Why do girls want cocky, arrogant guys?

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Wow, I'm a stereotype! A girl who was into cocky guys to figure out what makes them tick.

The thrill was good. And the (insecure but nonetheless) knowledge that if I could snag that kind of guy, I must be his equal. After all, look at what he can do, he actually has a social life (gasp!), he knows how to manipulate people well enough to land a good job, and some of those wits are born from genuine intelligence. I figured all the other girls must be afraid of him.

I still see the appeal of such guys. I think I'd be bored stiff with a "nice" guy - couldn't be myself for fear of hurting him - I like a good dose of wildness. But at the same time, I'm through with pandering to arrogant a**holes. This is why I'm bowing out of the whole relationship game entirely.

But yeah - I can see where the "girls like cocky guys" stereotype comes from. Some girls do.

You have to look at as a matter of interest and entertainment. Why would someone want to hang out with a guy who played video games, read books, etc. When they could be hanging out with someone whose life is an adventure. The other day I was hangin out with a guy that i am in band with and he almost got in a fight with another guy for pretty much no reason. But it was pretty exciting just to be there, I could see how a young woman would be attracted to a guy like that because things are actually happening. Then if you factor in good looks and a sizeable "whimly davie" you got yourself a formula for a good time. PLus, the more that person acts like they don't care about a girl the more the girl wants them to care, and the more they cherish what little affection they do get from them. DUH!! Also, think about what it is to be "manly" in most cultures. girly girls want manly men.

PS

on commitment
women don't really want the type of guy that can commit, because they think/know that if a man has "mad ability/charm/money etc." then they will be sleeping with as many women as possible. What they want to do is find the man who is getting all the ladies, and then get that person to commit to them. This of course rarely happens. Cheating shows women that you could have other women if you wanted to. Women like to know that other women want their man. That makes him seem MORE DESIRABLE.
I am of course speaking in generalities, most thinking women like guys that think, but still most would probably like to end up with a "stud" that thinks.

i actually like hanging out with guys who game cause it gives us something to do. aaaaand when you're gaming, you dont have to come up with topics of conversation! lol

*edit* but yeah i think your post gets it right, the sense of adventure is attractive. never know what's going to happen.

Do you have long hair, Malcolm?

There was a boy at school who is really popular, I suppose he's quite attractive looks-wise, but even if he was begging at my feet I don't think I would go out with him, he's cocky and childish, but on the other-hand he's not particularly nasty to me (comparitiley), but still he's just so childish that I don't find him at all attractive.

I would want:

- Eccentric, not in an obsessive way (I'm obsessive but I don't think I could take anyone obsessive like me), but in a shout-it-from-the-rooftops-wearing-a-flourecent-waistcoat type way. Mainly because he would be more interesting and less likely to have a problem with my strange behaviour.

- Not be too popular, I wouldn't want a man with a bunch of people hanging round him all the time. In fact ideally I would love it if he was a social out-sider like me.

- Protective, not in a suspicous way but in a worring about how am I feeling kind of way.

- Patient, well you need to be with someone like me who sometimes sits on the toilet for half an hour due to becoming accidently facinated with the pattern on the floor and loses all sense of time. Plus I'm liable to obsess and repeat things over and over again and I can't remember instructions properly.

- Love me, love my parrot/s.

- Not mind the fact that I rarely compromise or forgive, they are my two main faults.

- Pay me a lot of attention, I would like a lap-dog man.

- Not be worried if I don't want to have sex with him. Ideally I would like to wait until marriage.

why do girls want cocky guys?

because they're peckish?

Don't say that! Let me live in my fantasy world where I have hope!

Normal girls like normal immature guys, I've been told, because they're "badasses". Sadly, these are the kinds of guys I think end up beating women or cheating.

Sorry to dissapoint you both but I'm only 14 (well I will be on the 26th this month) and I live in Britain. (Sorry but I have to say I found that hilarious).