Question for those who don't fit the 'perfect' woman

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I worked with this woman every day. I saw what she had for breakfast, and what she had for lunch, and it wasn't diet-friendly.

She hadn't been trying for years or decades. She'd only been trying for a couple of months. And the stupid thing was, the reason she was fat was because SHE'D JUST HAD A BABY.

Hello? Weight gain is NORMAL under those circumstances.

I asked her if she was planning on having any more, and she said she was. So what was the point of paying to have someone suck the fat out of her if she was planning on having some more kids?

I tried to warn her that it would hurt. We all did. ("we" = all the people in the office). But she seemed determined to believe it was some painless magic wand that would give her a smooth, blemish-free, toned belly as soon as she came round from the anaesthetic. Alas, she was left with a mangled purple bruised mess, and weeks of agony.

I have met several women who make statements like "I've tried every diet but none of them work for me" bla bla. I am not bashing the ones who genuinely have tried. It's just the lypo lady comes to mind, and also another lady. Every time I went round to this other lady's house, she would be snacking on a bowl of french fries and offer me some, and I would say: "em, no thanks, can I have some soup?" and she'd sigh and look at me and complain "you're so slim, how come my diet isn't working?"

LOL

Oh, I see.

I'll never understand why a woman would want to have a large metal needle stuck in her body to suck out the fat. I'll also never understand women in general, but many neurotypical men tell me I'm not the only one.

It's not just women. Men do it, too.

I can't see why people put themselves through surgery for reasons of vanity.

*shudder*

I used to know a woman who worked as an agent to actors in Canada. She said men even got chest implants to enhance their pectoral muslces.

Everything's fake.

Fake hair, teeth, boobs, nails, fat loss, lips, eyelashes, buttocks, noses, chins...and now fake pecs?

What a sick, fake world.

*sigh*

LOL

Frieslander, your laugh sounded somewhat forced.

*screams in horror*

Don't tell me?

It was fake.

Growing up in LA, I got used to everything being fake.

I remember walking around the Kremlin and thinking "how did they make those stones look so old?"

I think I was like 12 before I saw a tree that wasn't planted...

Grisha, have you got some of those fake LA teeth? All straightened and polished and whitened?

They're beautiful, but they're just so...

...fake.

I remember this dentist telling me once that normal teeth colour is the colour of banana. The flesh. Not the skin.

Don't I wish! My teeth are awful, I'll be headed down to Mexico soon to get them "Hasselhoffed"

Are you going to have those fake bits stuck on the top of your real ones, or have them all ripped out and metal screws drilled into your gums?

*draws closer in morbid fascination*

No, I'm not going for "Frankenteeth" - just laser whitening...

People have the right to be self-determining. It's their lives, their bodies. And unless you know what it's like to live in someone else's body 24/7, then you're not really in a position to judge what they do with their body. It's not about what you think about them or whether you understand their reasons; it is about how they feel about themselves. Maybe in some cases, getting cosmetic surgery is a mistake, but that's part of being self-determining--you get to make your own mistakes. And unless you're 100% prefect in all your own life choices and 100% happy with yourself and your life (which would raise the question as to why you're here at WP!), I don't think you really can judge people.

Cosmetic surgery can make a person feel more comfortable with themselves. Some people think that's worth the money and the discomfort. What is it anyone else's concern if they do? Live and let live.

I'm not judging anyone. I'm just having an opinion.

I never said it was wrong. Just said I don't understand how people can do it.

It's a free world. They can do it if they want. I don't want to, that's all.

I was offered corrective surgery for a botched scar following open-heart surgery and, all things considered, I took the blemish rather than the fear and trauma of going back under the knife.

I do not care about my scar. In fact, I like it. It makes me unique. It's not a vanity scar. It's a life-or-death scar. It shows I nearly died, but I'm still here. It's cause for celebration.

What we have both said is opinion, not fact. You're entitled to yours. I'm entitled to mine. "Live and let live" is only good advice if you follow it yourself.

Last edited by all_white on 30 Mar 2011, 11:27 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I am here at WP because I'm autistic.

Why are you here?

Are you here to pick on random people and imply they must have a superiority complex for daring to be happy in their own imperfect skin?

I've already stated I have cellulite, scars, stretch marks, etc., and, yes, I'm happy. With my body. My body's just fine. I'm not quite so happy with my brain.

The mere notion that I could be happy in my imperfect body appears to irk you and get on your nerves. I confess I have no idea what business it is of yours to butt into either my body or my happiness. If you want to go away and give yourself surgery, do. If you want to grumble and be unhappy, fine. It's a free planet. But I'll tell you from experience: surgery hurts. Like you're on fire. Like you'll never be able to ever get up again.

*all_white jumps up and down happily, and strokes her lovely scar*