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12 Jan 2011, 2:50 pm

*sigh* why do i get mixed up with crazy people.
he came to our flat today, banging on the door and causing a fuss. D:



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12 Jan 2011, 3:08 pm

emlion wrote:
*sigh* why do i get mixed up with crazy people.
he came to our flat today, banging on the door and causing a fuss. D:


The hell? Looks like you might have to get a restraining order on the guy after all. D:



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12 Jan 2011, 3:10 pm

Erisad wrote:
emlion wrote:
*sigh* why do i get mixed up with crazy people.
he came to our flat today, banging on the door and causing a fuss. D:


The hell? Looks like you might have to get a restraining order on the guy after all. D:


Stefan got mad and punched him. :oops:



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12 Jan 2011, 3:19 pm

emlion wrote:
I guess this would go here.

Basically, my male best friend, got a little drunk last night, called me and told me all this stuff about how he loved me and how we should be together because he knows me more than anyone else.
The problem is, I don't feel the same way & love my boyfriend.

I don't want to have to tell him because they're really good friends too and I just don't want to rock the boat...

What should I do? Should I tell my boyfriend or what?


im sorry to say you should avoid him



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12 Jan 2011, 3:48 pm

emlion wrote:
Erisad wrote:
emlion wrote:
*sigh* why do i get mixed up with crazy people.
he came to our flat today, banging on the door and causing a fuss. D:


The hell? Looks like you might have to get a restraining order on the guy after all. D:


Stefan got mad and punched him. :oops:


Oh my. I'm sad he had to resort to violence but that guy really deserved it. :(



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12 Jan 2011, 4:49 pm

He's more sad. :(
He's looked upset by it all night. :/
But maybe he'll get the message and keep away from me now.



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12 Jan 2011, 5:03 pm

Either way, he's going to be wary of crossing you. :D



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12 Jan 2011, 5:33 pm

Jonsi wrote:
Either way, he's going to be wary of crossing you. :D


I hope so. I miss him even more every time I see him. :/



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12 Jan 2011, 6:59 pm

emlion wrote:
He's more sad. :(
He's looked upset by it all night. :/
But maybe he'll get the message and keep away from me now.


I hope he does. It'll be better for everyone if y'all just kept your paths separate. It sucks but that's life. :(



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12 Jan 2011, 7:05 pm

Erisad wrote:
emlion wrote:
He's more sad. :(
He's looked upset by it all night. :/
But maybe he'll get the message and keep away from me now.


I hope he does. It'll be better for everyone if y'all just kept your paths separate. It sucks but that's life. :(


Yeah. Won't be the first time i've had to keep away from someone like that. :(



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12 Jan 2011, 7:07 pm

emlion, that sucks he came and caused trouble, but it's good Stefan was around. Someone mentioned a restraining order which you do have grounds for, and really isn't a bad idea.

I can understand your missing him. I had to cut off any communication with my brother who is much younger than I am because he's really unstable. I held him when he was a baby and cared for him when he was sick. I really loved him. But now he's dangerous and isn't really in touch with reality. And he's violent. You can keep the memories of the good times you had with him, but you need to step away because what he is is ultimately not good for you.

Maybe it seems forward of me to say this, but it seems like your relationship with him is a symptom of issues that are demanding attention from you. You must be brave and face these problems. If he stays in your life you're only putting yourself at risk and delaying having to deal with it. It will still have to be addressed. Now is your chance to cut out another aspect of the pain you've suffered in the past.

I know, unsolicited advice. I don't usually like getting it myself, so it's yours to ignore or think about. I'm only going out on a limb and giving it because I care about you.



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12 Jan 2011, 7:11 pm

I know I have to cut him out, I do.
It's just painful for now.
But I know it'll get better with time. Things always do.

That's good though - remember the good times, not just the bad ones. I think i'll do that, hold onto our nice memories.

What do you mean by 'your relationship with him is a symptom of issues that are demanding attention from you.'? I read it a few times and I still don't quite see it?



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12 Jan 2011, 7:13 pm

emlion wrote:
Erisad wrote:
emlion wrote:
He's more sad. :(
He's looked upset by it all night. :/
But maybe he'll get the message and keep away from me now.


I hope he does. It'll be better for everyone if y'all just kept your paths separate. It sucks but that's life. :(


Yeah. Won't be the first time i've had to keep away from someone like that. :(


:(



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12 Jan 2011, 7:25 pm

Erisad wrote:
emlion wrote:
Erisad wrote:
emlion wrote:
He's more sad. :(
He's looked upset by it all night. :/
But maybe he'll get the message and keep away from me now.


I hope he does. It'll be better for everyone if y'all just kept your paths separate. It sucks but that's life. :(


Yeah. Won't be the first time i've had to keep away from someone like that. :(


:(

She has Stefan, so she's protected from these people. :)

I also think she'll be a little more wary herself, so it's all good. :D



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12 Jan 2011, 7:30 pm

Jonsi wrote:
Erisad wrote:
emlion wrote:
Erisad wrote:
emlion wrote:
He's more sad. :(
He's looked upset by it all night. :/
But maybe he'll get the message and keep away from me now.


I hope he does. It'll be better for everyone if y'all just kept your paths separate. It sucks but that's life. :(


Yeah. Won't be the first time i've had to keep away from someone like that. :(


:(

She has Stefan, so she's protected from these people. :)

I also think she'll be a little more wary herself, so it's all good. :D


I'm still going to believe that people are basically good. :)
& yes, he's a good protector. :D



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12 Jan 2011, 7:34 pm

I have that too, I've been mostly lucky thus far, but I'm prepared for the worst. I think all people are good at heart, some are just a bit troubled. :)



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