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18 Oct 2010, 4:31 pm

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But i would be abandoning everyone that ever cared about me. Nobody out in the real world gives two s**ts about me. So of course they're going to try and use and abuse me...

As for my ex, she also went to college locally, but then she found some guy at her college. While I don't have any problem with that, there is unfortunately a lack of women at my college (the only other place where I feel even remotely safe) that pretty much shuts down any chances i have here...

how the heck do you know if anybody cares about you if you don't get out and give them a chance? you really, honestly, have no idea whether people would treat you well (at another church or town) or not. you are prejudging them based on unfair criteria.

your family would not be 'abandoned' by you - they would probably support your decision if you left. it's your decision, but just don't expect anything to change (and don't expect any sympathy) if you don't take significant action to change your situation.


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19 Oct 2010, 1:08 am

ToadOfSteel wrote:
But i would be abandoning everyone that ever cared about me. Nobody out in the real world gives two s**ts about me. So of course they're going to try and use and abuse me...

As for my ex, she also went to college locally, but then she found some guy at her college. While I don't have any problem with that, there is unfortunately a lack of women at my college (the only other place where I feel even remotely safe) that pretty much shuts down any chances i have here...


Your problem is that you care about them when they don't reciprocate. If they don't reciprocate then they are of no use...



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23 Oct 2010, 12:49 am

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Finally, in December '08 - at the age of 35 - I had my first relationship. What a sick joke. it cannot be nearly as good as young love, and I know it. I hope those so-called "friends" who never introduced me to anyone who'd be a potential match, and who flaunted their happy couplings in my face, are satisfied with the damage they have done.


Just don't relegate having a relationship at all to being some "sick joke" just because you didn't get everything you wanted when you wanted it. That's the kind of garbage my 3-year old would whine about.


AngelRho: I don't think it's a case of selfishness, but rather because it has come so late, the relationship comes with a very bitter after-taste. He feels unable to share his joy with people because it isn't "new" for them in the way that it was when they were 15, and the dynamic of his actual relationship is unbalanced because effictively he is approaching it like a teenager would, while she is not. In such a situation, I can quite imagine his bitterness and sense of being 'cheated'.



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23 Oct 2010, 1:34 am

RICKY5 wrote:
ToadOfSteel wrote:
But i would be abandoning everyone that ever cared about me. Nobody out in the real world gives two s**ts about me. So of course they're going to try and use and abuse me...

As for my ex, she also went to college locally, but then she found some guy at her college. While I don't have any problem with that, there is unfortunately a lack of women at my college (the only other place where I feel even remotely safe) that pretty much shuts down any chances i have here...


Your problem is that you care about them when they don't reciprocate. If they don't reciprocate then they are of no use...


I suppose you're one of those guys that reciprocates when given the chance eh?

You're really full of it.


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23 Oct 2010, 10:05 am

CrinklyCrustacean wrote:
AngelRho wrote:
BPalmer wrote:
Finally, in December '08 - at the age of 35 - I had my first relationship. What a sick joke. it cannot be nearly as good as young love, and I know it. I hope those so-called "friends" who never introduced me to anyone who'd be a potential match, and who flaunted their happy couplings in my face, are satisfied with the damage they have done.


Just don't relegate having a relationship at all to being some "sick joke" just because you didn't get everything you wanted when you wanted it. That's the kind of garbage my 3-year old would whine about.


AngelRho: I don't think it's a case of selfishness, but rather because it has come so late, the relationship comes with a very bitter after-taste. He feels unable to share his joy with people because it isn't "new" for them in the way that it was when they were 15, and the dynamic of his actual relationship is unbalanced because effictively he is approaching it like a teenager would, while she is not. In such a situation, I can quite imagine his bitterness and sense of being 'cheated'.

i think that has more to do with a person's attitude than their age when they are dating. i've seen lots of people get all romantic and tickled pink and optimistic when they find love, even if they are senior citizens. if a person wants to be truly open to finding love, then maybe the walls need to come down a bit.


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23 Oct 2010, 10:10 am

hyperlexian wrote:
i think that has more to do with a person's attitude than their age when they are dating. i've seen lots of people get all romantic and tickled pink and optimistic when they find love, even if they are senior citizens. if a person wants to be truly open to finding love, then maybe the walls need to come down a bit.

I guess attitude has something to do with it, to some extent. If you're caused hurt for years on end, it can affect your attitude. That's not to say it's impossible to change, but it does make it much harder to. At least AngelRho is understanding about it (if no-one else). Would trying to change my outlook make much of a difference? I suspect I'd still be misrepresented as some sort of negative misogynist, no matter what I did or said.



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23 Oct 2010, 10:10 am

I agree. Why would young love be better? Because you can go home to peoples bitching parents who have you under their control? I know its NOT better, because any type of relationship you have is what YOU make of it, not how old you are.

Grass is always greener syndrome.

Get over it.



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23 Oct 2010, 10:16 am

hale_bopp wrote:
I agree. Why would young love be better? Because you can go home to peoples bitching parents who have you under their control? I know its NOT better, because any type of relationship you have is what YOU make of it, not how old you are.

Grass is always greener syndrome.

Get over it.


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23 Oct 2010, 10:26 am

BPalmer wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
i think that has more to do with a person's attitude than their age when they are dating. i've seen lots of people get all romantic and tickled pink and optimistic when they find love, even if they are senior citizens. if a person wants to be truly open to finding love, then maybe the walls need to come down a bit.

I guess attitude has something to do with it, to some extent. If you're caused hurt for years on end, it can affect your attitude. That's not to say it's impossible to change, but it does make it much harder to. At least AngelRho is understanding about it (if no-one else). Would trying to change my outlook make much of a difference? I suspect I'd still be misrepresented as some sort of negative misogynist, no matter what I did or said.

i get what you're saying here, i think. people on WP and friends or family would probably judge you still... but IRL, whatever woman you meet for the first time has no preconceptions about you regarding misogyny or anything. you are a blank slate.


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25 Oct 2010, 1:17 am

Asp-Z wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
I agree. Why would young love be better? Because you can go home to peoples bitching parents who have you under their control? I know its NOT better, because any type of relationship you have is what YOU make of it, not how old you are.

Grass is always greener syndrome.

Get over it.


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We romantize young love because love is easy when you're young. As you get older, it gets beaten out of you if you have enough failures.



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27 Oct 2010, 10:59 pm

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Plus one and then some.
Those women bashing threads are tiresome and exhausting and depressing too.


Couldn't agree with you more!


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