Men of the Forum: you need a hobby

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So stop complaining, goddammit. Why is it so hard to understand?

Tim Tex from how much you evolved, I don't think you are part of the problem (and I don't think you ever really were). You may have been niave at first, but I think you are much more adult now than you were awhile back. You have always been receptive to advice, and never really sexist, just maybe a little niave. Adult relationships are complicated and filled with nuance, and honestly you have a good attitude right now. I don't think this thread was directed at you. There has been a heavy amount of sexism that has been going on that has taken away from folks who are looking for legitimate input and use the forums to grow as people.

There's just so much white noise on this forum and IMO, I don't think I've evolved here as far as my few points or my maturity level goes... yet.

You know, we're going to see a thread almost exactly like this again in a week or two.

And tomorrow there'll be another thread or three by some guys who wants to make ignorant generalizations about woman.

It's the circccle of liiiiife

I hope you were really singing the circle of life.

I've noticed two overriding bits of advice here. One is to stop being resentful towards women. The other is to get a new hobby, or go out and meet new people. I suspect many here are thinking of different people with the former piece of advice than with the latter.

Many of the men of this forum have something peculiar about them, but what that is exactly tends to differ: some ask too much of their hypothetical partner, some are narrow in their interests to the detriment of their social lives, some are overtly hostile towards women (or at least the women in their area), some are apparently depressed. Since we all supposedly have some condition in common, and many attribute that to the cause of their misfortune with women, I've tried to see if I could relate to the problems many men in L&D have but most of the time I can't. I might be peculiar in some other way that I don't really notice.

Just because other people may have had it worse, does not meant those issues have no significance for him. Toad has every right to post about his issues here.

Are you going to attack Tim_Tex as well now? Yes, he's made progress but it's probably due to a number of factors rather than just taking advice from people here. I recall some that people used to attack him as well over "not taking peoples' advice like Toad is being attacked now. If someone doesn't make progress fast enough according to your criteria, it doesn't mean they are ignoring the advice from this forum.

Why not?

This thread is called "Men of the Forum" and tells us to get lost.

If your going to insult people, at least have the decency to name names.

I'll bet there's like 2 of them, if that.[/quote]


But wouldn't it be a personal attack if he did?

Uh do you mean "adult" as in mature way you know being mature in talking than doing it in a immature way or as in something that belongs in the adult forum?

But wouldn't it be a personal attack if he did?[/quote]

He has already made personal attacks against particular people in this thread. So saying he's not going to name specific people because it could be construed as a personal attack seems hypocritical to me.

I already said why I am not changing the thread title
do you need me to repeat myself?!

I meant it was adult in the fact it was mature, not that it belonged in the adult forum.
Ugly thread, but to be honest, it is needed. The misogyny in this forum is sickening and I am kind of sick and tired of it.

He has already made personal attacks against particular people in this thread. So saying he's not going to name specific people because it could be construed as a personal attack seems hypocritical to me.[/quote]


I have noticed this year everyone has their own views on what is considered a personal attack. Makes it even more confusing for me because I see it as "How to follow those rules if you don't know what be considered as a personal attack." I just have to take risks I guess when I post on forums.

Now I guess making a thread telling people what they are doing wrong is a personal attack? I already knew making a thread that is directed at someone saying their name is a personal attack because it's something to do in PM than having the whole forum read it. I saw that happen once here and I asked if it was okay and tallyman told me it wasn't and he locked it.

If anyone has a problem, it seems they're attacking somebody
I stand by this, I really do-people needed to be confronted by this because it was going unsaid publicly for a long time

I tried to call it out at times, but mostly being ignored. :/