Why men are increasingly preferring Video Games over dating

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Because of course the main and only criteria of judging a potential partner is how they look with only 3 categories: hot, average and ugly. Oh no, I forgot, there's also money

In my language "ugly" is the same as "unattractive" or "undesirable partner", so things can fail in translation to english. In my language, that word captures generally all things that make a person an attractive prospect, not just physical looks. I edited the post with the right terms.

Videogames = instant gratification
Dating = not-so-instant-depending-on-the-people-involved gratification.

We're impatient people in general so...yeah. Videogames it is!

My article is a response to the endless barrage of books, columns and shaming hit-pieces aimed at the male gender. Its biased because I'm responding to thousands of female-centric and female-biased pieces... Pieces which take 0.000% effort into understanding men, or figuring men out. They all basically say "men aren't giving women what women want = men evil losers"...

I fully agree with this, but not everybody is so ...brainwashed. It would be a nightmare to live amongst people who take their "wisdom" from innate media drivel.

Your article interested me because my husband loves video games. It never crossed my mind to feel in competition with them In 9 years together we never had one single argument about it and we also like playing together.

The dating experience you describe is quite alien to me - probably different generations and cultural backgrounds and me always being oblivious to how things are "supposed to be done".

As you said, this is probably because you're in the group who never fell under the brainwashing. You were confident enough to resist the media brainwashing that tells girls "unless a man goes out of his way to invest a 100% of his attention into you, then he's a loser, and doesn't really love you".

I said as much to ToadofSteel. Every man who opts out is one man less that you are competing with for womens' attention.

But there is a catch: even if this is real, you can't just sit back and wait for women to come to you. Because there are plenty of men who won't opt out. What they will do instead is sleep with lots of women. There is that other thread about "29 year old man has 21 kids" or whatever the number was. He's an outlier but he should also be a heads up. Woman aren't going to go pounding on doors looking for hidden men. They'll share the ones who don't opt out. So if you still have to put yourself out there.

Personally, I believe women are playing a waiting game. They're waiting to see if men really are serious about this "won't pursue thing". Sure, they're writing more and more "shaming" colums where they proclaim non-pursuers to be losers... But those are really last-ditch attempts before they buckle and start pursuing men themselves.

They're barely restraining themselves from starting to in fact "pound on men's doors". They might whine and whine and write columns about how "men need to pursue", but the reality on the street is very different. Women are noticing that their sisters who do pursue men, are getting better results. They try to shame these women away from pursuing by labelling them as "sl*ts", but its not working.

More and more women ARE pursuing men. More and more women are approaching men, and more and more women are asking out men... In essence, the boycott is working. Women would prefer it didn't, but what you don't get is the following (also following your logic).

- The men who DO pursue, are pursuing the more desirable women, not average or below-average and are less likely to SETTLE
- The average and undesirable women who DO break the traditional role will get better results than women who don't. Any time you notice an unattractive girl with a more desirable guy, interview them and you will find out SHE asked him out, she pursued him and maybe even did a lot of the initiation.
- As more men boycott the pursuing role, more women will figure out their choice is between A) a womanizer they have to share with 30 other women B) asking out a decent guy themselves C) settling for a less desirable man

Right now, its really a game of stubbornness. Which gender will be the more stubborn one and better able to prove they can do without the other.

^^ honestly now, forget what the ladies usually tell you "oh this is not right, you should wait for the guy to talk to you" , didn't your luck in dating became better once you started doing this?