Why dating sites are BS

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ad revenue and A list. "want to see whos liked you, well pay us a big amount of money each month and we'll tell you" honestly if it was like 1-2 a month and done monthly I might do it. but $10 a month. I pay $8 for netflix and get hundreds and thousands of movies and shows. I pay $5 for psn and get to get hours and hours and hours of gaming. what does okcupid offer me. lets me see the 14 people who liked me. I only need a day to see that, not really worth $10. oh being able to be materialistic in my search results, meh. so maybe for women. and guys looking for thin girls to sex, on a regular basis it might be worth it. also $5 a month for 6 months. way to say hey we know you're still be single in 6 months so you but pay us in advance. lol

pof is similar but more strict. at least on okcupid it says such and such liked you on my phone so i screenshot the name and search for them. pof use to let you see the people who liked you but now they followed okc and locked it behind a pay wall.

I've tried dating sites and they never worked for me primarily because I don't photograph well. I'm better looking IRL, which is not say to say I'm that much better looking than most women. But it helped that I was slim and petite. I never experienced being flooded with messages because I was a woman. Maybe my photo wasn't interesting enough.

Mostly I would get messages (a couple a week) from men who were 15-20yrs my senior, suggesting that they were young at heart accompanied by a picture of themselves dressed inappropriately or doing something very stupid. Yeah, not fun. At the time I wasn't even 30, so I'm not sure why they thought I would be interested in dating a 50yr old. There is just such a massive gap in life stages. I messaged a couple of guys in my age group and never got a reply at all.

Pretty much realised it wasn't for me at that point. Most of my life I have never been single so there was no reason to try this avenue when I seemed to be meeting people IRL anyway. Maybe that's a reason why a lot of women don't bother with dating sites.

I've done the online dating thing for 11 years now off and on, depending on when I'm available or not, and have been in a few relationships. It really is a hit or miss with each date. I feel like it's a broken pattern now and it's really difficult to find anyone on the spectrum through dating sites because it's not something anyone posts about on their profile. I put that I had ASD in part of my profile for a while and I watched slowly as my messages were never really responded to. Dating web sites were not made for us in mind, which is why I keep my expectations low, even though you could say I'm a somewhat frequent visitor of okcupid.

I also noticed on the free OKCupid, my matches screen gets blotted out by very obese and unattractive people. Then you see this ad at the top saying that if you buy premium you will be able to "sort by attractiveness and body type". Seems these guys are really out to make some cash by sneaking some in.

From what I've heard many times and seen, is that the paid websites are generally better if you are serious about trying it. You get what you pay for just like with anything else.

But online dating works! Okay, well at least it works for me. Maybe it doesn't work well for others but that's their problem. Srsly , do you really expect me to stop doing what actually gets results just because of your opinion? Not gonna happen, kiddo.

I don't like dating sites. I tried it, but it didn't work.

The "making money off ads" issue is solved by, you know, not clicking on the ads.

The few times I've used free dating sites, I've simply filtered for men who are single AND who have logged onto the website within the past week, ie assuming anyone who hasn't logged on recently isn't looking for dates.

Just my twopennyworth, but I don't think you meet any more BS merchants on dating sites than you do in real life - and at least on the internet you're not limited to people who live in close geographical proximity to you.

Also, the idea of meeting someone in the supermarket sounds utterly absurd to me, far more so than the idea of meeting someone online. I live in a large city where people aren't routinely friendly, and if someone you've never met before talks to you in a supermarket you instantly start to suspect they have an ulterior motive. Also, the idea of going to church is out since I'm an atheist.

Yeah, I agree with that part. People are a bit more cautious where I am from also, and will only talk to you on rare occasions (even if they know you briefly).

Dating sites are just sites where people can be grandiose versions of themselves. This grandiose version is usually shrouded in facade, yet at the same time their personality could be more so open then in reality. I guess I can't relate to the whole human chemistry thing, because it pleasures me more to see meaningful words on a screen than immerse myself in human chemistry. As long as I had seasonal meet ups with said person, I'd actually prefer to speak to someone online. I find that the conversations I have online are anything but tantamount to those in reality. Note that I'd probably bring a shotgun with me to said meet up in case this so called lover happens to be some creepy ass dude.

So skip the dating sites. If you're not into them, well, nobody's forcing you to sign up.

You don't have to state the obvious.

I find women on dating sites almost ubiquitously don't look like their profiles and don't act like them, but I keep hoping. I don't know if it's just my expectations coloring in the lines with the wrong shades, or the camera angles, or maybe they do just blatantly photoshop themselves but when we meet in person everything is usually different, in a bad way.

I have to say the same with attitudes. There was one girl who I met online who was very sweet to me, but the date was a total disaster. I've never seen someone go more 360 on me before. I started to even suspect maybe someone else had been writing me messages and pressuring this person to come out to see me, because she did NOT want to be there and was essentially a total b***h. She was just sulking the entire time, making me feel like I was ungrateful and I owed her for coming out to see me and making ridiculous requests like wanting to get her nails done while we were on a date and expecting me to just hover outside and wait.

Another girl who I met appeared respectably chubby, sweet, and cute online but when I met her in person she was about 300 lbs and clearly from the wrong side of the tracks attitude wise as well.

There are good ones out there, I've met good women too. But, in general, don't set your expectations very high because they will be dissappointed. Most attractive and psychologically normal(as in not crazy b***h) women have better venues to meet men than online dating. You have to really ask yourself, why is this woman on here?

Dating profiles' content and photos often get too sculpted to project the reality of the person.

I just find all the profiles look the same. People don't have anything interesting to show or share anything about themselves. This seems to be the norm, its mostly for window shopping.

That's why you have to message them in order to find out more than what the profile says. Dating profiles are just an introduction, to catch the initial interest of of other people.