Why don't more women make the first move?

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There are a few innate inequalities amongst the sexes, that cannot be equalized. Men will always be physically stronger, on average, and women will likely always be the one to carry the child to term.

Men and women will likely, in general, continue to have a different order of priorities when it comes to romantic relationships.

When I think of the women's liberation movement, I think of women striving for equality in the sense of being perceived as an intellectual equal. Women getting equal pay for equal work, and so on. And I think of this in the context of the history of the treatment and perceptions of women in western society, and sometimes previous societies.

When I think of young boys being told to "treat women with respect" however, I do not envision this to mean treat women special, as if they should be kept on a pedestal. I take this phrase as intended to mean that women should be treated as intellectual equals. Unfortunately I think too many misunderstood this to mean treat women special, and breeds false expectations of how women should act in return.

I believe both sexes should treat each other with respect and regard each other more or less as intellectual equals. I don't have a problem with women approaching men, or approaching them myself, but that does not change that fact that many women won't do this. However, when put in it's socio-historic context, I don't think it's fair to be upset with women who will not approach men. Nor is it fair to be jealous of men who got women because they approached them.

Concerning holding doors and paying for dates, I have no reservations about each party paying for their own meal. In fact I prefer to pay for my own meal when I can as I do not like being a burden on others. Concerning holding doors, I do not expect men to hold doors for me any more than I expect anyone else to hold a door for me. I thank those who do hold doors for me and I routinely hold doors for anyone entering a building behind me. However many men get somewhat offended when women attempt to hold doors for them or move to open a door themselves when he was going to do it.

And then there are the things we cannot equalize. As the sex that is blessed with greater physical strength, I believe men have an obligation to aid those who are not as physically strong as they are in emergency situations, when feasible. This includes the elderly, women, and children. Likewise, women are also expected to aid those who are not as physically strong as they are, but it's unlikely a man would fall into this category.

I also believe women have certain responsibilities to men in certain situations, but I do not have enough time to elaborate on that at the moment. I will do so later.

I'm thinking AI threatens to make us obsolete there as well, what with the HR costs such as medical benefits and lifetime pay as well as college funding for vets - especially for those who come back disabled.

and men will always be the cheapest dispensable tools by governments/rulers in the times of war.