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07 Mar 2016, 7:54 am

"You know for sure it was on purpose? You cant be afraid to communicate your end."

It's CommanderKeen. His past posts to me indicate he's a confident male who looks up to charismatic characters such as James Bond.

I'm confident he did.

"Being friendzoned simply means unrequited love, typically from a friend - it simply means that, and it happens to both females and males all the time; it simply means that your crush only considers you as a friend and nothing more."

No, the friendzone is a filter, designed to delude yourself into thinking that, by being someone's friend even if you're attracted to them, you can gain a romantic relationship or sex with him/her.

To me, unrequited love is unrequited love.

Unrequited love with a friend, realizing you need to move on = unrequited love with a friend, maturity, self-responsibility, as you stop being their friend or spend time away from them to move on.

Unrequited love and thinking you still have even the slightest chance, at all, and possibly resorting to manipulative tactics, and/or allowing yourself to be used like a loyal little lap dog = friendzone.

The friendzone is when you still think you have a chance. The entire concept of the friendzone believes you can 'get out of the friendzone' or 'avoid' it when you simply cannot.

If someone isn't attracted to you, they're usually NOT attracted to you.

Allowing yourself to be 'friendzoned' is in itself pathetic.

If you fail to realize it, that's okay, but if you make a concious choice to be friends with someone you're attracted to, no matter how much you tell yourself "I'll get over them WHILE being their friend', in the back of your mind you want more.

If you truly wanted to get over them, you'd have not chosen to be their friend and put yourself in a position that almost makes it impossible to actually move on.

Show how you feel from the beginning and, if they aren't interested, REFUSE to be friends with them. They friendzone you? You strangerzone them.



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07 Mar 2016, 8:07 am

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I've straight up called women cowards when I've found out they were just leading me all.

You know for sure it was on purpose? You cant be afraid to communicate your end.

"I'm going to be very busy this week. I won't be doing anything except work and homework." *Goes and posts herself at events for 4 days with friends and never texts, or calls. Yes, I'm sure.



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07 Mar 2016, 8:19 am

Outrider wrote:
"You know for sure it was on purpose? You cant be afraid to communicate your end."

It's CommanderKeen. His past posts to me indicate he's a confident male who looks up to charismatic characters such as James Bond.

I'm confident he did.

"Being friendzoned simply means unrequited love, typically from a friend - it simply means that, and it happens to both females and males all the time; it simply means that your crush only considers you as a friend and nothing more."

No, the friendzone is a filter, designed to delude yourself into thinking that, by being someone's friend even if you're attracted to them, you can gain a romantic relationship or sex with him/her.

To me, unrequited love is unrequited love.

Unrequited love with a friend, realizing you need to move on = unrequited love with a friend, maturity, self-responsibility, as you stop being their friend or spend time away from them to move on.

Unrequited love and thinking you still have even the slightest chance, at all, and possibly resorting to manipulative tactics, and/or allowing yourself to be used like a loyal little lap dog = friendzone.

The friendzone is when you still think you have a chance. The entire concept of the friendzone believes you can 'get out of the friendzone' or 'avoid' it when you simply cannot.

If someone isn't attracted to you, they're usually NOT attracted to you.

Allowing yourself to be 'friendzoned' is in itself pathetic.

If you fail to realize it, that's okay, but if you make a concious choice to be friends with someone you're attracted to, no matter how much you tell yourself "I'll get over them WHILE being their friend', in the back of your mind you want more.

If you truly wanted to get over them, you'd have not chosen to be their friend and put yourself in a position that almost makes it impossible to actually move on.

Show how you feel from the beginning and, if they aren't interested, REFUSE to be friends with them. They friendzone you? You strangerzone them.


Right here, you're getting very inflexible, how would you learn things, being able to meet girls and be comfortable with them if you refuse to be friends with any ?
Rigid thinking is not being playfull at all!



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07 Mar 2016, 9:08 am

I said refuse to be friends with females you're attracted to.

If there is no emotional attraction, by all means, be their friend.

I've been friends with plenty, but everytime I was friends with one I had feelings for, it never ended well.

It's the most counter-productive way to try and get over someone - by being their friend.

If you want to be friends with anyone, begin the friendship without an attraction to them, so you won't set yourself up for being hurt.



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07 Mar 2016, 9:12 am

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I've straight up called women cowards when I've found out they were just leading me all.

You know for sure it was on purpose? You cant be afraid to communicate your end.

"I'm going to be very busy this week. I won't be doing anything except work and homework." *Goes and posts herself at events for 4 days with friends and never texts, or calls. Yes, I'm sure.


