad for people like you and your family. I'm sure the lady you admired was lovely. While she may not have been your boss' cup of tea, that certainly doesn't make her "disgusting." Shame on him for behaving so badly. Everyone needs love - big, small, short, tall - it doesn't matter. We're certainly not required to love everyone we meet - but why would anyone waste his/her breath criticizing anyone else's tastes or desires? Love is love - that's what it's all about.