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Dione
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25 Sep 2011, 1:33 am

I approached my first boyfriend. The difference is, I asked him because I knew he liked me and felt secure that he would say yes. Although I wrote a letter and told him not to read it til after he embarked on a week-long backpacking trip, so I'm not sure if that counts.



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25 Sep 2011, 1:32 pm

Yes. I've approached men a few times. I've always been turned down.



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25 Sep 2011, 1:35 pm

Yep.



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25 Sep 2011, 1:37 pm

Dilbert wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
Dilbert wrote:
Women approaching men is extremely rare. Even if they do they will merely make subtle compliments such as 'I like your shirt' or 'that's a good book you are reading' or 'I admire how you put up with all this noise' or something like that. Then they'd expect the man to talk to them and ask them out or at least get their number. They will get frustrated if you don't figure it out and instead just stand there like an idiot.

Women who literally hit on men are usually in bars, drunk, and looking for sex. And oh yeah they are VERY likely to have STDs.

That's the truth.

whaaaaaat? stats on that (bolded) could support your case if you are going to assert it as truth. sounds like a whole lot of speculation.


Really? People which have a lot of different partners have a lot of STDs. Women who openly hit on men have sex with different partners all the fricken time. Different guy every night they go out. Ewww. On average 1 in 4 women have an STD. (Look it up.) A woman hitting on guys in a night club? What are her STD odds? 3 out of 4? I think even higher.

Guys who have a lot of sex also have STDs but I don't care about them. ;)


Just because a woman is hitting on a man does not mean she has sex with a lot of men. That's like a assuming that just because a woman wears a skimpy dress, she has sex with a lot of men, or in Saudi Arabia, just because a woman drives, she has sex with a lot of men....or at least they are fond of calling these women sluts and whores.

In my observations, most women who "chat up" men at bars and such don't end up going home with them. They are usually drinking, with a female friend, and at the end of the night the female friend drives her home.



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25 Sep 2011, 4:45 pm

There are some women who do, but I've never been approached by one.



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25 Sep 2011, 5:10 pm

DeanAdamFry wrote:
Another reason could be that she just doesn't have anything to lose from asking you out so its a "might as well" kind of thing.


That was always my main reason. I'm introverted myself (not that you would realize it on a forum) and have always gotten along better with fellow introverts, romantically speaking. If I have to wait for a really introverted guy to make the first move, I might as well become a nun.

Also, in the case of the person I eventually married, I realized that he was not recognizing the usual cues, so I figured subtlety was a waste of time. Not that I'm exactly subtle myself, but still.