Story of you and I's life's.

The 'too busy' excuse is absolute bullsh*t imo.

Those who are interested enough to make it work, will.

If I ended up dating a CEO, if I was attracted to them, I'd made it work.

Even if you're genuinely too busy for someone, you can still make it work with someone who is willing to wait for you until you have free-time, and only keep in contact online/over the phone when you're busy.



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07 Mar 2016, 9:24 am

I called her out on it and told her she's a coward. I believe I told her. "Being passive aggressive is a sure form of cowardice." She finally replied and told me "Wow, that was super rude. I've been really busy." I never bothered messaginf back.



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07 Mar 2016, 9:25 am

Outrider wrote:
"You know for sure it was on purpose? You cant be afraid to communicate your end."

It's CommanderKeen. His past posts to me indicate he's a confident male who looks up to charismatic characters such as James Bond.

I'm confident he did.

"Being friendzoned simply means unrequited love, typically from a friend - it simply means that, and it happens to both females and males all the time; it simply means that your crush only considers you as a friend and nothing more."

No, the friendzone is a filter, designed to delude yourself into thinking that, by being someone's friend even if you're attracted to them, you can gain a romantic relationship or sex with him/her.

To me, unrequited love is unrequited love.

Unrequited love with a friend, realizing you need to move on = unrequited love with a friend, maturity, self-responsibility, as you stop being their friend or spend time away from them to move on.

Unrequited love and thinking you still have even the slightest chance, at all, and possibly resorting to manipulative tactics, and/or allowing yourself to be used like a loyal little lap dog = friendzone.

The friendzone is when you still think you have a chance. The entire concept of the friendzone believes you can 'get out of the friendzone' or 'avoid' it when you simply cannot.

If someone isn't attracted to you, they're usually NOT attracted to you.

Allowing yourself to be 'friendzoned' is in itself pathetic.

If you fail to realize it, that's okay, but if you make a concious choice to be friends with someone you're attracted to, no matter how much you tell yourself "I'll get over them WHILE being their friend', in the back of your mind you want more.

If you truly wanted to get over them, you'd have not chosen to be their friend and put yourself in a position that almost makes it impossible to actually move on.

Show how you feel from the beginning and, if they aren't interested, REFUSE to be friends with them. They friendzone you? You strangerzone them.

Thanks for the kind words.



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07 Mar 2016, 11:05 am

CommanderKeen wrote:
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I've straight up called women cowards when I've found out they were just leading me all.

You know for sure it was on purpose? You cant be afraid to communicate your end.

"I'm going to be very busy this week. I won't be doing anything except work and homework." *Goes and posts herself at events for 4 days with friends and never texts, or calls. Yes, I'm sure.

Making BS excuses with regards to availability is rude even towards a friend IMO. It seems people use it all the time to turn down second or third dates though. :|



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07 Mar 2016, 11:18 am

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If you're whining that a woman is your friend and you think that she's a b***h for not having sex with you, then you don't even deserve to be her friend.

Can't wait for this social justice bs to end. So what is a man supposed to do if he likes a woman? Seriously. A lot of times females will just lead guys on, but I guess that's the guy's fault. I'm luckily enough to know when this occurs, other members here are not. This is especially stupid to tell men who have aspergers. Sh*t like this makes men who aren't emotionally stable feel bad about themselves for spending time with women in the hopes of being with them, romantically and NOT just sex.


OK I know what you're asking is a rhetorical question but srsly, here's what you do:

If you like a woman but she's leading you on, ghost her. That's the thing to do when someone turns you down, says "let's just be friends" but doesn't act like an actual friend and plays these games.

I've found the best way to deal with mixed messages is to disengage. Do not reward these biotches with attention when you're obviously not going to get anything out of it yourself.



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07 Mar 2016, 11:54 am

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"You know for sure it was on purpose? You cant be afraid to communicate your end."

It's CommanderKeen. His past posts to me indicate he's a confident male who looks up to charismatic characters such as James Bond.

I'm confident he did.

"Being friendzoned simply means unrequited love, typically from a friend - it simply means that, and it happens to both females and males all the time; it simply means that your crush only considers you as a friend and nothing more."

No, the friendzone is a filter, designed to delude yourself into thinking that, by being someone's friend even if you're attracted to them, you can gain a romantic relationship or sex with him/her.

To me, unrequited love is unrequited love.

Unrequited love with a friend, realizing you need to move on = unrequited love with a friend, maturity, self-responsibility, as you stop being their friend or spend time away from them to move on.

