Why are men threatened by a high body count compared to..?

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It's also worth noting that man wasn't as strictly gendered and that wer/were and wereman were used to refer to males. Wergild was the compensation owed after a murder, for example.

I said everything he does has a potential to be arousing.
It could be arousing. That doesn't mean it is.
All women are different and their sensory system is different.

It depends if he's able to arouse her mind when he does whatever he does.
It's kind of an attitude thing, or an imagination thing.
The same is true for woman-woman sex.

People seem hung up on thinking they can only stimulate women by doing XYZ physically.
They tend to focus too much on obvious places.

In my opinion the game is more mental than physical.
I can't speak for all women, though.
Likewise I have no idea why some women fake orgasms.
I'm not some women.

That makes sense. Well one thing that may be selfish is when my women friends tell me that a guy 'orgasmed too fast and he couldn't help it'... But could he really not help it, or did he likely not bother to hold off at all because he was selfish I wonder.

I prefer it that way. ^
That doesn't mean it's over.

Oh why do you prefer it that way out of curiosity?

Because ... it feels good?
It smells good?
It tastes good?
It creates a great sensation.

I love the look on his face.
I love everything about it.

It relates back to "I want you to want me", which is mentally arousing.

I know I'm doing something they like.
That's empowering and sexy. ^
It's like a confidence booster.

It's fun to build him up again too.

That makes sense, and those are good points . But if he is being selfish, and is it in for only his own pleasure, does that bother you at all, or no?

I still don't understand what you mean by that.
I don't want to name sexual things or be graphic about it, but what is "selfish" ?

Maybe their selfish thing that they like involves stimulating you?
Even if it isn't, our bodies have sensory nerves all over.
They aren't just in one or two spots.

PIV sex can be considered "selfish" for a man.
Why can't PIV be arousing for his partner, either physically or mentally?
Same with oral.
Same with anything.

I don't really get it.

Quickies? I love them -- if that's what you're after.

Oh I guess I mean sometimes women say all the guy does it is hump then and that's it, no effort to pleasure her further, if that helps?

Why would she be with him, then?

Well you said it yourself that the guy just doing that even in a quickie is hot, so you tell me?

You're referring to women who don't like quickies.
Why would they stay with that person, if they don't like it?
If it happens once or twice and they're not into it, they need to cut and run.

Quickies don't have to be selfish for men though.
Just so you know.

That makes sense. Good points .

I've had too much whiskey - lmao.
It's pretty rare for me to talk about sex on here.
I best shut up now before I embarrass myself or my partner.

Yeah perhaps, i don't nessisarily disagree that a woman could assume a guy who has had more sex partners may be like good at sex. But just pointing out a high body count does not mean that for certain. I mean a guy with a high body count could end up being the source of multiple complaints from women who hook up saying how the sex wasn
't really that good on reddit.

LIke I just get the impression not all guys with a high body count are actually good at sex, maybe they are better at getting a one night stand but that doesn't mean they actually took care to make sure the woman got the same amount of pleasure they did during it. But I admit I was always looking for a boyfriend, but ended up in hook up situations but I thought having the sex might end up turning into something longer term(which was kind of naive). LIke I did not realize it would be best to be upfront I want a boyfriend girlfriend relationship and am not interested in anything else. But I was naive and just assumed like having sex with a guy would make them consider being a longer term partner. No turns out I should have always stuck to I want a boyfriend to have sex with, not I'll have sex with a guy hoping they will be my boyfriend.

But yeah so in my experience I got so much unsatisfying sex, I figured I was asexual...turns out tons of hook up oriented guys aren't actually 'great' at sex, they are great at get themself off with a woman but not nessisarily ensuring the woman also gets her orgasm. Like a guy may have a high body count, but does he give the stats on how many women were actually satisfied or not by a one night stand with them.

well done Isabella