why won't my ex gf get back with me?

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Its not the logic of your argument at fault, it is your use of of the term 'sexist'.
By the logic of your argument, creation is sexist, because the two sexes are different.
Strength in and of itself does not equate to outright superiority, so the issue of being 'sexist for' or 'sexist against' in this line is an academic fantasy.

Last edited by ripped on 13 Feb 2013, 11:32 pm, edited 1 time in total.

a post contained a personal attack, so it was removed along with the ones that quoted it. in case anyone wondered where their posts went.

also... in case anyone was wondering, it is NOT a personal attack, nor is it "denigerating" or abusive to tell someone that their post is sexist/racist/a personal attack. at worst, it could be an incorrect statement, but it doesn't break any rules.

Point noted.

Fear the glasses!!

the ''no,but game'' I do that. I never knew that.

bill, i would suggest that you stopped pursuing this girl. She has expressed she doesnt want you back, and going after her more will just driver her away. Keep trying with the other girls, eventually you will get a different better girl.

that's good advice, right there.

yeah,I've been trying. But so far no other female see's me as a boyfriend, just as a friend.
they think I am a wimp. ( if no one have figure it out yet, I am not very ''masculine'' and that's a no-no to alot of females)

expect my ex gf, who I don't think even had a clue about masculinity. Or how men are suppose to be.

But I am tougher than what people expect. People are shock on how strong and tough I am.

i think people see me as a pushover as well even though im tall and strong.

right. Problem is alot of female don't want to date guys they think are wimpy or a pushover.
so, what can you do. All the power is in female hands. females are the decision makers when it comes to dating.
men have no say. All you can do is hope for the best.

idk why they see you as one..you always approach girls and say crazy things..that;s not pushover at all....maybe the accent...you're a southern boy as opposed to a manly man?

I really have no idea why they think Im a wimp. Yeah, I do everything a man suppose to do. I approach women all the time ( and no I don't always do the ''damn you hot girl'' I've only done that couple times) and I have no trouble talking to women at all.

women just never want to date me. and what can I do, I have no say. so it's how it is.
I think there is just alot of stigma against men who don't act like a ''traditional real man''.
Back when I was in school I was made fun of by both boys and girls because I didn't play sports.
Because ''real boys'' play sports.

for men there is no ''real women'' it's either your hot or your not. Men have no problem with
weird strange women, as long as the men finds the women attractive, they will pretty much ignore or
never notice, or care about any women's ''weird flaws''

but for women, mens flaws are just too much for them, which of course it's their decision,
but it sucks for guys like me. but then again maybe I am bless. I do save alot of money,
I do have my own time to do stuff, so yes, maybe I am bless, that so many women
let's so much stuff prevent them from dating a guy.

I have a saying: ''what about stinky people. well I wouldn't be surprise if stinky women still gets
dates, their boyfriend would either tolerate, or not even notice the smell''

I don't know much about men, I don't think like a ''real man'' so I got no clue.
why many men aren't bother by alot ''weird stuff'' that some women do. I just don't understand it.

You're probably seems to be a bit like mine, Ecosystem.

In the South East there is a very very real idea of what a "Man" acts like.. and if you deviate from that even a little bit you're castigated.. Even saying move to a college town won't always help.. since I live in one but since I don't care about the sports teams from that school it just further isolates me.

The thing is, if I lived near a place where a Soccer Team existed I'd be Thrilled cause I could go to bars that showed the games or hang out with groups of people who also support the team.. but I just don't care about American Football or Nascar or Basketball or Baseball. I'm not even huge into Soccer but I at least enjoy it, both playing it and watching it. It's a sport that I actually am not horrible at, or wasn't when I was in school.

But in my part of the country it seems that if you're not 200lbs, miller lite swilling, trucker cap and white T wearing, F-150 driving country music or Dirty south rap listening, god fearing, obama hatin', then you're not a 'Real Man'... even though I live near one of the biggest research universities in the region.. these guys seem to get all the girls unless you actually live within walking distance of campus... then you can get away with being a volvo driving, cardigan wearing, soccer likeing, academically enthusiastic, whole foods shopper and not be left out in the cold too much.

...except that it isn't correct. it's actually quite insulting to every man i ever dated as they were not walking stereotypes. lucky women aren't walking around with all kinds of varieties of personalities and getting to date while only one kind of man gets a date - the very idea is kind of ridiculous. just as many varieties of men get dates as women do.

we've told you some of the things that could be offputting about your behaviour, but you usually don't listen. you make excuses after excuses or you just brush it aside and blame it on the women. that's your choice, but it doesn't make it women's fault you are not successful in dating right now. if 20+ people are all telling you the same things on the forum, then they might after all be onto something.

sorry but their are alot men that women will not date. (men who are wimpy,short men,bisexual men, many asperger men) so maybe women do date a variety, however their alot of type of men they refuse to date. ( and openly bisexual men are very good example, even many liberal pro gay women refuse to date bi men)

yes, you are right about my behavior. Being a ''wimp'' towards a woman is very offputing towards them. Just like being shy,
being social ackward, I do agree. I do admit I ain't perfect, and woman do have the rights not to date me, sure.
But that don't mean it doesn't suck.

you missed the whole point. Yes I admit I have flaws, I won't deny that. But so do so many women do too. But here the difference
,men actual don't care ,or notice, or tolerate women's flaws. How many men don't care if a woman is shy,not many. How many men don't care if a women has asperger and is a liltte off, not many. How many men don't care if a woman is bisexual, not many.

it's all in women's hand. Their the one's making decision. Their the one's that are letting stereotypes get in the way.
maybe if women would be more like ''yeah, he's strange and is pushover, But I don't mind that about him''
I probaly would date more, but I am not. So whatever.. I am not wizard. can't change nothing