Unrequited love and thinking you still have even the slightest chance, at all, and possibly resorting to manipulative tactics, and/or allowing yourself to be used like a loyal little lap dog = friendzone.

The friendzone is when you still think you have a chance. The entire concept of the friendzone believes you can 'get out of the friendzone' or 'avoid' it when you simply cannot.

If someone isn't attracted to you, they're usually NOT attracted to you.

Allowing yourself to be 'friendzoned' is in itself pathetic.

If you fail to realize it, that's okay, but if you make a concious choice to be friends with someone you're attracted to, no matter how much you tell yourself "I'll get over them WHILE being their friend', in the back of your mind you want more.

If you truly wanted to get over them, you'd have not chosen to be their friend and put yourself in a position that almost makes it impossible to actually move on.

Show how you feel from the beginning and, if they aren't interested, REFUSE to be friends with them. They friendzone you? You strangerzone them.


Right here, you're getting very inflexible, how would you learn things, being able to meet girls and be comfortable with them if you refuse to be friends with any ?
Rigid thinking is not being playfull at all!


It must suck for some guys. Some seem to fall for any girl they are physically attracted to. Either that, or the feelings of physical attraction in a friendship are just too much to handle. Being 99% asexual is an advantage for me. I can be friends with anyone pretty much. Finding relationship compatibility is even harder though.



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08 Mar 2016, 5:13 am

I'm hyper-sexual. A lot of women with a sex drive that revels mine, are usually polygamous. That's not what I'm looking for.



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08 Mar 2016, 8:42 pm

AR15000 wrote:
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If you're whining that a woman is your friend and you think that she's a b***h for not having sex with you, then you don't even deserve to be her friend.

Can't wait for this social justice bs to end. So what is a man supposed to do if he likes a woman? Seriously. A lot of times females will just lead guys on, but I guess that's the guy's fault. I'm luckily enough to know when this occurs, other members here are not. This is especially stupid to tell men who have aspergers. Sh*t like this makes men who aren't emotionally stable feel bad about themselves for spending time with women in the hopes of being with them, romantically and NOT just sex.


OK I know what you're asking is a rhetorical question but srsly, here's what you do:

If you like a woman but she's leading you on, ghost her. That's the thing to do when someone turns you down, says "let's just be friends" but doesn't act like an actual friend and plays these games.

I've found the best way to deal with mixed messages is to disengage. Do not reward these biotches with attention when you're obviously not going to get anything out of it yourself.


If we could discuss the topic without misogynistic terms like biotches, you might make more headway getting women to see your side of the issue. As long as you can't refrain from calling women who behave in ways you personally don't like (I agree that what they are doing is flaky, no one would like it, women don't like other women who lie about doing something important when they're really doing things with people who are more important to them but don't have the guts to tell the truth about it) vulgar names, your points are forever invalid.

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I'm hyper-sexual. A lot of women with a sex drive that revels mine, are usually polygamous. That's not what I'm looking for.


Okay I don't want to knee-jerk my response to this, but I need to ask: are you yourself polygamous, and you think that's okay for you but not for women you spend time with? Or are you looking for one hyper-sexual woman who will have a committed, mutually exclusive relationship with you?

Because if you're hyper-sexual and polygamous, you have no right to insist or even expect that the hyper-sexual women you sleep with remain exclusive to you while you get to bang any/all of them.


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09 Mar 2016, 2:16 am

I had to google the word biotche,

It made me think of brioche for some reason.

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09 Mar 2016, 3:35 am

LyraLuthTinu wrote:
AR15000 wrote:
CommanderKeen wrote:
LKL wrote:
If you're whining that a woman is your friend and you think that she's a b***h for not having sex with you, then you don't even deserve to be her friend.

Can't wait for this social justice bs to end. So what is a man supposed to do if he likes a woman? Seriously. A lot of times females will just lead guys on, but I guess that's the guy's fault. I'm luckily enough to know when this occurs, other members here are not. This is especially stupid to tell men who have aspergers. Sh*t like this makes men who aren't emotionally stable feel bad about themselves for spending time with women in the hopes of being with them, romantically and NOT just sex.


OK I know what you're asking is a rhetorical question but srsly, here's what you do:

If you like a woman but she's leading you on, ghost her. That's the thing to do when someone turns you down, says "let's just be friends" but doesn't act like an actual friend and plays these games.

I've found the best way to deal with mixed messages is to disengage. Do not reward these biotches with attention when you're obviously not going to get anything out of it yourself.


