any women here who have never dated, never had a boyfriend?

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for the sake of clarity: what does "fa" mean?

Personally, having lots of meaningless dates and relationships made me feel a lot better about myself. For a few years I made no real effort to go on any dates as I felt like, "Been there, done that."

I **always** approached the men. I never had the mindset that the men were the ones to ask. I actually prefer to approach. Oddly enough a lot of the men I've met picked up on this.

And I used dating sites. I was WAY more successful this way.

I also looked up people I used to know, or know of, and still do. This has got me into a few relationships and some dates. You have to be careful with this though, as some men find it very flattering, and others get kinda nervous. There's also the consideration that the past often belongs in the past.

I get clothes to make me look and feel great, not all the time, but sometimes dressing up a bit and just going out makes everyone notice - the women too. I have this combination of this black and white giant collar and black silky robe, that when I wear them, women around me look at me curiously, and I get comments on how great it looks. I remember dressing up in bright orange clothes (they were pretty) and this man when he saw me went, "Wow". Bear in mind you'll sometimes get negative comments, but that goes with the territory of dressing up to stand out.

Also, I've noticed from different online articles that they say with green eyes the colour purple goes with them. I disagree - green eyes really stand out if you wear a deep blue. For some reason brown brings out my eye colour too. I've said it lots of times in WP, that trying out all sorts of different clothes gives you a boost and bright or different enough clothes makes others notice.

You don't have to spend a lot, some of the best clothes I've had were second-hand. It's about learning how to combine everything.

Long hair that isn't tied up is a must too. Lots of men love long hair. And, I get a lot more positivity and attention in pretty dresses or skirts too. Don't wear trousers. And no short skirts because they attract the wrong attention.

I was only approached ONCE by a woman for a date.

She was 16, and I was 17. And she wanted to convert me to Christianity.

She wanted to buy me ice cream.

We never had sex; but her mother thought I made her pregnant because we took a bath together once. I didn't even climax there.

I don't hang out in non-progressive circles, necessarily....but I've rarely heard of women blatantly approaching guys in the way that guys usually approach women for dates.

Women can be assertive in this field of endeavor---but they are usually subtle in expressing that assertiveness.

to be honest the whole concept of "dating" (going out with strangers or people you don't know very well, with the explicit purpose of getting to know each other and see if there's compatibility for a romantic relationship) seems alien to me. afaik, people in my country rarely go out alone with someone they're not in a relationship with already, and usually the reason why they go out with anyone (usually in groups) is because they find it enjoyable (which is why i don't do it. because i don't find it enjoyable)

culturally speaking i don't see anything abnormal about women approaching men instead of the other way around. as far as i can tell, it's just not as common

And umm...being shy and submissive with less eye contact is perfectly OK. You kinda look down and go shy, and can't think of anything to say, then the man wraps his arm around you and you cuddle.

You really have a way with men, Smudge. You do all the right things.

Women have done similar things with me....but never before we were actually "seeing each other."