Have You Ever Faced Harassment Charges?

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Just to clarify, that would backfire if her flake's reason was genuine (because it sends the message "I am not interested in you either anymore") so I make sure to do this if I am totally sure she flaked on me because she wanted to.

I did it with a young woman who flaked on me like 4 times (long story), the first three sounded genuine but the 4th was obvious, her clingy reaction afterwards was amusing (and kept assuming I was having other dates back then) but I was no longer interested.

When you are supposed to be able to read in other peoples emotions as an NT can, so you are supposed to have understood that no more contact is wished, and still seek contact while everybody thinks that you have fully understood, that contact isnt wished any longer: Yes.

If you told me to leave in open words, and I resist and follow you instead around and hunt you with multimedia messages, it would be clearly to you that I dont respect your private space that everyone has a right to own. Because why else should I do such an behaviour, when you have told me that you dont want that behaviour anymore.

Stop seeking for someone to blame, and stop struggling with blaming others, to prevent blaming yourself. It is simply an misunderstanding: We are supposed to read NT bodylanguage like NT can, simply because we dont wear any signs on our heads telling everyone: "I AM AN ASPIE. I f****n LACK THE ABILITY TO READ BODYLANGUAGE OR BETWEEN THE LINES!", so the NT simply dont know that we need clear words, that would for many other NTs simply be offending.

There is no blame and no fault in having an misunderstanding. If it happens, simply explain, say that you didnt intent to act in the way it was understood and its done. Its not only about relationships, but this will happen in thousand other situations in work, with relatives, ... as well. But insisting on finding someone to blame and convince yourself that because of your brilliant brain you cant be victim of an normal misunderstanding, so there must be something wrong with everyone else and everyone else is to blame and we are the only one capable of correct communication, while everyone else must be an dumbass, expecting us out of nowwhere to have mindreading superpowers, while they simply expect us to have normal NT communication abilities, is something that is to blame.

Get away from your god complexes. Noone expect you to magically mindread. You were simply expected to have normal NT-abilities, that was a misunderstanding on both sides, accept it and its done.

Ahh I just remembered! I remembered!! !


I was accused of harassment once via okcupid.

I was exchanging messages with that young woman, and I had this habit to use the " " emoticon when telling a joke, the exchange chat was all cool and so....and suddenly she was like:
(translated) I AM GONNA CUT YOUR TONGUE!!

I was like "What??"

Her: STOP TONGUING ME!!

I was totally puzzled and turned out that she perceived my " " as tonguing her O_o

okcupid women....


This happened to me twice, the 2nd time with another woman on another site.

Hahahahhahahaahhah

I guess I am not trying to accuse anyone, I am just trying to save ass. Get my side of the story. But that is true.

God, that would suck. In my case, I even messaged to apologize, but she said it was my problem now, not hers. I swear, I hate to be a pessimist, but I am having sour luck with girls around my area. Maybe I need a vacation, go somewhere were I can actually find a women, and not a royal b***h. : rolls eyes: .

Hmmm sounds a bit like me, I've never been that far but I've made some girls feel really uncomfortable. Guess I'm a creep and since I can't avoid that I've decided not talking to girls I'm sexually attracted to anymore, it sucks but still better than making the girl feel harrashed...

Of course it's not that easy to and sometimes I still talk to a girl.
If a girl talks to me I'm not rude I just try being not friendly.

The problem aren't the girls, we're the problem doesn't matter how far we go it will always be the same. The fact that we can't get laid is called evolution.

That's the spirit! Find a girl that actually likes being harrassed. Let us know how that goes........

Am I sensing sarcasm, or are you actually suggesting that lol ? (South American culture tends to be Machismo, which I don't agree with per se, but at least you can be a tad more open without being called a perv).

Now that what went wrong in the original situation has been explained several times and in several ways, this thread ought to be retired.