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Uh huh. There's the issue of distance and with as picky as he has been with the girls on OkCupid, I doubt I make the cut.

i was actually kind of serious.
he likes you, he's not a bad guy - wehey, right?

i don't know, i'm full of crap today.

He says he lives roughly 5 hours from me? I don't know if that's the distance between him and my school or him and my hometown. Either way, that's really far and I don't think it'll work for that reason. Hell, my last bf lived 3 hours from my home and he never got around to visiting me. :/

can't judge all men by that excuse for an ex-boyfriend.

Can I judge by all my exes? My ex before that one didn't visit me for the same reason and my very first bf didn't visit me outside of school activities even though he lived 15 minutes away. So I guess that I'm just not worth the trip.

All my ex boyfriends beat me up. By your logic that's my fault?

That's different. Your exes just had too much testosterone/not enough self control/superiority and/or inferiority complex, etc. They chose to behave that way. Choosing to beat someone up is different from deciding that they'll just "stay in" today. Chances are, they just acted in the heat of anger and didn't even think what they were doing to you. They probably weren't even thinking at all. Violence is usually an emotional response to something. Choosing not to travel somewhere is usually a logical decision. I don't know if this makes any sense or not...

Sounds like an excuse to blame yourself to me...
More like you just ended up with a bunch of jackholes.
It only takes one good one...

You know how only the wealthiest and most successful people can afford the finest clothes? Why would these same people go for the clearance rack if they have the best available to them? I'm a piece of clothing on a clearance rack. Shapeless, unflattering, and not worth that much. Hence why I would be 75% off in the first place. If I was worth it, wouldn't I have been snatched at full price because someone "had to have it"? Basically, I'm only getting looked at by the bottom feeders. I've been bought a few times but always returned in worse shape than I was initially. I could go on with the metaphor but I think you get the idea.

I think its silly to tell someone theyre great when theyre feeling crap and flawed. I don't know anything about erisad but lets face it some of us don't appeal to the NT world. We just need sympathy for how much we suck.

well i happen to believe she doesn't suck.
i'm not going to lie to her.
i think she's awesome - and i'm not going to lie about it to make her feel better.

Sometimes all I need is a coddle or a 100% fool-proof way to prove that I don't suck but that's really hard to do since suckiness is subjective. Sometimes it's really hard to deny that I don't have what men want in a long-term partner. Maybe I should save money for cosmetic surgery to fix this ugly body of mine.

I have never seen a pic of you, but from what emlion said, I'm sure your very beautiful, and a wonderful person. The guys in your past are clearly a$$holes. I've had many women in the past give me the cold shoulder, because I didn't fit what their friends idea of a hot guy was or because I wasn't an bad ass or tough guy. These women are not worth my time, as is these guys are not worth your time. I certainly don't look like Brad Pitt, nor do I aspire to. I look like a nerd, I'm boring, I'm quiet, I have anxiety that keeps me from taking part in new experiences, and going places, and acting like a 26 year old neurotypical male. I'm more comfortable staying home and playing with my electronics or going places that I go all the time, and hanging around my good friends that are more than twice my age (all of my friends are older than I am, some more than twice my age, always been more comfortable around older people). I am not hip, I am not in fashion, I am not cool, and I go to church every Sunday. I am far from the kind of guy that the neurotypical girl would ever want to be seen with. But, I can't please every girl I meet, and that's ok. If it wasn't for the two girlfriends I had being very outgoing and initiating everything, I still would have never had any relationships. And if that were the case, who really cares? Granted, I would have loved to have been close with a girl and I do get lonely, but if I was still a virgin without any serious relationships, so what? You don't have to please anyone but yourself.

If I didn't initiate, I would never have had a boyfriend. I had to make the first move because guys don't want to pursue me, I guess. Psssh, I can't even please myself (take that anyway you want and chances are, you'll be right). I'm irritated that I look this way. I bust my ass to lose weight but I still have a long way to go and I hope I don't peak anytime soon. I've been fat because of medications since I was 10, making me a social pariah back home. I was referred to as a monster on a regular basis because girls aren't supposed to look like me. They're supposed to have clear skin, hourglass figure, a sweet smile, flawless hair and make-up, etc. I deviated from that norm and was shunned for it. It wasn't that I didn't want to be like the other girls, I just couldn't. My genes are flawed and I hate them. >.<

^^ Erisad did the right think I guess,if a girl is not having any success to make guys approach her for decades, then her only choice is to go against the "norm" and do the initiation , that might make her love life a bit better or possibly....far better.

I think that ,like many guys here who lack the inborn skills to approach girls, some AS girls might also lack the inborn skills to make guys approach them.

Nonsense!