Feeling ugly, flat chested and that I'm not good enough

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So.. pics?

(im joking!).

I understand that women have self image issues. Frankly it really confuses me how I see girls that are drop dead gorgeous having self esteem problems so bad they cut and do all sorts of self-punishment behaviors.

'my nose is too big'
'my tits are too small'
'i have no ass'

O.o ... but they don't look at the whole of their bodies and how freaking amazing it looks. Not the 'your nose may be big but damn the rest of you is awesome' but rather how that nose, tits, butt all fit very nicely together.

I tell these girls: Look, let me show you pictures of girls that REALLY have a reason to have low self esteem. As sad as it is to say it, there's plenty of girls that nature did not grant them physical beauty.

You cannot compare yourself with others..there's always a bigger fish, a girl with better looks, a guy with a bigger package, etc.

Plus you know something else? For a guy physical beauty is not everything. Just recently I had the 'choice' between two waitresses that work at a restaurant I frequent...the choice was which of the two to ask for her phone number. (asking both would be a no-no).

Both were asian, both were the same size (petite) ... but one had supermodel looks the other one was rather plain looking and was shortsighted.

The supermodel looking one had an amazing butt, medium-small breasts and a very defined pretty face.
The short sighted one had a flat butt, flat chested and her face was between ordinary and pretty.

I asked the short-sighted girl's phone. Why?

Because the supermodel looking one walked, talked and behaved like a guy. She moved roughly, she stomped her feet a lot when she walked and she spoke like a college guy with a few beers on him. She performed her job as if it was a chore.

The short sighted girl's voice was a joy to listen to, was very polite, she walked and moved with grace and elegance. The way she talked to people was always formal and she did her job very well.

We guys notice these things. Her being flat chested, no butt, bony build and her almost-pretty face were not ugly or lacking..her personality 'fit' her body and the whole of it was beautiful. The supermodel girl though... despite her very likely being the short-sighted girl's source of body-envy ... only gets asked her phone by guys who'se only intention is to pork her as quickly as possible. Her personality was trash and the only thing she had going was tits and ass.

in any case.. the short sighted girl didnt give me her phone. She had a BF of several years. I respect that.

Days later I learn from the manager of the restaurant the supermodel one jumps from one BF to another every other month.

Go figure which of those two girls is happier.

Well, the photo post came and went, but you look really good from head to toe. You make the dress look great. By my standards, you're a doll. And, you have a surprisingly cute smile. I can't put a nice smile on my face no matter how hard I try.

ah well, if anything, we the hopeless have eternal patience

Everyone has their own preferences, but I personally think the hottest girls in existence are distance runners... definitely no huge boobs, but everything is proportioned right.

@ShelbyGT I didn't think the link worked!



My only problem is my boobs don't balance out my butt. But thanks y'all

Well, now that I've seen what you look like, it's not your body that's wrong; it's your brain.

Wow you are indeed quite beautiful.

I disagree with the balance comment. In that pic at least, seems to be taken from an angle & pose that does make the butt stand out. I'd say it would look 1/4th smaller in a normal standing position.

Now, i'm not going to sugar coat it. Yes, you do have small breasts but that in no way or form detracts or steals from your overall body beauty.

Heck, I can see now that what I said earlier in this thread will be true: Once you have kids and breastfeeding is over you will be the absolute source of envy from all the women you know. They will see you 'gain' figure when theirs get trashed.

He's a lucky guy & I hate him already

Well, I think we all agree that she's a doll and she'll look good for the rest of her life.

Aww. I'm blushing now. Thanks guys. I guess nothing much more needs said.

...And this is what happens when beautiful girls become self-conscious... -.-.... You really shouldn't focus on breasts when your body is great the way it is. Be glad you don't have big milk jugs; boobies can be really heavy and uncomfortable.

People's faces are the first things I see and yours is very pretty. You also have a well-proportioned body. Nice choice of dress, by the way. It really suits you!

Men...

She wasn't joking when she said she looked like Taylor Swift.