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24 Mar 2023, 7:23 pm

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I'm pretty sure I saw a member post (deleted now) here calling out a behaviour that they were doing themselves by calling out the behaviour - that's some Red Flag inception s**t :lol:

It's very strange. I'm starting to feel like I'm in an exceptionally bizarre episode of The Twilight Zone. :lol:

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24 Mar 2023, 7:25 pm

Histrionic people.

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24 Mar 2023, 7:38 pm

• When someone 'profiles' me based on my actions and appearance, and then uses the 'profile' to justify treating me like crap.

"You stupid ret*d . . . Imma talk to you r e a l s l o w l y f r o m n o w on . . ."

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24 Mar 2023, 7:53 pm

^ I know the feeling. People sometimes mistake my timidity for stupidity. It's frustrating.

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25 Mar 2023, 12:34 am

When someone has conflicting opinions of me but they only apply negative aspects to me. Like they assume I'm too ret*d for them to consider what I say & take me seriously but when I screw up somehow they believe that I'm smart enough to know better & I must of screwed up on purpose because I want to be difficult.

When someone does not consider my advice but regularly expects me to help them out or listen to them rant about a situation that woulda been avoided if they had taken my advice.

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25 Mar 2023, 1:10 am

nick007 wrote:

^ So much these.

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25 Mar 2023, 9:45 am

I just read a really good article on neuroinstincts.com, about the red flags of psychopathy in relationships.

I'm not sure how to quote a whole article but here's a link:

16 Red Flags of Psychopathy

"16 Red Flags You Could Be Dating a Psychopath" ^
by Rhonda Freeman, PhD (2015 - Updated 2020)

Some of the key points are explained in this video:

Background: Partner turns from love-bomber to be argumentative / causes drama

1. Obsession with winning all arguments or conversations / mate is "less than"
2. Keeps big secrets about their life or their behaviour by conning or manipulating
3. No accountability for their behaviour or mistakes -- blame-shifts, lies, cons
4. Hypersensitive about self -- lack of empathy or forethought, will retaliate and punish
5. Poor morality -- cheats on spouse, etc., can be sexist, transphobic, racist, etc.
6. You find yourself teaching them how to be a kind person -- but it doesn't work

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25 Mar 2023, 9:51 am

^ Wow! That’s fascinating!

I’ve seen most of those in action.

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25 Mar 2023, 10:00 am

"These are not things we need to do if the person is over the age of, say ... seven .... "

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25 Mar 2023, 10:09 am

IsabellaLinton wrote:

Background: Partner turns from love-bomber to be argumentative / causes drama

1. Obsession with winning all arguments or conversations / mate is "less than"
2. Keeps big secrets about their life or their behaviour by conning or manipulating
3. No accountability for their behaviour or mistakes -- blame-shifts, lies, cons
4. Hypersensitive about self -- lack of empathy or forethought, will retaliate and punish
5. Poor morality -- cheats on spouse, etc., can be sexist, transphobic, racist, etc.
6. You find yourself teaching them how to be a kind person -- but it doesn't work

Creepy indeed..

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25 Mar 2023, 10:38 am

- expects you to dress up and wear makeup for them every.damn.day.

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25 Mar 2023, 11:21 am

When someone speaks in 1st person using the word "we", when clearly they are not referring to you and themselves; as I've had this experience several times

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25 Mar 2023, 11:35 am

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When someone speaks in 1st person using the word "we", when clearly they are not referring to you and themselves; as I've had this experience several times

Was her name Victoria?

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25 Mar 2023, 11:36 am

No.. as I can't remember the name of this person, as this was several years ago..

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25 Mar 2023, 11:40 am

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No.. as I can't remember the name of this person, as this was several years ago..

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25 Mar 2023, 11:50 am

I was not being sarcastic in my original post sir.

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