Anyone terrified of being alone for the rest of their life?

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My scrawny little ankle bone never got me me anywhere before. ....

he is my evil twin.

i'd rather be alone than have to live with somebody who insisted on turning the heat up to 85F.

After reading this thread, as an NT, i feel compelled to make a distinction between NT loneliness and ASD loneliness...NTs, especially extroverts, may be surrounded by people and still feel lonely...NTs frequently spend time with immediate family, extended family, close friends, classmates, co-workers, etc...Yet, at the end of the day, if nobody is waiting for he or she at home, he or she may feel lonely....

Someone may even be the life of the party...And still, he or she may feel empty inside, like a huge void inside for not having a partner...Imagine a popular NT who gets invited to wedding after wedding after wedding for decades, but cannot find a suitable partner for himself or herself...If this situation prolongs for decades, it can be quite painful...I dare say this can affect one's health--physically, emotionally, and otherwise...

On the other hand, it is also true that been in a relationship does NOT guarantees a sense of belonging, reciprocity, nor emotional connection...When such is lacking in the relationship, how much more is the loneliness...Those who find themselves in an unfulfilling or even destructive relationship wish for a way-out, understandably so...

By stating the above, i don't mean to undermine the painfulness of ASD loneliness due to a lack of understanding by his or her partner--if he or she has a partner...I guess what i am trying to say here is that loneliness is a universal experience whether we are NT or ASD...

Having been single for decades, i can assure you that one may be alone yet not lonely when one makes an effort to cultivate close relationships with family and friends...So, in my view, regardless of marital status, we should all focus on cultivating close relationships to counteract any feelings of loneliness...Best wishes to you all...

I'm an aspie and I completely relate to this. I can't see a difference between this and aspie loneliness other than, as icemenace mentioned, it is more difficult for us to make friends.

I read a thing on Twitter recently that said it could be more lonely for men because we women talk feelings with our female friends, so get some understanding and care, even if it's not romantic care.

However, men don't talk feelings with their friends. They have that place reserved for the woman in their life. No woman and they feel like they have no one to share the softer, more personal things with.

Whereas I can't see how I could get that understanding from a man, so don't see why I need to strive for one when all they do us hurt me and let me down. Whatever dream I had is now dead.

Now I have had some good male friends I could talk real stuff with, but they distance themselves when they get into relationships because "you only do that kind of talk with your female partner", they think, and they have one now do don't need me.

I'm disposable.

Most friendships are temporary hurtloam; especially the male-female friendships.

“Outings with a bunch of friends” is a phase that most people leave behind when they get engaged or married. At most they do couples outings.

We’re supposed to be in the marriage phase at our age; hence why we’re sensing this now.

I have a female lesbian friend I’ve known since before many people here were born.