Reasons women do not date us!

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In a way. It’s not so much that you’d run out of chances because there are a lot of women in the world, but it could make it very difficult.

It depends on how shy and awkward you are. If you are too shy to talk to women, it would probably be extremely difficult/unlikely to have a relationship with one.

You can certainly reduce your chances of being with members of the opposite sex by not being approachable enough to get things rolling in terms of any romantic things that may or may not happen.

It's worse if you are not getting many offers in the first place, or are having your own offers rejected. Squandering those little tidbits of dating opportunity...

Last time I kissed a woman properly was back in 2018. In fact during my entire life so far I think I have only ever kissed 5 girls at most.

Being a man is like playing life on hard mode unfourtantly

Being a woman is hard too. Being any gender is hard.

I only kissed two men in my life.

When I was younger, I struggled with shyness/selective mutism to an extreme extent. I couldn’t have a relationship until I worked on that somewhat although I had a couple awful attempts at dating which went nowhere. I’m still shy, but I can talk to people now which is good.

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You need to be capitalising on those opportunities when you get them Jamesy.

Those 5 women who you kissed could have also been something more if you played your cards right I'm sure, unless they were already taken in a relationship of some sort.

Some women find awkwardness and shyness charming. You might just have to wait for the right woman to cross your path.

But in the meantime you can work on it. For instance you could prepare some stock phrases that you use whenever a woman approaches you, so you won't have to think one up on the spot.

There isn't a finite number of chances. I just met a new boyfriend a few months ago and I am 60.

When I was 18 my brother said to me “You will never kiss a girl because you have got an unattractive body”

This Scottish girl I kissed 10 years ago in 2014 she was single at the time. The girl I kissed in 2018 was single but I was not that interested in her/did not really know how to act on that oppurtunity.

Why were you kissing someone you were not interested in?

If you can kiss someone you weren't interested in (not interested in terms of a relationship, for example), perhaps you could also have casual sex with that person? Just a thought!

The best thing you can do if you are socially awkward is probably to get a woman's number on a night out and try to have her promise to call you or at least reply to any message you might send. Tell her you really like her, give her a few compliments and she might be interested enough to follow your offer up.

P.S, I am not advocating being disingenuous or anything. Try to be a good boy and only tell a woman you like them if you actually do. Not just to sleep with them. You don't sound like you have reached that level of moral ineptitude yet, at least.

Kissed girls in my life sure but I have yet to lose my virginity

Well she kissed me first and I just went along with it to be nice.


She was black as well and don’t mean to sound terrible but I have never really had a crush on an African woman.

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Well, this is what I was trying to get you to think about.

You aren't getting any younger. I don't mean that in a bad way or anything, but you don't want to be a 40 year old virgin do you?

Well at this rate being a 40 year old virgin is inevitable unless I grow some balls.

Oh right.

I find black women attractive personally, but everyone is different.

I have a black ex.

Well, it's not about growing balls, that sounds like a bit of a pressure tactic from your peers by the sounds of it. I would say in your case you just need a wing-man when you are out or something like that maybe to give you some confidence.