If we could discuss the topic without misogynistic terms like biotches, you might make more headway getting women to see your side of the issue. As long as you can't refrain from calling women who behave in ways you personally don't like (I agree that what they are doing is flaky, no one would like it, women don't like other women who lie about doing something important when they're really doing things with people who are more important to them but don't have the guts to tell the truth about it) vulgar names, your points are forever invalid.

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I'm hyper-sexual. A lot of women with a sex drive that revels mine, are usually polygamous. That's not what I'm looking for.


Okay I don't want to knee-jerk my response to this, but I need to ask: are you yourself polygamous, and you think that's okay for you but not for women you spend time with? Or are you looking for one hyper-sexual woman who will have a committed, mutually exclusive relationship with you?

Because if you're hyper-sexual and polygamous, you have no right to insist or even expect that the hyper-sexual women you sleep with remain exclusive to you while you get to bang any/all of them.


Casually referring to *all* women as b*tches/biotches is definitely misogynist. But that's not what I did here. And furthermore, biotch is generally a milder form of "b*tch". If you behave in an obnoxious, misleading fashion than you're being a biotch no matter what your gender. So get off your PC high horse or your points are invalid.


CommanderKeen did NOT say that he is non-monogamous and then criticize women for doing the same thing! He said that he's hypersexual but not poly but that most women with sex drives as strong as his are poly. I have noticed this too.



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09 Mar 2016, 5:26 am

LyraLuthTinu wrote:
AR15000 wrote:
CommanderKeen wrote:
LKL wrote:
If you're whining that a woman is your friend and you think that she's a b***h for not having sex with you, then you don't even deserve to be her friend.

Can't wait for this social justice bs to end. So what is a man supposed to do if he likes a woman? Seriously. A lot of times females will just lead guys on, but I guess that's the guy's fault. I'm luckily enough to know when this occurs, other members here are not. This is especially stupid to tell men who have aspergers. Sh*t like this makes men who aren't emotionally stable feel bad about themselves for spending time with women in the hopes of being with them, romantically and NOT just sex.


OK I know what you're asking is a rhetorical question but srsly, here's what you do:

If you like a woman but she's leading you on, ghost her. That's the thing to do when someone turns you down, says "let's just be friends" but doesn't act like an actual friend and plays these games.

I've found the best way to deal with mixed messages is to disengage. Do not reward these biotches with attention when you're obviously not going to get anything out of it yourself.


If we could discuss the topic without misogynistic terms like biotches, you might make more headway getting women to see your side of the issue. As long as you can't refrain from calling women who behave in ways you personally don't like (I agree that what they are doing is flaky, no one would like it, women don't like other women who lie about doing something important when they're really doing things with people who are more important to them but don't have the guts to tell the truth about it) vulgar names, your points are forever invalid.

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I'm hyper-sexual. A lot of women with a sex drive that revels mine, are usually polygamous. That's not what I'm looking for.


Okay I don't want to knee-jerk my response to this, but I need to ask: are you yourself polygamous, and you think that's okay for you but not for women you spend time with? Or are you looking for one hyper-sexual woman who will have a committed, mutually exclusive relationship with you?

Because if you're hyper-sexual and polygamous, you have no right to insist or even expect that the hyper-sexual women you sleep with remain exclusive to you while you get to bang any/all of them.

I'm monogamous, in fact I feel guilty trying to talk to more than one woman, even when it's just getting to know them on dating sites; even before the first date.



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12 Mar 2016, 1:32 am

AR15000 wrote:
CommanderKeen wrote:
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If you're whining that a woman is your friend and you think that she's a b***h for not having sex with you, then you don't even deserve to be her friend.

Can't wait for this social justice bs to end. So what is a man supposed to do if he likes a woman? Seriously. A lot of times females will just lead guys on, but I guess that's the guy's fault. I'm luckily enough to know when this occurs, other members here are not. This is especially stupid to tell men who have aspergers. Sh*t like this makes men who aren't emotionally stable feel bad about themselves for spending time with women in the hopes of being with them, romantically and NOT just sex.


OK I know what you're asking is a rhetorical question but srsly, here's what you do:

If you like a woman but she's leading you on, ghost her. That's the thing to do when someone turns you down, says "let's just be friends" but doesn't act like an actual friend and plays these games.

I've found the best way to deal with mixed messages is to disengage. Do not reward these biotches with attention when you're obviously not going to get anything out of it yourself.


Seriously, if *anyone* is doing that, disengage. Why would you carry a torch for someone who's as manipulative as you're describing?